Who wants to be stuck in a unhappy relationship.even tho kids are involved?
2006-09-07 11:45:41 · 25 answers · asked by stevo132001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If not wanting to be in an unhappy marriage is selfish, then there are a lot of people who are selfish.
Getting out is the best thing for the children. It is not healthy for children to see their parent fighting or disliking each other. I believe it is less selfish to leave a situation like that than it is to stay in it but only if you still have a relationship with the children and if you teach them to love your ex and not be bitter and teach them the bad things you've experienced.
2006-09-07 11:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u put as much energy into ur marriage as u do in thinking u want out, then maybe ur marriage would be happier.. Marriage takes work, on from both partners.. u need to start remembering why u fell in love in the first place, and try to rekindle that love, all marriages having problems here and there, some worse then others of course, but u took vows, vows ur suppose to live by every day , not just when they are convient for you.. Before every leaving a marriage, u should try everything, and i mean everything before bailing especially if there are children involved, id hope that u'd want to be able to look ur kids in the eyes when they grow up and tell them that u did try all u could before destroying their lives and their happiness.
2006-09-07 12:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will have to say from past experience that a marriage is what you make of it. You can make it a great marriage (remember it once was good), or you can be the down fall of a once great marriage. I believe all children deserve the best, you should give it your all because both parents are usually their security. Stop dwelling on what your relationship is missing and think about all the great things in it, reopen your line of communication, and always remember to act and treat your spouse like you would a new love or a new relationship.
2006-09-07 12:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by ~♥Aimee♥~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ur marriage is unhappy, the kids will be too. I guess the two of you can get professional help b4 u make final decisions, but if that does'nt work, the kids will one day understand that that this was the right thing to be done. As long as both parents stay active in their lives, everything will be okay.
2006-09-07 11:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy you should move on. Never stay in a relationship just because of your children if it makes you unhappy. Your children will sense your unhappiness and be unhappy for you. I think that may be the worse thing to do. Every child wants their parents to be happy. So do what you need to do to put a smile on your face.
2006-09-07 11:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To survive in this world is not being selfish. However, the satisfaction is the great in our relationship. Until and unless we have satisfaction we cannot spend our life in a happy mood. In turn, by the responsibility of being mother or father, they are bound to be together just looking their kids. But we are always free to choose the alternative. Before choosing the alternative in our life we have to look back and see the real picture of the society so as to go further.
thank you.
2006-09-07 17:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by digendra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, everyone is born selfish. But when you have been in an unhappy relationships and then decided to get kids involved...then it is time to just suck it up...should have done something way back.
2006-09-07 11:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by cbg_mx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody wants to be stuck in an unhappy relationship, as for u being selfish, well, i think not as long as you talk things thru, for the childrens sake.
2006-09-07 11:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by Petal62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no point staying in a relationship that's not working. And staying with someone "because of the kids" is no reason at all. Children are sure to pick up on the misery and be affected by it, so you are doing them no favours.
And EVERYBODY is selfish at some point.
2006-09-07 11:55:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave ur partner and still keep in touch with the kids but also tell ur partner why u are soo unhappy and maybe u could works things out for the best and maybe not leave her the kids heart would be broken tho so think wisely
2006-09-07 11:48:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋