My family member who is a 43 year old woman is currently dating an 18y/o guy and they claim they are in love with eachother. I don't think it's healthy, but at the same time I don't want to rain on their parade. What do you all think - is this real love or is the relationship totally wrong?
2006-09-07 14:11:43 · 9 answers · asked by Rawrrrr 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well on one hand I say "Good for her", but on the other hand I can't help but wonder what an 18yo is doing with a woman more than twice his age. I can think of a number of reasons & most of them aren't good ones. The only good one that I can come up with is that he truly loves her & wants to be with her for all the right reasons. There's only one thing we outsiders can do until they give us a reason to think otherwise is give them the benefit of the doubt, & wish them well.
2006-09-07 14:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a very rare instance for this man and woman to actually be in LOVE. Perhaps in lust or having co-dependency issues. Any 43-year-old woman who needs to go to the teen set to find love has got problems. And that 18-year-old boy would have to be pretty damned mature to be 'in love' at all. These two cannot have much in common and their relationship will likely end in disaster.
I'm sure I'll get people crying about the fact that they are 18 and know what love is. They don't. I didn't when I was that age and thought I did. It takes time to know yourself and you have to in order to really love another person. I really 'liked' people at that age, but love, it was not.
Creepy is all I can say.
2006-09-07 21:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by J B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if they are in love, they're in for a tough relationship. They'll have to go through a lot of crap from other people. It's not likely that they are truly in love and if they are it's really not likely to last because of said hardships. However, I do think you should support them, unless you have some specific and important reason not to. Trust me, they'll need it.
2006-09-07 21:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by esme_wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me it is genuinely possible i am with the man of my dreams and he is 43 and i just turned 19 it can be genuine just because most people dont except it doesnt mean that it is phony give them a chance and let them have their fun it is good for them you know what they say older women make beautiful lovers
2006-09-07 22:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by askingandanswering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is not usual for this to happen, between people of these ages usually don't have much in common, but sometimes people can surprise you. I believe that this is possible.
2006-09-07 21:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by angel_girl2248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible, but not usual. If they are both happy, be happy for them. They are of legal age to do whatever they want.
2006-09-07 21:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm messing around with a married man who is 34 year's older then me.....
2006-09-08 11:37:21 · answer #7 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Makes me wonder if when they are in bed if he calls her "mommy". ewwwwwww
2006-09-07 22:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by asbratcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not is my question, i mean you only live once
2006-09-07 21:16:33 · answer #9 · answered by (l)SR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋