There's this guy in my class that everyone make fun of they make fun of the way he dress and cause he wear

Question

the same clothes every week his parents probably dont have money to buy him new clothes right now im tired of them picking on him I tell people that he may be rich and famous oneday but they dont pay attention to me i'm tired of them picking on him and I know if I take up for him everyone will make fun of me and say that I like him what should I do or should I just stay out of it but I think it isn't right???

Answer 1

Hi. Wow, that's bad. I bet he is a poor kid. That makes it even worse. Listen, I can't tell you what to do. And I understand how it feels to step outside the group and maybe let people give you a bad time. But I got to say that if you feel in your heart that treating this person is just wrong, then you have to do what is right. That may not mean standing up right away in front of everybody, but it will mean finding a time and place where you can say what you need to say. Plan for that time and when it comes, speak your heart. The good people will understand and be proud of you. The losers will try to talk it down. But in the end, that other human being will have been saved from the kind of treatment none of us would want, and, none of us deserve.

Answer 2

Stick up for your convictions and your integrity. Just from what you have mentioned here, I can tell that you are an honest and caring individual. It's a beautiful thing to see someone showing the maturity and caring that you are exhibiting. Never be afraid to do what's right. It can be hard sometimes, but you will never feel "awful" for doing the right thing. Your classmates are basically immature and shallow. Contrary to some magazines, clothes don't define the person. You are absolutely correct in saying that someday this guy could go on to become rich and famous. In all likelyhood he probably will.

Answer 3

I think the best thing you can do for him is to be friends with him regardless of what other people think. If they'll pick on him, you're right - they'll probably pick on you, but if not you then someone else and so on.. and so on.. that's how people like that feel like they belong. It's too bad, but some people never outgrow the need to put other people down to feel good about themselves. Find out if the clothes issue even bothers him - maybe he doesn't care.. if he does, then become his friend and help him find ways to beef up his wardrobe inexpensively.. remember.. to the world you are one person - but to one person you may be the world.. you may be the friend he remembers forever when he is a trilllionaire - it happened to a kid I went to school with!

Answer 4

Stand your ground and be nice to him. What a bunch of shallow little aholes. Where are your teachers when this is happening? What grade is this? What school?

Clothes really don't make the man or the woman or in this case silly aholes.

As long as he's clean and dressed who gives a damn, they're in school to study not give out fashion awards.

You stand your ground sweetheart! You may make a lifelong friend from this and you don't need insular shallow jerks like this to be your friends.

You get involved alright , tell your parents, tell the teachers, tell the principals, tell the aholes what aholes they truly are.

Answer 5

You can't control what other people's actions are, but you can control your own. Treat him with respect and how he deserves to be treated. As long as YOU treat him nicely, that's all that matters. You don't have to be his best friend....but you can be a positive person in his life even if it's only for a few minutes a day. I knew a kid like that when i was in Junior High School. I felt sorry for him, but I didn't let him know that. I just treated him like everyone else. Every day when i saw him I gave a friendly smile or sometimes said hi and that was that. One day, my senior year of high school he told me how much he appreciated my kindness back in the day. He said there were some days that were so bad he contemplated quitting school or even commiting suicide, but he always thought of me and felt better. You can make a difference in this person's life too :) Good luck and to hell with everyone else!

Answer 6

Stand strong and support him. The other kids might make fun of you too but ultimately they will secretly admire you.

You might also talk to a school counselor or teacher that you trust and see if they can't help your friend with finding additional wardrobe sources. Some churches have clothing banks (similar to a food bank) and may also be an alternative.

Answer 7

If you really feel like you should take for him then do it. It shouldn't matter that people will think you like him and so what if you did!! What are they going to do about it?? Nothing!! There's nothing they can do. That's why I'm glad that all schools including highschools where I live have to dresscodes. Every school in the district has to wear uniforms. Charter schools do too. I feel bad for this guy too. It's all about what's on the inside that really matters. Too bad so many people fail to realize it though. Good luck. BTW, I would take up for him if it were me in your shoes. You never know, maybe people will stop teasing him.

Answer 8

When dealing with jerks in school who make fun of people, learn how to use your words carefully. Stick up for the guy, and if anyone makes fun of you for it, make fun of them in return. It's all about getting the crowd to agree with you. Once you have the crowd in your favor, the others will feel embarrised and hopefully stupid. Example, let's say some kid says "Hey, where did you get your clothes? At K-Mark?" Look at the person and say back to them "How unbelievably sad it is that in order for you to feel good about yourself, you have to make someone else feel bad." And then follow it in a sarcastic baby-like tone like this "Aaaaaw, do you really need that much attention poor baby?" If you can get the others to laugh at him as a result of your comments, he should feel like a complete jerk. Hope that helps. Anyway, always stick up for people who can't stick up for themselves. You obviously have a very kind heart, and it's rare to see empathy in young people.

Answer 9

tell everybody 2 grow up!! havent they seen CARRIE!! i wish i had nothing better 2 do then 2 look at what everybody is wearing. Tell them what goes around comes around three folds. I wouldnt care i would tell them all 2 *** off who needs enemies with friends like that or i would go talk 2 the principal undercover 2. If that doesnt work talk 2 the superintendent, im a teacher i know it wouldnt b happening in my class or school. I dont play that.

Answer 10

Good for you. It takes courage to stand up for someone else. Talk to a teacher or a school counselor and see if they can set up a group meeting or conflict resolution session. The kids you describe are bullies and they should be educated and reprimanded. It is never okay to hurt someone else's feelings just for fun. I hope you find the right answer. Good luck.