I told my friend i was sorry,and i never done it again.i get called names all the time.i feel i have to live with this all my life and this was three years ago.Do you think i deserve this abuse,i get depressed alot
2006-09-07 13:21:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
All depends on what you did. I mean, by most standards you don't deserve the abuse unless you killed her sister or something. I'm guessing it's something a little less illegal and a little more drama-fied though. I'm guessing the relationship is over. You've probably told her time and time again that you're sorry. That doesn't mean she has to forgive you. Try your best to avoid her until you two are both in a place where things are civil. (That's assuming that you two will once again be civil with one another.)
2006-09-07 13:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a really tough question since you haven't said what you did. Terrible can be you lied, you cheated, you stole, all the way up to you murdered. It really depends on the severeity of what was done. Three years is a long time for your friend to hold a grudge. You have to ignore the name calling, don't give this ex-friend any reason to keep up the childish name calling. You gotta move on with life. Meet some new friends or start a friendship with someone you know but aren't close to. As far as the depression, if it's happening quite often, you need to talk to a professional. You can't live this way, and you have for too long now. If this friend is ever going to forgive you and let this go, it may just take more time. Obviously he/she was hurt badly.
I hope you find some peace!
2006-09-07 20:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by Cathy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to give advice without more details, but you certainly don't deserve to be abused. No one does. Nothing you have done could be bad enough. It's time to say goodbye to these friends and find some that will value and appreciate you. In ten years you don't want to look back with regret because you wasted so much time on people who didn't care for you enough to forgive you.
2006-09-07 20:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you admitted your mistake, and asked for forgiveness and received it, you should not have to hear about it the rest of your life. If the "wronged" person cannot get by it and get on with life without being abusive to you, it might be best to move away from the relationship you have with them. Everyone makes mistakes, and in general, depending on the offense, it should not be dwelled upon after being resolved.
It sounds as if you learned from it, but your "friend" didn't.
Best wishes
2006-09-07 20:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever has been done is done and over. learn from it and nevr repeat it again. no matter how bad . . . learnt form it and never let it happen again.
we're all humans and are not perfect. Its good to be feeling bad, shows we realise it.
forive but not forget and move on. pointless to be suffering and tormenting yourself. if friend dont give way...let it be and she's showing her true friendship.
everyone deserves a second chance.
2006-09-07 20:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by superyoyogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no one deserves to have something thrown up in their face after 3 years. It is abuse & you need to get out of this relationship. It is not healthy.
2006-09-07 20:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by smiley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People need to forgive and move on already. As for you, you are just dealing with the consequences of your actions.
2006-09-07 20:24:08 · answer #7 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweet heart, i don't have a clue what you have done to make someone carry a three year old grudge. [?] but whatever it was I would tell her to zip it or shove off
2006-09-07 20:27:08 · answer #8 · answered by veerfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to live with it! You said sorry, you meant it, move on. If they cant, they are not friends, find new ones.
2006-09-07 20:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** THEM YOU DONT NEED THEM.WHAT EVER IT IS YOU DID ITS DONE.maybe you should find a new group like new people to be around that dont know your business
2006-09-07 20:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by toni r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋