I was reading about this all girl pop group and how 2 of its members are lesbian, then i hear of another..and another , ..seems alot of them do. I just wonder, are girls becoming lesbian on purpose because they don't try to seperate alittle and have some space, .. always when i see cutesy girls who are friends, they talk so much, spend time together alot, then they start getting curious.....Its kind of like those priests in monasteries, they are just men and remain together...so right there they are making an environment that can turn out gay, and many do because men is all they see and relate to. So i have a feeling girls turn lesbian in many cases because they don't try to avoid the close relationship. I'm a guy and if i'm with guys, i'm going to have some fun doing activities with them, but then i set limits..and bye bye..after a few hours ,i dont' want them to be near me. and many guys work in this way. we don't let things happen, we avoid them.
2006-09-07 12:56:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
man, everyone here is gay. i just knew i was getting no one to agree.
2006-09-07 19:06:00 · update #1
I think what you said sounds valid. It's possible that the girls you are speaking of have confused romantic love with that of close friendship. And it does seem more prevalent today. However lets not assume that this is how all homosexual relationships begin. I think that the acceptability of the lipstick lesbian in society is also to blame. Guys think it's hot when two sexy girls are making out. The girls do it to get guy's attention. It really is quite ridiculous.
2006-09-07 13:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know how you reached THAT conclution. for all time, girls have been raised with girls and boys wtih boys. it's only in the last couple centuries that girls and guys were concidered equals and alowed to be raised mixed together. it's just that girls are getting braver and braver as things become more acceptable, and guys too. Things have been that way since at least the "me" generation, and it's spiraling. It's similar to when people could suddenly mary for love and not just for convenience or politics, and suddenly it got more and more common untill today it's as normal as wearing shoes.
don't worry about guy friends becoming boyfriends. it'll happen or it wont, and if it does there's still the chance that it won't last. Girls just let things happen because we know it's what feels the most natural, rather than fighting our natures. If you fight things like that too much then you will become afraid of them, you'll only be able to be friends with girls, and that much exposure can make you efemenate and even go so far as to push you towards becoming gay. there's a chance of it both ways, there's no avoiding it, so instead of trying to stop the inevitable, that maybe one day you might be atracted to another guy, it's easier to just go with the flow and respond to it by letting it happen and either accepting it or rejecting it. It's ok. And, it's equally likely it won't happen. and that's ok too. just be yourself and the rest will come.
2006-09-07 14:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by eri_mizawa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no its not quite that cut and dry. then what about all the girls who have close relationships with their female friends, even to the point of sleeping in the same bed, yet never develop any feelings beyond a friendship. being gay is not about a failure to set limits. its is much more internal than that. stop trying to explain away being gay. you cant do it!
by the way. what female pop group were you reading about??
2006-09-07 13:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by Lovely L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bond between women has always been more intimate then the bond between men. It's just natural. But as far as a person's sexuality goes, it's not a choice. It's just the way some people are. So no, it is not "on purpose"
2006-09-07 13:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly for a 14 twelve months previous, Emily you're a lesbian and as bor me? i'm a 22 bisexual lady; what you mentioned helped my self assurance thankyou! Emily if I ever discover my first GF i visit be grateful and happy to have her... good success!
2016-09-30 11:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by spies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't trust your feelings when it comes to something as complicated as sexuality; read research. Homosexuality is to a large extent caused by upbringing; people tend to develop interest in people of the same sex when they grow up with the same-sex parent (a boy's father or a girl's mother) is present, but distant...
2006-09-07 13:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by NC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so - After all, girls spend an awful lot of that time together talking about blokes, so they don't suddenly stop fancying blokes just because they're together a lot. Probably quite the opposite...
2006-09-07 13:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hanging out with someone a lot shouldnt really affect your sexual preference. Maybe some teenage girls might experiment but Being good friends wont nessicarily make you have sexual feelings towards them.
2006-09-07 13:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sangokins 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It has to do with who (which sex) a person is attracted to, which isn't something people choose, but experience that is, they feel attracted to some people and don't feel attracted to others.
2006-09-07 15:39:17 · answer #9 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. girls are emotional creatures and want strong relationships.
post your question in the LGBT column. you will get plenty of responses.
2006-09-07 13:05:50 · answer #10 · answered by Langdon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋