i am in a 10 year relationship since i was 17. recently i met a man who i get on with very well.
I think about him a lot and he once tried to kiss me but i backed off i am not unhappy with my partner but thinking about this mine gives me butterflies.
2006-09-07 12:29:12 · 28 answers · asked by elaine c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its wrong and you should not do it!!!
2006-09-07 12:31:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to your partner about revitalising your relationship? If you've been together 10 years then you might be taking each other for granted. Think back to when you first got together, what did you used to do that made you get those butterflies? Why don't you organise a proper date where you get all dressed up and he comes and picks you up? Think about how you would feel after you'd kissed this other guy and you had to go home and chat to the unsuspecting guy you love (I take it you love him?) and imagine the look on his face if he ever found out. if you really love him you'll feel sick to the stomach at the thought of hurting and dissapointing him, is this other guy really worth it?? Hope it works out whatever you do.
2006-09-11 12:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by sarahlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you have to ask this question.
No. It's not right to have an affair, married or just dating. It's wrong. Respect your marriage, your husband, and your vows.
If you are having trouble with your husband and in your marriage then you should seek marriage counseling at once. Get to the bottom of the issues. Or, just get a divorce, but if you love him, you will at least try to keep the marriage going by seeking counseling.
How would you feel if your husband contemplated the same thing? Do you really want to put your husband through that kind of anguish? To disrupt the pact that you two share? Think about how it would disrupt your life. The pain. The consequences.
Oh...and refrain from seeing this man as soon as possible. Shame on HIM for not respecting you AND your husband!!
2006-09-07 19:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by my_lil_buttercups 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you are going through natural infatuation .... it happens, all the time. This is when self control and being responsible is so important. The excitement of going with someone new and fresh feels so good but just anchor yourself in there for a moment and think of the consequences and what you really want ...... how would you feel if your present man did the same? Would that hurt you? Then just turn that round and feel the down side. Also, the grass is not always greener elsewhere you know ... it may seem that way ... but no one is perfect. Just think it through before you act ... then at least if it all goes wrong, you have only yourself to blame.
2006-09-07 19:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not right to have an affair and if you do make sure you cover your tracks. Maybe you need this relationship to make your mind up about your current long term relationship. Life is too short so make the most of it but normally someone gets hurt so hence think of all the consequences before you begin and ask yourself is it worth it, but if you dont will you regret it for the rest of your life and end up resenting you partner!
2006-09-08 05:54:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is wrong to have an affair.If you love this person that you've been going with for 10 yrs then you wouldn't cheat on him.Now I'll tell you what to do.1st think about your relationship is it still going strong.2nd Don't Cheat if find that you actually like this other guy then break it off with your man.Don't be sensitive and say well let's just be friends.That tells a guy that he still might have a chance.AND Cheating will make you feel dirty or at least it should.
2006-09-07 19:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by lil mamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the roles were reversed and your partner cheated on you would you mind? OF COURSE its not right to have an affair - you're deceiving the person you "love". If you want to play away from home at least do the decent thing and dump your current partner first.
2006-09-08 04:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him do you want to ruin a stable relationship, and NO its not right to have an affair it can ruin lives, if you want this bloke so much dump your partner of 10 years and have a little fling that most likely won't last and you will feel regret for the rest of your life IS IT WORTH THE RISK??????
2006-09-10 11:54:32 · answer #8 · answered by bluebell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say you are not unhappy in your relationship, but you don't say you are happy - there is a difference. forget the other man, talk to your partner and see if your relationship is worth working on. only if your relationship finishes should you try anything with the other man.
2006-09-08 12:51:05 · answer #9 · answered by lillyflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u re so young, u never experienced this anticipation of a new man and this first game dates. well, i say go for it. we live only once, why should u bury yourself at the age of 27? what will u do when u re 47? at least if u have full life now u will have smth to remember. otherwise it is just gray boring existence
2006-09-08 02:18:12 · answer #10 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass is always greener on the other side! if you really wanted to have an affair, think, how would you feel if your partner did and didnt tell you? I would think about it REALLY hard, but no its a horrible idea!
2006-09-07 20:03:02 · answer #11 · answered by lulu18xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋