I went out w/ this guy for 6 yrs and we broke up 2 summers ago when we were really close. now a close friend is dating him. i told her i wasnt mad but i didnt tell her my feelings were hurt and i dont want to. WHAT DO I DO????
2006-09-07 14:03:19 · 13 answers · asked by stina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I presume that your ex wants to hurt you, by choosing your own friend!
Just ignore both and be confident.
2006-09-07 15:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lotus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing is to be really honest with your friend. Tell her you're having a hard time with it. And you have to decide if it's something you really can't stand or just something that is gonna take time to get used to. if she doesn't know it's bothering you then the problem is all yours. If she is a good friend then she will break it off if it's not a real feelings involved relationship. On the other hand, if he and she are really falling for each other you can be a good friend too by not getting mad. It will bother you for a while for sure, but eventually you will get used to it. Obviously you two broke up for a reason, you weren't meant to be or for whatever reason you two had. And if it's been two years or so and you have not gotten back together that's a pretty sure sign that it's time to let go. have a good cry over it. Let yourself have a mourning day, then tell yourself to let him go. Easier said than done I know. But you can tell your friend, you should. Don't go places with them together until you are ready. Ask her not to talk about details of their relationship. Just tell her you need some time. If you two really are good friends it will all work out in the end. And maybe the two of them won't end up together, but if they are meant to be together, and your friendship is important to you both, then the two of you girls owe it to each other to do it right.
2006-09-07 14:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would have been told her a thing or two or three even!WTF? I guarantee you she's no friend to do something so shady like that! She new you two had a six yr realtionship but I guess she was dirty enough to go for the leftovers. Cut her loose she's not worth the time of day. (life experience)Tell her exactly how you feel, then wash your hands of her. And as for your ex he's as dirty as she is, they belong together.
2006-09-07 14:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get over it g/f!!! I mean whats more important having a good friend that you have fun with,or drowning in sorrow over something that has been over for two years??? Do you think anyone else is sitting around moping over what you are thinking about it? My point is that you are only hurting yourself,and if you cause trouble over this, you will probably regret it!!! Hang in there with a good attitude,practice wishing them well within yourself,in no time you'll forget all about it,and still have your friend! Afterall it's been two years,she did let your place get cold before she took a seat!!!!! LOL!!!! Hope it all works out!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-07 14:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. He wasn't right for you but it doesn't mean he isn't right for your friend. If he is abusive then I would warn your friend about him. Don't punish your friend or your ex because he didn't pine away for the rest of his life because your relationship ended.
You need to find someone else and look toward the future, not the past.
2006-09-07 14:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're both idiots. Her being your buddy would not provide up them from liking one yet another, regrettably. and that i'd quite be at liberty with someone i like quite than be compelled to take no action because of stupid pals like you. who're you to inform your buddy she will't date your ex and be at liberty. This is going on your ex boyfriend to. bypass date whoever you go with. you're in basic terms going to split and fairly discover someone who isn't valueless a lot later in existence besides.
2016-11-06 21:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to begin this is not a true friend cause your true friends never do that and just try to date other guys and maybe the feeling towards your ex my go away try it
2006-09-07 14:37:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am with a guy going on 6 yrs ...and i think it would be weird ..and hurtfull .. because you ither gonna see her and him togther which can bring back good and bad memories...or you wont see your girl that much ..you never know she could move on with him leaving you behind ..so
if you dont want to deal with that sistuation i would talk to her about it.
2006-09-07 14:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by purpleskunk77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy how sexually and emotionally satisfied the two of them are now, with you out of their picture. Don't even presume to suggest a threesome to include you, unless you want to see both of them laugh until they puke! It's probably just best to stuff yourself with fast food, candy and and battery-operated boyfriend for the remainder of your sad, lonely life.
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2006-09-07 14:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she was truely your friend , this wouldnt be an issue ..
shed have never went for your left overs ..
with your permission or not .
i would NEVER date my friends EX , just because i truely think its wrong .
2006-09-07 14:12:32 · answer #10 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋