It's been a yr since my grandmother died and my family who I trusted so much sued me for custody of my daughter (now 5). They told terrible lies about me which did not help the fact that I am in the adult entertainment industry which is the reason that they give for saving her from me. It's not a reason when I am a smart classy mother who loves her child. it being in a small town court in TX. And they knowing I did not have the financial resources to fight. won. I know see my daughter twice a month supervised visitation in their home. I don't drink, use drugs, I never have. I never abandoned my daughter other then allowing my mother to co-parent since Im a single mother. I never neglected her. She amazing,can read and write.Shes a wonderful dancer extremely funny and smart. It breaks my heart how much she misses me and I her. I feel trapped.I had to start over with nothing but a suitcase of clothing and a car.Bankrup, no credit and depressed.Depressed and ashamed.How could any1luv me?
2006-09-07 11:59:59 · 6 answers · asked by Jess777 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's a lot for anyone to handle.
You haven't lost everything. You still have time.
This is an opportunity for you, as hard as that is to see. Raising a child takes a lot of money. It doesn't take time as much as everyone would have you believe. A popular choice amoung parents is to send their children to baby kennels (generally called daycare) and paying the toll when they pick them up. Children SHOULD take time, but in today's society, they do not. They take money, which you stated is something you lack.
If you had custody, she'd be living in your car with you, waiting in your car/hotel room or whichever, when you work... and unable to live a normal life due to circumstance.
I have never been seperated from my child, and can only imagine how painful it is, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't get full custody if my wife and I split up. The fact however is, you can use this time to get your act together, get a home set up, and attempt to gain custody when you can provide an environment that is conductive to a young person's development. I don't mean provide by finding some guy who seems stable and together, starting a relationship with him and moving your little girl in. I mean building it for yourself, where you play by your rules and don't owe anybody anything. If you play your cards right, you can walk right into court, walk out with your child and extend your middle finger to your family. If you play them wrong, then you may just prove them right and
Depression is hard, no fooling... but it looks like the only way to go is up. You seem to have a source of income since you didn't say "used to" regarding your line of work. I knew plenty of girls that danced at night to put themselves through college. You didn't go into specifics about what you do, which is no one's business anyway, but if you can make a steady income, you can find a way to get your life together.
You have a clean slate, and you have time. Try not to think of everything as lost, think of it as "on hold". Your daughter is not in danger, and as tragic as losing your grandmother is... grandparents are not reliable. They have a shelf life that generally expires when you are in your 20's. It's terrifying, and I know you are alone, but you are going to have to carve out your place in the world and stop trying to find it.
Keep your chin up... you don't have to let this break you.
2006-09-07 12:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by Erad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn to the lord and he will show you the way. Go to a womans shelter and speak with a counselor. They will help you get a job and starting over is not easy but you will have a new life. Make your daughter proud!!! Believe in yourself!!!
2006-09-07 12:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever give up, to give up is to give in. Life has so many beautiful things for you. I know for a fact that Jesus Christ died for you and you mean the world to him, he loves you unconditionally. It's time to take a stand, and be the woman he made you to be. You don't get it with a wishbone, it takes a strong backbone, with deep desires speaking positive words.
2006-09-07 12:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry!! i been threw alot b4 no mom father slept in a car worst than you ,no food and now im married and have a apartment look for work! make friends ''good friends'' and they can help you from not feeling sad,if ur in chgo,ill we can go out sometime write to me! maybe workout ,you dont have 2 pay i got you a card to go with me if you like !life is hard but dont let it win be a winner!
2006-09-07 12:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are so strong to still hanging on. may the lord help you. stay strong and see the world day by day. every morning is a gift for you to start fresh. some will notice your strenght for sure. take care. my prayers to you.
2006-09-07 12:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ lavender baby ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you really want to make things better,but it is up to you to do it.maybe you need to get out of the job you are doing and become the mother you long to be .Good Luck.
2006-09-07 12:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋