Is this a great idea for making my wife lose weight?

Question

The wife was hot when I married her, sex life was good. Four years later, she has gained 40 lbs. and does nothing about it. I'm no prize, but I weigh the exact as I did. I have heard all kinds of advice about how to suggest it, etc. Women always say "you should love somebody no matter what." Baloney. We all have a "looks threshold". In other words, you won't be interested in somebody unless you are physically attracted to them. Would you date and marry an 800 lb man? Would you care if your husband suddenly grew a gigantic Grizzly Adams beard? What if he started braiding his armpit hair? Love him no matter what, right? Say nothing, right?
So here is my idea. I will now work to gain 100 lbs to become a big disgusting slob. Let's see if my wife likes it and says anything. Maybe she will see the light.
P.S. If you are going to rip on me, at least make it funny. Before you do, ask yourself how many pounds your significant other could gain before you said something.

I am now eating an entire bucket of KFC, reading your kooky responses. Personally love drumsticks the best. Never understood why most people prefer white meat. I weighed myself and it appears that I have already gained one pound. I figure that it will probaly take me about three months. I will pour it on at Thanksgiving.
Also, I don't have the heart to actually tell my wife she is getting fatter and unattractive.

Answer 1

I wouldnt gain 100 lbs for anyone, and I know you only said it to prove a point. I agree with you 100 percent, and what is beautiful to one person may not be to another.

I have said the same thing to the people I chat to on the net who say looks dont count, its whats inside that does. I say, fantastic cause I am 600 lbs...I cant walk cause Im so fat...Im wheelchair bound....my skin is terrible, I cant seem to clear it up with anything, and that bloody wart on my nose causes my vision to blurr. What is inside is all important, but like you said, we do have our limits. I am 5ft 9" tall, and I am certainly not a judgemental person, but when a guy you have been chatting to for months wants to meet you, then tells you he is 4ft 6" tall....the mental picture you get is quite crazy.....Im sure he would love me as a dance partner.....lol

The ones who say looks dont count have probably never been with a really butt ugly 600lb person...Ewwww how on earth could you enjoy sex with such a heavy person...there is no way he would be on top......lol

Have you reminisced about old times...how much fun you used to have, how sexy she was....maybe go through some photo albums....some women dont realise they are as big as they are.....seriously I saw a video of myself at my sons 10th birthday party...I was absolutely shocked at how fat I got...It was a big wake up call and I immediately lost weight cause I didnt like what I saw. A person usually loses the weight for themselves, not for anyone else....If she really takes a good look at herself she probably will not like what she sees and will want to do it for her own self esteem. Realistically too, when a woman/man puts on a lot of weight sex does dwindle firstly because there is excess fat and makes movement uncomfortable therefore you get pooped very quickly, so it no longer is fun, it becomes a chore...a real work out exercise.

You still love your wife and that is the main thing, and I dont think there is anything wrong with you wanting her to lose the weight, even if its for her own health...once she starts losing the weight she is going to feel great about herself again.

Answer 2

Women gain weight easier than men and we also have a harder time losing it than men. Do you have children? It's also hard to take the weight off after having children. If you want to help your wife, why don't you try to be supportive of her instead. Have you offered to exercise with her? Do you help her make healthier choices when she eats? Instead of complaining about how much weight she has gained, why don't you try to help her? You sound like a very shallow person. Love is not only about looks or attraction, it is about being there for someone in the good times and bad. Do you remember your marriage vows? If she was sick with an incurable disease, would you leave her because she didn't have the disease when you married her? No, you probably wouldn't. Grow up! Put yourself in her shoes for awhile and see how you would feel. Perhaps gaining the 100 pounds would help you see how your wife feels.

Answer 3

I will wait to rip on you until a little later. The reason she gained weight is because she is happy and content with her life. This happens to many people in a good marriage. Sometimes the man sometimes the woman. Do not browbeat her. Do not get sarcastic and mean about her weight. Talk to her and find out if she has seen her doctor lately because you are worried about her. You could say that you have noticed that she has put on some weight and you wonder if her thyroid gland is acting up. The thyroid gland can cause weight gain. If you can get her to the doctor he may help by getting her to start thinking about losing weight. One thing to do to help her is get her to go for a walk with you every evening. The both of you could go to the gym. You could be a little devious and say you have put on a few pounds and could she do some light cooking so that you could lose the pounds. Just remember you do love her or you wouldn't have asked for help for her. Whatever approach you use remember to treat her with respect and love.

Answer 4

Vows: For better or for worst.

True love is unconditional. So if you really love her, then the 40lbs shouldn't matter. Now, if its affecting her health, then that's a different story.

"So here is my idea. I will now work to gain 100 lbs to become a big disgusting slob. Let's see if my wife likes it and says anything. Maybe she will see the light." - what will be funny is that she'll still be in love with you because she loves you.

You stated that you're no prize. In my opinion it seems like men who are not that attracted are more critical of people and especially the women they are involved with. I guess its to make themselves look good. LOL! Anyway, since you stated that you're no prize, I'm pretty sure your wife sees that too but guess what? She loves YOU anyway --- no conditions. So you should be thankful that you have someone who's not trying to CHANGE your looks and rag on you about being ugly -- oops I mean "no prize".

Answer 5

Ok, I see where u are coming from about the attraction factor. What u can do is tell her that u are concerned about her health and would like her to lose some weight for the benefit of her health. U can't just come on to her telling her she looks like sh!t and therefore needs to lose weight because chances are, she will only end up resenting u for this. It has to come from a "health" perspective.

Then, u can lead by example. Change your diet together. Join the gym yourself and ask her to join u. Get more physically active together...take long walks together or try some physical activities u both can enjoy. Buy some bikes for the 2 of u and go on long distance rides or go swimming together. U can't just tell her to do all this herself. U have to be a willing participant as well. It's about team work. Besides, not only will this help her lose some weight, it will help BOTH of u in terms of health.

Answer 6

It's worth a shot but I wouldn't gain that much. Think how hard it would be to lose all that extra weight when you didn't have a problem before. Have you tried talking to your wife? Us wife's realize it after awhile that we have some weight to loose. Be patient.

Answer 7

dude do you have clue what you are gonna do to your body? The health risks? There HAS to be a better way to get your wife to lose weight. Go for walks with her, god I don't know. I do understand and I also feel that each partner should try to stay in shape, we all can't be beauty queens/kings, but I think that it is fair to try to look your best for your spouse.

Answer 8

I would suggest talking about this with a weight control specialist before you breech the subject. Many couples do discuss this topic but many of those do it blindly and ruin a good marriage due to lack of knowlege on how to do it delicatly. She may have a lot of inner turmoil going along with those 40 pounds, and if you broach the subject without having some educated answers on how she could possibly lose it, you are most likely going to hurt her feelings and hurt your own chances of ever being close to her again.

Answer 9

Nooo, don't gain 100 lbs!! You'll die of the heart attack, and your wife will get all the life insurance!! haha And I totally agree with you about the "looks threshold". 40 lbs is a lot of weight to gain. If my husband talked to me about losing weight, I would listen. If she doesn't - perhaps she doesn't care? This is a bigger problem than simply gaining extra weight.

Answer 10

No. Gaining 100lbs is not good for you nor is it a way to get your wife to lose a few. What you do is tell her the truth. Tell her that the physical attracttion you once had for her is not as strong as it used to be since she's gained the 40lbs.

I'm a firm believer that gaining toomuvh weight is unacceptable cause I would not date an overwieght guy! Just keep it real with her, she will appreciate your kander.