I have a crush on this girl at work( which is a fast-food joint). She is very pretty, and hard-working, but she is quiet. Sometimes I'll catch her looking at me. I have no idea what her orientation is.When I'm around her, I can barely speak and I freeze up and ignore her so I won't make a fool out of myself. She works at nights, and I work mornings, and I work with her for a little while before the shift changes. I probably won't approach her, but if I do what's the best way to without offending her or getting her upset if she doesn't go for girls.Also, if I do approach her it will be when I'm about to give my two weeks notice ( I plan on quitting to work from home in a couple months), which would be better since you shouldn't mix business with pleasure and office romances. Advice from anyone would help, but advice from a lesbian who has actually done this will be even better.
2006-09-07 13:44:19 · 13 answers · asked by indrep33 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
yes, I am very openly gay at work. But the girl I have a crush on just started working there about a couple months ago, and i don't know if she knos yet since we really haven't talked and work differemt shift. By the way, co-workers are allowed to date each other at work. Many have dated each other, and two have even moved in together and have a baby. And no one has a problem with me being gay at all, even the owner and managers.
2006-09-07 14:13:48 · update #1
I met my future partner at work. The office supervisor introduced us because I was looking for a friend who liked classical music,Gilbert and Sullivan and gardening.
We went out to shows. shared gardening at weekends, After an evening out we would share a kiss. This became serious and Gwen asked me I we should just be friends or go on as we seemed to be. After 3 years we decided to purchase a house and move in together. My mother said that she had hoped for grand children but "If I really loved Gwenneth, treat her kindly and be happy.
Ah for those years before tragedy.
Dear, ask what she is interested in. You may find a shared joy. I hope so,friends are more than gold.
Love, Rose P.
2006-09-07 16:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by rose p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is so hard since you have never had a long conversation with her before.
I have been in a similar situation, I just made a few observations on other females at the workplace, not negative comments though.
Example: Tisha has a cute figure or Maria looks nice in those pants.
This would however require you to start an actual conversation with her at some point.
Are you openly bi/gay at the workplace?
If so, bring in a female you can be "friendly" with and perhaps even give a little caress or something in front of her. Maybe that will prompt her to ask you If that female was your girlfriend and then you can respond and simply ask her if she goes that way?
(if you are open at work)
I don't envy you at this point but I wish you all the luck sweetie.
2006-09-07 14:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by crystlizm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes...I met this guy at work and I didn't like him at first. We were friends for a year and then things started falling into place. The problem was we were both very unhappily married, he had 2 kids and I had one. We had an affair that lasted 6-8 months, our work found out about it and demoted us both. We were not allowed to have ANY contact at all, that meant at work or even on our personal time. No e-mails, no phone calls, no third party messages. We had to sign documents stating this, or we would lose our jobs (I contacted 3 differents attorneys and they all said the same thing that they could do this to us.) Then we had to show court papers that we were filing for divorce so we could start communicating with each other. 5 months later we were dating, 8 months later we got our positions back, a year later we were married, and now 6 years later we have a great life and a 2-year-old son. I know that your situation is different, but I just wanted to share with you that things could go sideways on you. Hind sight is 20/20....and if I could go back, I would change the way I pursued him and what we did. I think you have a great idea about approaching her when you give your notice, I wish you good luck. And you are right...no one should mix B with P, or have an office romance.
2006-09-07 14:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did, and I told her about it. We ended up seeing each other for a while, but afterwords it was really uncomfortable at work. Plus, the attitudes of some of the people we worked with changed a LOT. I would suggest trying to become friends with her first. Maybe then you can find out if she's even interested in women.
2006-09-07 14:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by BoredAtWork 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i had a crush on a girl who transferred to my department for 3 months, we became friends, and then we got together; she told me she had a crush on me. we started seeing eachother, but kept it a secret from people at work, its a small office only 13 people. it was fine, then her contract finished she had to go back home (she lives interstate) so we broke it off and we are friends now.
i think if she had stayed, and if we had broken up, it would of caused problems in the workplace. i dont think it is a good idea to have an office romance it makes things complicated
2006-09-07 13:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had like two crushes at work since i been married, but it's normal just happens. Here's the thing i don't dwell on the thought of the person, instead i try to ignore and avoid that person. Eventually it will go away.
2006-09-07 13:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by SweetFace>>> 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do right now, and she knows it but she is far too young for me. I also make a habit of not dating co-workers because it gets very sticky if/when the relationship turns sour. So I stick to teasing her and having nasty fantasies about her!
2006-09-07 14:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by Chickyn in a Handbasket 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Blown her a kiss and tell her how your going to make it big now that you have a three hundred dollar credit card. She might just be your vice president of your new global incorporation. Or you could just keep flippin burgers.
2006-09-07 15:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im 13 but i help my mom at her work (shes a waitress) and i normally help in back in the kitchen and i realy like the head chef there. the good thing is shes a lesbian, the bad thing is shes 19
2006-09-07 13:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by jess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dating coworkers is a bad idea! but yes I've had a crush or two...never told them though just kept it nice and simple so I could have some eye candy while I was at work :)
2006-09-07 14:06:33 · answer #10 · answered by JR 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋