My friends and me have always agreed that we shouldn't go out with black guys because most of them are players. But lately my friend Isabelle met this guy and he asked her out, and she said yes. This guy's black, and I don't want to sound racist but even though the guy seems nice, I know she will end up getting hurt. What should I do to break them up without Isabelle knowing that I did it?
2006-09-07 12:56:57 · 25 answers · asked by smartyetsweet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to stop thinking like our ancestors. Seriously. Player is not a color thing.
2006-09-07 13:00:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't interfere with your friends relationship if the only reason you do not like him is because he is black. If he actually did cheat on your friend then there is a reason to be concerned. But there is no crime against someone's race. You are making a gross generalization about black men. How can you know she'll end up getting hurt? That's impossible to know, you can't predict the future. Let your friend make her own decisions, whether they're right or wrong. Your job as a friend is to support her and help her if she asks for help. A black man has the same chance of being a "player" just as much as a white man does. Be a good friend and be there for her, don't make her decisions for her.
2006-09-07 13:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by lovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what race he is, she'll always have the possibility of getting hurt >_<
Its the path your friend has chosen to take and you should just let her take it, unless something bad was to happen.
Even though you say you don't want to sound racist that is exactly what it sounds like *me and my friend agreed not to date black friends because most are players*
Did you ever think he may not be one, what if he was white or some other race, would you then think he was right for her/not a player. Come on think about it... don't just judge someone because of their color :/
2006-09-07 13:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by Angela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being black has nothing to do with being a player. There are just as many players that are white, asian or any other race. You have no way to know if she will be hurt or not. You might want to rethink why you really want to break them up. A true friend supports not judges.
2006-09-07 13:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by justhinking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't know he will hurt her unless you are psychic and ALL races have "players", male & female. If your friend is happy, be happy FOR her and don't judge unless you want to lose a friend. My Roman Catholic, Irish-Scot family wasn't very pleased, nor were most of my friends, when I met and fell for a guy who was a full blood Cherokee and raised in the Jewish faith, but I followed my heart and we recently celebrated our 27th wedding anniversary and have 3 great kids. So not everything is as it may seem. Trust me, let your friend alone and IF she does get hurt, be there to help and support her, no "I Told You So's" okay? Good luck to you all.
2006-09-07 13:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by Daydream Believer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r very bias and racist......and you know what?, not all black people are players. U do not know everyone so dont judge people u dont even know because u will end up being judged too and no one likes that. He could be the love of her life without u or anyone else knowing it and he might not even be thinking about cheating on her. Who she goes out with is no one's buisiness except hers. its her life and she can date whoever she wants and if he does end up cheating on her....then she will learn the hard way on her own.
2006-09-07 13:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men of any color can be players. I know you care about your friend, but you need to just let her be with this guy. If he makes her happy then you should be happy for her. Maybe you need to get to know her boyfriend better before you start judging him. And if you really care about your friend don't try to break them up.
2006-09-07 13:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by tia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO! DON'T BREAK THEM UP. IF SHE WANTS TO DATE HIM THEN LET HER MAKE HER OWN MISTAKES. BEING BLACK OR WHITE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING A PLAYER. ANY GUY CAN THINK HE IS A PLAYER, IT IS NOT JUST BLACK GUYS. SO I DON'T KNOW WHERE YOU GOT THAT FROM, BUT LOSE IT. IF SHE IS HAPPY LET HER GO, WORRY ABOUT YOU AND YOUR BF. IF U HAVE FOUND THAT ONE YET. NO DISRESPECT! BUT LET HER BE, MAYBE HE MAKES HER FEEL LIKE SHE IS WORTH SOMETHING, THAT HE DOESN'T JUST WANT WHAT SHE HAS IN HER PANTIES, SO LET HER MAKE HER OWN DECISIONS. IF U ARE RIGHT MAYBE SHE WILL LEARN FROM THAT, BUT NOT ALL BLACK GUYS ARE LIKE THAT. MY BF IS BLACK AND HE HAS NEVER CHEATED ON ME, OR LIED TO ME. WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 1 YEAR AND 6 MONTHS. SO IT ALL DEPENDS ON WHO THE GUY IS, AND IF U WANT TO KNOW WHAT KIND OF GUY HE IS AND HOW HE WILL TREAT YOU? THEN LOOK AT THE WAY HE ACTS AND TREATS HIS MOM!!
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-09-07 13:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're totally racist. you know what i have a lot of black Friends and they are very nice and don't cheat on their girlfriends. so stop this "all black guys are players" thing.
2006-09-07 13:16:11 · answer #9 · answered by B8uty___* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez what is with this whole "all black guys cheat" thing? Us blacks sure get bad mouthed all the time and it is really sad. We are just people too. Many guys are bastards regardless of race. I know lots of really nice black men who love their mates unconditionally. Stop being so closed minded
2006-09-07 13:04:41 · answer #10 · answered by Firefly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U being racist right there! Not all guys are the same u know! Different people have different qualities. If she does get hurt, I'm sure she won't do it agian.
2006-09-07 13:01:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋