i was bisexual before we got marreid and he new that, i dont want a seriouse realationship with anyone else man or female, and i dont want someone on the side i just want to have a 3 sum with him, most guys would love this idea but hes not so sure, how do i talk him into it?
2006-09-07 12:23:36 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dont!! stop makin it sound like your doin it for him. If you want to do it and he doesnt cut the guy some slack, find two other people to do it with and NEVER tell him!!!!
2006-09-07 12:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't talk him into it. Now he's wondering which way you're going in your future. It seems like a thrill for a guy, but it ends up a nightmare. He knows that.
If he has doubts he won't go for this. Marriage may spare your life from certain misery. Why not divorce and become the harlot you are. Shame on you. What do you need from a woman? Why aren't you content with one man? What if he came to you with the reverse problem? I hope you don't have kids. I feel sorry for them. If you have kids you better just move out and leave the children. He can find another loyal wife.
2006-09-07 12:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider first, do you really want to see your husband having sex with another woman? I know a lot of people think they do but when it gets down to it they are totally disgusted. Really imagine it in your head; your husband stickin it to another woman. And he will feel the same way seeing you do it. So many people's relationships are ruined by threesomes. If he so much as looks at her more then you, which he's bound to do because he's a man and its a new woman whereas he's seen you naked before, you might get jealous. Don't force him into anything. Try watching some girl on girl porn together instead!
2006-09-07 12:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by UseAnotherNickname 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most men would like the idea. However, as you are bisexual, he might be concerned because you might want to leave him for the girl. That is the fear with anyone who's partner wants a threesome ... they want something that is missing in the relationship.
You need to talk openly with him. Tell him that you love him and don't want that to change but how about one night of fun with a girl for your birthday.
Chances are you won't talk him around but you're lucky that you have a man who loves you and wants to keep you.
2006-09-07 12:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be considerate of his feelings but also assure him of your love for him. Let him know how important this is to you and make sure that you have rules in place on how you will handle this. Keep the lines of communication open & make sure he is involved in the process the whole way.
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2006-09-07 12:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! You will ruin your relationship with your spouse. Once you do something like that there is no turning back. Aren't you worried it will open the door for him to start cheating? What if he likes her better, or wants to do it all the time?
2006-09-07 12:26:51 · answer #7 · answered by JillA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont talk him into it, you suggest it to him and tell him that your interested in doing it, see what he says and tell him to think about it... you cant talk him into it, cuz that is peer pressure, its kinda like if you didnt want to do something but he kept begging untill you said yes... just talk about it and tell him you want to and why and that the third person isnt going to get between you two in anyway or break you up...
I would suggest not getting mad if he says no, just tell him that your glad he thought about it and that you love him
2006-09-07 12:28:01 · answer #8 · answered by penguin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him this is who you are,he knew that. Also let him know
that he is the only one for you. You both go out and find someone
together that you don't now. A litte spice is nice
2006-09-07 13:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by henry m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i think u are opening a door u may want to close one day and won't be able to! what if he likes it and wants to cont. to do it????!!! can u imagine him saying "well this is what u wanted"
could u accepted him if he starts to like men? or would u consider him to be gay? opening this door could create more problems that u may not want to deal with in the future
2006-09-07 12:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by LT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋