2006-09-07 12:05:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ask him first if he's cheating and tell him not to lie........if he still doesnt admit then pull the evidence out and tell him now u cant trust him because not only is he a cheater but now he's a liar
2006-09-07 12:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by nena5271 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps ,the very first thing you should do is to already make up your mind whether or not his crime(s) of infidelity ( if proven) warrants a divorce ? If it does , then prepare for one .
However though , in any event you are his wife ...and as being such I would think that you are & would be very much within your right to openly confront him( your husband) about his infidel-ways . Go ahead , present your "proofs" to him and hear what he has to say . He'll either be honest with you and show remorse by begging your forgiveness. Or , he will simply dare to go the distance at being just the naturally no-good man /husband that he obviously is, and contnue to deny any such accusations ( even while in the light of proof).
But , despite whichever reaction you do get from him...after having collected e-nuff facts on the matter as what you've indicated; it's no -doubt that it's your moral-duty to bring the situation to his( husband) attention & get it out in the open .
Once all is out in the open & the final verdict is in , it's totally your decision as to what penalties he must face for his poor -conduct as a so-called-husband? Divorce being an option !
Good-luck with your decision-making !
2006-09-07 19:47:07 · answer #2 · answered by anthony J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lavonda Honey lets take a really close look at this proof. Is it hear say...meaning did you hear it from someone else who may have embellished the truth a bit. Is it physical proof...lipstick can get on a collar in many different ways...Is it photographic proof (if he's in the military it would have to be a picture where you can see his and her face (so there is proof of identity beyond mistake) as well as his penis in her vagina... otherwise it wont hold up in court) Take some time to evaluate the facts before you jump to conclusions. Every hang-up phone call isn't a strange woman calling for your man and every woman out there that ever claimed to have screwed your man may not have. IF THE PROOF IS SOLID...Burn him like a rat!
2006-09-07 19:15:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I found out my ex bf cheated on me with a woman he's now married to, I got some physical proof (not just hearsay from people) and I confronted him with all the evidence when I got them all gathered up. Then...I dropped him like a rock.
2006-09-07 19:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing to do is to consult an attorney, without your husband's knowledge. give your attorney all the info you have about your finances. open your own accounts and transfer as much as you can into only your name. plan on moving out all material possessions while he is not at the house. when he comes home to an empty house, be waiting there with the divorce papers, the name of your attorney and a bodyguard. good luck.
2006-09-07 19:17:54 · answer #5 · answered by dshel27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See an attorney. You could talk to your husband about it, but he'll only deny it. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Ask yourself why is he cheating? What's missing from your marriage that would send him into the arms of another woman? Make him want to be with you more than any other. Be fabulous, sexy, sensuous, playful. Make him want YOU more than her. Is this marriage worth saving?
2006-09-07 19:15:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
confront him and tell him how this has made you feel. Then get checked for STD's for a few years to ensure he hasn't given you something bad. Talk to a marriage counselor even if he will not go and make certain that you are either ready to leave or endure the feelings of distrust that he has placed in your mind forever.
2006-09-07 19:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by patbendrv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce
2006-09-07 19:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to decide what u should do ! u can't take everyones advice" this is yours girl _1 - do you love him ? 2- do you want to forgive him ? 3- do u have kids by him ? 4 - will u be able to live with-out him . 5- how many times has he cheated ? 6- how will breaking up affect your life?? See girl it's gotta be you ;'we don't know this stuff ,wish you well ,and don't be to fast to make up your mind , Maybe ask him to go to his families 4 now to give you peace and time to decide is he worth it ,and can you live with someone u can't trust ????
2006-09-07 19:30:54 · answer #9 · answered by yvette b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all ask yourself r u gonna stay or leave him???if u are going to leave then just confront with the evidence and say your peace!, my man cheated and it was hard and still is hard. i sometimes think about what he done with her! and i would cry when we were together sexually. and after i forgave him..guess what? he did it again! the trust was just gone!
2006-09-07 19:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by LT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋