I'm a person who questions everything. I almost always see ways to improve things. It's a good trait for designing things. But when it comes to relationships... I know I will never find a man who is perfect. I would like to hear from other people who always question things. How did you finally know that your significant other was the right one for you even though he/she was not everything you had ever dreamed about?
2006-09-07 12:18:28 · 17 answers · asked by pamgissa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seti, yes I know what you mean about the flipside. For example, sometimes I will ask him for advice and he'll say something like, well, I could understand taking that job and I could understand if you don't take it. And sometimes I wish he would have more of an opinion, but I also realize it's nice that he understands both sides and it forces me to ask myself more questions.
2006-09-08 05:50:50 · update #1
I realized what you just said..."I know I will never find a man who is perfect".
There are going to be people in and out of your life and you will never find someone who is perfect. The reason why is that there are no two people who are exactly alike. Unfortunately, women have a general idea of what the "perfect" man entails of. So, that being said, every man would be exactly the same if it were that easy. Find a man who makes you smile and someone who treats you great. Someone who is your best friend and someone you can not see yourself WITHOUT in life. He's out there, sometimes where we least expect it
2006-09-07 12:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I question a lot of things... When it comes to religion, I'm an atheist... But somehow on the relationship path I've always been quite decisive. I guess, the simple acceptance of the fact that no one's perfect has given me the feeling of empowerment to choose. It helps to analyze things from a "flip-side" point of view; very often, something we see as a negative trait is merely a continuation of a trait that is attractive. For example, if I'm attracted to people with a strong personality, natural-born leaders - then I must be prepared to be a follower sometimes. If I like intelligent and articulate people - I must be prepared to lose an argument every once in a while. You see what I'm saying. When I encounter a trait about my partner I think I could live without, a quick analysis convinces me that this trait is just a "flip-side" of another, attractive, trait.
Certain things, however, do not have positive "flip-sides" - disrespect, abuse, emotional and mental immaturity. These are the ones to be concerned about. I think, everyone has their own "list" of deal-breakers and things they would or would not put up with. Try to have a general idea of your own limits.
2006-09-07 19:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I too am in the same situation as you are, i have been divorced for 12 yrs almost anyways. And have came to the conclusion that my ex-wife was the only thing I ever thought about. I have lost a lot of relationships in the past thinking they would be just like her and never knew why until now. I still love her and the problem is that our son we had together doesn't even know me. So yes I know what it feels like and I can't stop thinking about her and our son also. She means everything to me and now I realized I have lost a good thing.
John
2006-09-07 20:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by John K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know they are the right person for you when you realize they aren't perfect, however they may try to seem perfect. You know their secret flaws and crazy habits they may have, but you still think they are beautiful or to me that's what makes them who they are and unique I don't really see it as need to improve..To show someone that you are flawed is letting down your guard and letting someone into your life, now that's a beautiful thing! You should try it sometime
2006-09-07 19:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by bellerosez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is how I see this? You will never find Mr. Perfect . He doesn't exist. No one is perfect. In love you accept your partner flaws and all. If with in reasonable boundaries. I think you know what I mean by that. I trusted my heart and my higher power. It felt right to me and still does 13 years later. Faith in our marriage is a good thing. good luck in finding your Mr. Right for you.
2006-09-07 20:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i can relate. i've known this guy for 26 years. we lived together for awhile and then i realized he wasn't giving me enough attention or affection, so i cheated and he found out and left me. i was ok with that cause then i could do whatever i wanted. that proved to be wrong. i have encountered alot of men that were worse than he was. i wasted alot of years trying to find the right man to give me what i needed, but i finally found it. i am still with the same guy after 26 years. i come to realize that all i needed was love and he has given me that. even though we parted and found other relationships, we always managed to find one another. he said i am his life partner, till death do us part. he's my best friend, now and forever. i love him
2006-09-07 19:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by davionmw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hows this. and its true.
I was married for forty years . I loved her dearly. I worked had went to Uni. climbed the ladder . even did part time extra work , for the cash , eventualy owned three houses. I was an Engineer and worked abroad on contract .then came the day . finished .home feet up. one day she said I HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY. I ONLY LOVE YOU LIKE A BROTHER. . THE INEVITABLE. DIVORCE, I lost everything.
2006-09-07 19:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by adventurerinsun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for example if I met someone when I turn thirty -two i will wait for six years to get married like around thirty-eight. For you you are much older than me so if you are wanting to get remarried know that man for six or eight years then get married again and he will be a great role model for your kids from your previous marriage.
2006-09-07 19:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by April Ann Codon Cruz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been with a guy for over 3 years and we have a 16mnth old daughter together...she the most georgous lil girl with the biggest heart and loves her daddy so much but after 3 years im starting to wonder if we're even 'ment' to be together, but i cant leave him because i still 'love' him - atleast im pretty sure i do and i dont want to hurt my lil girl and or be a single mum.
2006-09-07 19:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might not find Mr. Perfect, but you might find Mr. Perfect For You. Putting too much on someones plate makes them not so hungry after all.
2006-09-07 19:22:52 · answer #10 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋