Honest and polite answeres please.?

Question

Is there anyone out there in a polygamist relationship either male or female, that can tell me Honestly how it works and does it work, especially in the bedrrom department? Is there jealousies, and is it jst a male controll thing?

Answer 1

I think you're asking more about ménage à trois than polygamy. Often times 2 of the participants become very close and the other is alienated and forced out. Saying it never works isn't true, but it gets complicated, usually with jealousies involved. A relationship between two people is complicated enough. With 3 people each has a relationship with the other 2, creating 6 total relationships, instead of just 2, that's a 300% increase. Females can be just as controlling and even more so than males, so don't generalize please.

Answer 2

I have never been and don't ever plan on being in a polygamist relationship but from what I've heard the first thing is to set groundrules. If you have a set of rules that everyone knows and understands that should help with the jealousness at least a little bit. Some people have rules like some days of the week are one persons and other days of the week are someone elses. Some people all share the same bed and whatever happens happens. There are women who have multiple male partners, it just ins't a religous thing like the stories you hear about with the males and multiple women. Each situation is different and sometimes it will be a control thing while others it is a mutial thing with mutial understanding. Normally I would have to say that these relationships do not work, and they can be bad for children but not always.

Answer 3

About 10 years ago or so we had a family friend that my husband and I considered for a third partner. That kind of thing only works if everyone involved seriously and honestly considers how they would feel. People who are innately jealous or insecure would not thrive in that kind of arrangement. My husband and I agreed we could handle it but it, but in the end, the third party was too conventional to feel comfortable. Which was cool, no problem. We have never met anyone else that both of us would be happy with.

Polygamy between consenting ADULTS isn't a thing to hate or feel ashamed about. Its simply that some people feel complete as a trio or more. I can see the positive side. You have more immediate family around to help raise the children. Loving parents, no matter if they are step or what, are a benefit to children.

I say more power to those who find the right members to fill out their family unit, if they find that it works for them. For those who think it is weird, well, they don't have to worry about it.

By the way, bringing in the third member was MY idea, not my husbands and the friend was male.

To each their own!

Goddess Bless!

Answer 4

Go to www.polygamy.com and click on "Forums." You'll find serious discussion there, not here.

Here is one post:


I find myself in a situation where polygamy would be better than my present situation. I am happily married to a beautiful woman. We have a nice home where we have lived for many years. But something has happened. My wife is terminally ill with a slowly developing degenerative disease. I take care of her which means dressing her, fixing all the meals, helping her to the bathroom, helping bathe her and doing much of the work around the house and all the yard work.

Our home has plenty of room for another woman. We have three bathrooms, a spare bedroom, and many other rooms which we use for crafts, our computers and TV watching etc. We do have a housekeeper who is very friendly with both of us but another woman who lives here all the time and is part of the family could solve many problems.

My wife is unable to have sex anymore although she is still very beautiful. So I am aroused often but can't have a full sexual life. I know several widows who would love to have a relationship with me but I believe in being true to my wife and most of them do not believe in extra-marital sex anyway so that is not a good answer. I also know some widows that are having a difficult time surviving financially and keeping up their houses and yards.

I need help. Many widows need help. In my opinion a polygamous relationship in my home would be the answer to many problems. A worthy woman could have a better home and situation. My wife would have someone to help care for her. I would have someone to help me care for my wife. I would have someone to help with the task of keeping up a house and yard. The second woman and we would have a better financial situation. And yes another woman and I could have a sexual relationship.

So in my opinion there is a place for polygamy. The lives of three people would be better in many ways if a loving relationship between the three of us could be established.

I'm curious as to whether anyone agrees with my thinking. Also are there others who have situations that are just as friendly to a polygamous relationship as mine?

Another situation where polygamy can benefit both men and women is when a couple is young and the man and wife work. All goes well until the woman has a child. Then they have to hire a babysitter or the wife quits work. If the man were to take another wife, the new wife until she had a child could take care of the child of the first. As time goes on, a polygamous family has an ideal situation where some of the wives can work and some can care for the children. Many have said that it is better for a woman to have part of a good man than all of one who is no good.

In the situation above the benefits are clear. The women can work if they want to. Children can be cared for without costly babysitting costs. Women who want to take care of kids can do so. The women can alternate who is working too. And if there is love in the home all can have good sexual relationships and satisfaction.

Answer 5

Whats polygamist?

Answer 6

oh yeah there are jealousies... just read about it in "Roughing It" by Mark Twain

Answer 7

It was ok for awhile, but then I got arrested.

signed: Warren Jeffs.

Answer 8

it never works..