Help Please!?

Question

I'm 40 weeks and 1 day pregnant. I'm really tired and depress, sex doesn't help and walking is not doing anything either. What can I do I'm desperate I can't sleep and my lower back hurts a lot and my lower belly does too. I can't wait til I'm 41 or 42 weeks to have this baby. My 4 year old son needs me and I feel like I'm not giving him enough attention cause of all the emotions that I'm going through. Help me please! I'll take any advise.

Answer 1

THis may sound crazy but my sister was in exactly the same situation and she ate really spicy food, a vindaloo, and it worked wonders.

Answer 2

What you are going through is a very common experience, but doesn't make it any easier for you. Pregnancy is not an exact science unfortunately. Babies are born on their own timing so nothing will speed this baby up. 40 weeks is considered full-term, but some babies push the 42 week mark before they are ready. If you can't sleep and are having back trouble, try sleeping in a reclining chair if you have one. Have your husband or a friend use a tennis ball and rub it around on your back fairly firmly. This may help alleviate some of your back pain. Back pain is a good sign, actually, as that can be the early start of labor. Some who labor in their back will have a baby who is in a posterior position (born face up instead of face down). It can be a more painful labor and delivery and may require forceps (my middle 2 were like that). Sleep whenever your 4 year old is sleeping or at least rest. Ask for help. Your husband should be pitching in, but if not, ask friends, neighbors, your church. Can a neighborhood teenager play with your son for a couple hours? If you learned any relaxation tips from a birthing class such as Lamaze, use those now. I have had 4 babies. All were born past their due date (between 5 and 11 days late) so I know how frustrating it can be to be so miserable and feel like if one more person called me and said, "Are you still here?" I'd have to scream.

Answer 3

This is actually quite normal for you to feel this way, most women do . Try finding a trusted freind or relative who can give your four y.o the time you need for yourself and someone that you won't worry about how your son will be treated.

Second, check to see if your hospital that you will deleiver at has a doula. I worked for Carle Hospital in Urbana, Illinios and they offered a doula to expectant moms for a small fee that was covered by insurance. Check you phone book. These women sometimes go above and beyond like doing laundry, caring for other children, and helping you through your tough time.

I have been here myself four times (1 miscarriage) twice as a single parent, and twice with a man who was not supportive of my needs. I made it and you can too, hang in there girl!

Having worked in ob, make sure you speak with your provider about your feelings. I know this might be unethical but some providers will induce or perform a c/s if you are that miserable. Maybe he/she can suggest or refer you to another provider for some relaxation teqhniques.

Your almost there, just hang on a bit!

Answer 4

Oh, sweetie I feel for you, I was 42 weeks along when I finally delivered and had to have a c-section after 62 hrs of labor. I apparently am missing a hormone, so I could never go into labor on my own and will never diolate on my own either. And doctor's, they are no help. They will ignore you, ignore you, ignore you. You're only hope is a good OB, which sounds like you may not have one if they aren't willing to induce you already. Are you taking a lot of baths? How bout a heating pad on your back? I know it's very little comfort. I've got two kids, and I'm expecting in Feb, and at 4 1/2 months along, I'm already very uncomfortable, so I so feel for you. My only real advice, is keep buggin the doctors. Be a thorn in their side. If you keep going into the OB and telling them how uncomfortable you are, you may get turned away 10 times, but you might actually get a doctor who will pay attention to you. It always depends on the doctor on duty. I had my membrains striped, and was on the floor in pain, and the first doctor on duty made me walk around for 7 hrs without admitting me and putting me on pain meds. It wasn't until shift change that I was allowed in. Hun, plz feel free to email me, I will help you as much as I can, even if it's just to give someone to talk to. Try sleeping in the middle of a million pillows. Have your husband, assuming you are married, help you move the pillows around until you are comfortable, as comfortable as possible in the condition you are in. Plz email me so we can talk more. I've also heard that a tea spoon of caster oil is a good way to go.

Answer 5

Wow, I'm surprised your Dr. hasn't induced you by this point. I hear that there is this salad at a certain restaurant that has sent women into labor. I don't even know where the restaruant is, but maybe if you eat a big salad and put in a lot of different greens and stuff you will hit on what's right and it will start your labor. I know that's a long shot though. Have you asked your Dr. why he/she won't induce you? Call the maternity ward and talk to the nurses, they know a lot and may have some tips to help you get your labor started. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Have A Long Bath, Be Strong You Can Do It. Prey To God.


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