ive been with my boyfriend for two and a half years we have met when we were in the same university i loved him so much because he was different than the other guys he was so smart ambitious ,doing his masters andlater his PHD. but when i graduated and started my practical life i started to feel he is not suitable for me in terms of mentality i like in a guy to be analatical(analyze me and my thoughts,),deep,watch movies,thoughtful and beenin experiences my BF is the opposite but he loves me alot and i got used to him
2006-09-07 11:41:56 · 9 answers · asked by marmara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should tell him how you feel, it's not fair to him, he could be with someone who appreciates him as he is and you could be happier too. Don't live in a lie, get out before it's too late.
2006-09-07 11:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by interpreters_are_hot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me give you apiece of advice. Always do what is right for you and what you feel in your heart. You do not want to look back on your life 20 years from now and have regrets. I understand you feel comfortable with this person and I'm sure he is a great person...but it sounds to me like you are with him now because you feel safe and because he is your friend. Sometimes we "outgrow" our significant others in relationships, especially if we were young when the relationship started. I know you don't want to hurt him, but it is your life and you need to follow your heart and make the decision that is going to make you the happiest. Do not live your life for other people. You only get one shot to live your life, so do it your way...and don't be afraid to make a tough decision. Everything will work out in the end...and it's all a learning experience.
2006-09-07 11:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by vdubbchick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to sometimes accept what our partner doesn't have...traits that we would like for them to have...but if you left him and found another bf, then he will have something you will not like...it's because we are not perfect...2 1/2 yrs with one person is a good amount of time to be with someone, but it is your future and if you don't feel you will be truly happy with whom you are with now...Look for someone new, you only have one life and hopefully we will make good choices in our lives, and I do wish you the best!! Good Luck :)
2006-09-07 11:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by no_doubt! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, 2 and a half years are a lot... i mean, ur mentality changed over the years and this happened to him too...u don't find eachother in the same "cup" regarding ur views.....it's monotony between u and him, and this is normal in a such long relationship....and maybe the love turned ito respect for eachother....if there's no more passion or every little thing he does piss u off, then it's time to move on...
2006-09-07 11:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like we're in almost the exactly same boat. I've just gotten so used to my boyfriend that I can't imagine being without him, but I'm not entirely happy in our relationship. I just asked two similar questions (look at my profile.) We're both going to college, but he's more of an mtv / dance club / cancun spring break man, and I'm more like you're describing yourself. UGH! I wish I could offer you more help, but I'm stuck too. I would appreciate your input on one of my questions.
Good luck!
2006-09-07 11:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by Oooh La La ! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen getting used to him is completely normal this happens over time, believe me even if u had another guy who would offer u all these things that your former bf is not offering u, he would have some other problem that u'd wish he didnt have, so this happens with everyone, becuse nobodies perfect, u have qualities that he doesnt have and needs to learn and vice versa..
2006-09-07 11:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible for you to love him but it sounds to me as though you are recognizing that you two are not compatible. Compatibility is a huge and important factor in all relationships. so maybe you should have a discussion to see if you are going to be able to maintain a relationship despite your differences. best of luck to you
2006-09-07 11:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by cuteGIRL01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then quit wasting your time with him and find someone who you do click with!
2006-09-07 11:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by miss advice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell how you feel
2006-09-07 11:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋