Now she is going through the grieving process but she is also depressed about her entire life and wants out of our marriage. I don't know what to do and I don't know if this is part of the grieving or an entirely different issue. Any advice.
2006-09-07 11:40:47 · 13 answers · asked by RedC. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your wife is probably stressed out from the loss of her dad, and feeling hopeless. It probably will pass as time goes on and she realizes that even though her dad is gone, life goes on. It's probably her way of grieving and getting things out of her. You may have had marriage troubles in the past that she is venting her frustrations now. (It may be something you never knew was even wrong.) The best advice I can give you is try to console her. Be there if she wants to talk, give her privacy when she needs to be alone, give her all the affection she will accept (but dont smother her). But, most importantly - PRAY. Pray for your wife to be comforted and pray for your marriage to survive this difficult time. Good luck. I wish you the best.
2006-09-07 11:53:11 · answer #1 · answered by missie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression can very much be a part of the grieving process... The worst depressive episode I had was when my grandmother died. I didn't get out of bed for days and wrote some pretty far out things in my journal. I don't know what you can do in the case of your wife; depression does make one question everything in their lives, and it throws a black veil over every little thing, without the person even realizing it. Have you tried convincing her to get treatment? She needs to talk to a doctor or a therapist. You can certainly try marital conseling to address the problems you might have in your marriage, but she needs help with her depression first if it's out of hand.
2006-09-07 11:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 19:42:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grief manifests in a variety of ways. It may indeed be grief that is making her feel this way. When my mother passed away I found myself very dissatisfied with my life in general. It took about 6 months for me to pull myself out of the funk of grief. Why don't you suggest counseling? Both of you attend. Together and separately. Loosing a parent is the second worse grief a person can experience. Loosing a child is first, and interestingly, loosing a spouse is third.
Be very patient with her. You are certainly a very understanding person if you are recognizing that this might be part of the grieving process. I hope things work out for the best for you.
2006-09-07 11:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by Sabina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you lost your father in law, but she could still be grieving .
When you lost someone who was closed to you, it's hard to care about anything else in life, including the ones you love.
I think you should keep talking to her and help her through the grieving process. Hopefully it's a temporary thing.
Best of luck.
2006-09-07 11:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to go to counseling with you so that she can be sure this is a separate issue rather than part of the depression and grief she is going through. See if she can/will explain why she feels the marriage needs to end and work from there.
2006-09-07 11:44:30 · answer #6 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still grieving, she doesn't want to be close to anyone now, she probably thinking, why love someone when all do is leave. Just be as supportive as you can. And if it continues you may want to suggest for her to get help, losing a parent is very hard, we always think they will live forever.
2006-09-07 11:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by lexisdream47 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every one reacts differently in this type of situation. She might be pushing you away because she is scared that you might also die. Check you area for a support group that deals with death of a family member and if she does not want to go you go. Talking to others in the same type of situation sometimes helps. You obviously love your wife very much.
2006-09-07 11:48:08 · answer #8 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT normal grieving! Did she inherit a bunch of money that enables her to move on????
2006-09-07 11:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should play along and tell her the doors will be closed after she leaves you! If you act like a pussy now then she'll know she can manipulate you at anytime! so dont be weak!
2006-09-07 11:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋