Do you believe that marriage is something that should not be rushed into and that although?

Question

some couples have been dating for quite a FEW years, it's better for the man to propose when He feels the 'time' is right and ready financially, emotinally, and spiritually? Also have time to discuss all the possible issues that could come up. B/c i believe, (if engaged) it should not be long and a max. for 1 year correct!! Gracias amigos!! moa!

Answer 1

It's hard to figure out when to get married. Everyone typically leaves it up us to decide when it's right, but we usually don't have a clue and are scared sh-tless. Nobody ever taught us what to really look for in a wife. We watched our parents and see our friends screwing up. We hear about the 50% divorce rate. No wonder we're accused of commitment phobia. The problem is everyone seems to be hooking up with the wrong people but most of us can't figure out why!

A friend emailed this to me a few years ago when I was dating a woman who was very wrong for me. I saved the list because I wanted to remember it. It's probably the best advice I ever got. I think it answers your question. Marriage should not be rushed into and you have to figure out if your feelings are mostly about sex or not, and think about who are you most likely to have a real relationship with. I like this test alot because it is a total eye opener. It makes you realize who in your life really loves you and who you probably love. It's also cool how the test makes you realize you probably already know or are around the woman you're gonna end up marrying.

The Marriage Counselor's Marriage Test
This test helps a man determine what really matters in a woman, and which one in his life is most likely to be "THE ONE". Think of all the women currently in your life. Think of the women you are dating and have dated. Think of the women you have been in relationships with who are still single and available to you. Think of the women you talk to at the grocery store, the cleaners, on the golf course, or in the park. Think of your female friends, work colleagues, and acquaintances. If you're a single man and want to marry, statistically it is likely you will eventually marry one of these women.


If you were in a coma, who would be the one that you know would be at your bedside long after the others had gone on with their lives?

If you were paralyzed and couldn't work, do any chores around the house, go out anywhere, or have sex, which one would be the most likely to still love you and stay with you?

If you were going through a difficult time at work and had negative emotions and moodiness, which one would most likely allow you plenty of space without selfishness or nagging?

If you were to lose your car, your home, and your savings which one would be most willing to stay with you and help you build your life again?

If you were sterile and couldn't have children, which one would be least likely to bring up the subject again or make you to feel guilty?

If your parents became disabled and needed to live with you, who do you think would be most likely to accept them into your home and treat them with care and dignity?

If you had children with one of the women you know, and eventually became divorced, which one would you trust the most to raise your children right?

If you could only have one woman to take to every sporting event, every outing, and every event for the rest of your life which one would you have the most fun with?

If you had children with one of the women you know, which one would your children be least likely to wonder why you married her?

Which one makes you laugh hardest?

Who do you talk with the most?

Which one is the most interested in the same things you love, the same places you like to go, the same activities you like to do?

When you're shopping for souvenirs, who is the one you constantly keep thinking she'd love this?

When you're experiencing something new or interesting, who is the first one to come into your mind that you wish you could share it with?

At the end of a hard day at work, who would you rather unload your day's frustrations on, knowing she'll listen and care?

At the end of a night with the boys or an event where she isn't with you, which one would you prefer to come home to and share your adventures of the day?

When you learn something new, make a big discovery, or accomplish something exciting, who is the first person you think of telling?

If you were stranded on a deserted island for one year, which one would make your days pass more quickly because you were having so much fun together?

If you were stranded on a deserted island for one year, which one would you like to have lying next to you looking up at the stars?

If you were stranded on a deserted island for one year, which one would be most likely to cheerfully adapt to the situation and contribute to your survival?

When you go to bed at night, who is the last one you usually find yourself calling?

If you committed a felony crime, who would you be most likely to tell?

If each of the women you know were being mistreated by another man, which one would you feel most protective of?

Which one would be most likely to discourage you from spending too much on her, and would want you to save your money?

Which one would be most likely to accept that you couldn't afford the car she wanted, the house she wanted, the vacation she wanted, or the luxuries she wanted?

Which one is most likely to accept your flaws and find ways to make you feel comfortable about them?

If you had Alzheimer's disease and couldn't communicate your needs anymore, which one would be most likely to bring you the new CD of your favorite music artist or new movies she knows you would enjoy?

If you were blind, who would you trust the most to take care of you, make sure you had everything you want and need, and never let you feel helpless?

If you were blind, whose voice would you most want to hear for the rest of your life?

If you became impotent, which one would be the least likely to betray you in spite of her own physical desires?

If you became impotent, which one would it sadden you most to know is no longer able to have a physical relationship?

If you had a child from a previous marriage, which one would be the most likely to be loving, attentive, and accepting of your child as her own?

Which woman would be least likely to criticize and try to change your hair, clothes, car, house or apartment, pets, or friends.

If you were forced to cheat on every woman you know, except you could spare one woman from that pain, which one could you not allow yourself to hurt in this way?

If you were on a roller coaster right now, who is the first person coming to mind that you would want to experience it with you?

Which one is the most likely to be concerned about your well-being and tell you when you're doing something that could hurt you?

Which one would your family most likely say is the perfect woman for you?

If you were to die tomorrow, which one would be most likely to remember to take care of your pets?

If you were to die tomorrow, which one would be most likely to cry the hardest and cry the longest?

If you were to die tomorrow, which one would you most trust as a speaker at your wake to best communicate to everyone the value of you and your life?

Which one would be most likely to visit your grave on your birthday every year and leave something she thought you would like or that she thought would make you laugh?

Which one do you wish you could hear what she was saying when she was alone at your grave so you could know how she really felt about you?

Answer 2

I feel you should get married when both parties have really discussed what they want out of the marriage (such as kids, money, goals, work etc) Once those items have been aired and you feel that you both are on the same playing field then it is time to see if you really are compatible and not just showing your best side, let the bad habits show. If you can handle all this in a week then you are ready for marriage but for most people it will take time at least a year.

Answer 3

I knew my first husband since 2nd grade. Our marriage lasted 5 years. I knew my 2nd husband since I was 15, we married at 23, and we were living apart after 7 years, divorced a few years later. My 3rd husband and I met online and were married exactly 2 months to the day we met and we are about to celebrate our 3rd wedding anniversary. We are very happy. I am pretty sure we are going to make it, with the others, I could tell we were not, but this time, it seems like it will be forever. We get along great, we have some differences but we know how to resolve them without resorting to cheap tactics and we spend time apart too, so we can miss each other, he has a busy schedule and it gives me time to miss him and he me. We both love to play games and watch movies together and we are both avid readers so our time together is very pleasant. These are things that help a marriage to work, but as my husband put it when he proposed, "When you know, you know." He asked me to make the wedding arrangements as quickly as possible, and we were married one week from the day he asked me. Note: I was younger on first and second marriages, I also feel the older you are the more sure you are of who you are and what you want in a partner for life. Can you picture yourself growing old together? Good Luck.

Answer 4

I completely agree that people should not rush into marriage. If you are both adults with good jobs and have known each other for at least a year, then I think you might consider it.
One of the advantages to a year-long engagement is it will provide more time for preparations. If you plan to have a big, elaborate wedding, it will take time to get a caterer, photographer, etc.

Answer 5

that's not Christianity or "The Church" that's inflicting those issues, that's the fallen nature of guy. The Bible provides us the blueprint to stay existence as God meant, although the lie of the devil has continuously implied that God is conserving us from some thing extra. everyone who's person-friendly admits that a connection occurs between 2 human beings in the course of the sex act, and it truly is a lot more desirable than the actual connection.

Answer 6

When it is time to get married, I believe you should be financially stable, with a good job and are able to provide as your wife/husband should be able to do the same. Rushing into things aren't good for you or the other person.Be stable and go somewhere in life.

Answer 7

:) i believe that after 1 1/2 years.. if u don't KNOW that u Want to marry that person, u should break up. u don't have to get married at that time..but u should know if that person is the one u want to marry, and vice versa. if one person, or both are unsure, u should part ways and look elsewhere. it will save everyone heartache!

Answer 8

If u have been together for that long u should know if the both of u are happy then u will know

Answer 9

if you know they are the one, do it