Im so scared?
my parents have always forced me to have all A's. if i got a b i got grounded. well i got my interim yesterday and i had 1 A, 4 B's, 1 C, and a D!!! I have never got a B before. The thing is im in highschool now and im also in the IB program which is incredibly hard. My mom wants me to give her my student ID number so she can see my grades online. i i do this i will be grounded for my grades. What do i do
p.s. im trying my hardest. but now i feel dumb because of my grades. i used to be the smart kid and now im just... u know.
2006-09-07 11:21:17 · 10 answers · asked by confused 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
You are NOT dumb. It sounds like your parents are expecting some fairly unrealistic things from you. They are going to find out, but, try to keep things in perspective. What is the worst thing that can happen? You'll probably get grounded right? Ok, then what?....I know it isn't what you want to happen to you, but it won't be the end of the world. You need to tell them before they find out some other way. Be calm, be honest, and let them know the demands you are feeling. Your parents just want the best for you and they may not realize how much pressure you are feeling. Just remember, when someone has expectations of you its only because you've given them reason to. You'll be fine and in the big scheme of things your grades in high school won't determine what kind of person, or how successful you will be in life. I never passed one single math test in high school and now I have a Masters degree.
2006-09-07 11:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by glitterprincess 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make an appointment with the high school guidance counselor. Tell him (or her) what you've told us here. He might arrange a meeting where both you and your parents attend. Having a third party present will help both you and your parents to discuss the issue without it becoming a high drama argument. Your parents need to hear that expecting straight As out of you isn't reasonable. You need to understand that getting a D is a problem and even a C means you're not understanding the material as well as you could. (Perhaps some tutoring would help.)
Even if the guidance counselor doesn't set up a mediated meeting, he or she will still be able to give you some good advice on telling your parents about your grades and what you can do to improve your grades.
BTW, the same thing happened to me when I was in school. I always got straight As easily in high school. But then I went to college and almost flunked out. It was because I was used to getting As without even studying. In college I had to work for my As. I found that out the hard way.
2006-09-07 11:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by vita64 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing in disguise. So after all maybe you're not THE smart kid but simply a kid who does very well at times and not so well at other times. Really you're a human being which your parents from what you said haven't quite understood yet.
If you did your best, you have nothing to reproach yourself with. And then, if you didn't do your best, you can still do so next time.
My parents used to behave in the same manner towards me. I got so fed up with it and it made my life very difficult. I got anxious when I should have been living a normal childhood.
Your parents will probably not be too happy but so what?? Is this a matter of life and death? Exams are not everything and they don't even guarantee you will have a good job later on.
Try to calm down but you're going to have to face your parents and tell them that this is the way it is and that maybe you're not as smart as they thought (of course being smart and good at school can be 2 different things altogether) but the point is to make them realise that you did your best and that you're not here in this world to be Miss Perfect or Miss Smart but simply YOU.
Good luck!
2006-09-07 11:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by hazelways 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your parents are way too hard on you. Of course you should do your best, but there is nothing wrong with B's or even C's. Even an occasional D isn't the end of the world. You really should not feel dumb...it sounds like you are quite intelligent. Talk to a counselor at school to get some moral support and advice on how to talk to your parents about your grades. You really shouldn't be stressing this much about it. Good luck!!
2006-09-07 11:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by just me 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this happens to everyone who enters high school. they were smart in elementary then in high school their grades start slipping. your brain hasn't changed its just school is harder now and you have to adjust to that. especially since your in ib. you should talk to your mom and tell her that straight A is impossible but you'll try. if she knows your struggling in ib her expectation maybe won't be as high or she might get you a tutor. that way, even if your still not getting all A's and you're trying really hard at the tutor, she'll know ib/high school is really hard. don't worry, your not stupid, school is just harder and thats normal. just try your best like your doing now. good luck!
2006-09-07 16:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by greenT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still the smart kid. You shouldn't care about what others think. Even though, if your parents ground you for getting a grade lower than an A, demand to see THEIR grades.
TALK TO A SCHOOL COUNCELOR. They'll help you.
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2016-09-30 10:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by spies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my children did very well in school I myself finish in the bottom 10% of my class how did your parent do,I think they are setting the standard to high your mother should see your grades but to punish is wrong
2006-09-07 11:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ok. Your mom loves you. If your trying hard your ok. Best of luck.
2006-09-07 11:26:08 · answer #9 · answered by Gabs 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't do much more than your best, school is not like it was 15 years ago it's harder for you guys now with our technology..
2006-09-07 11:29:27 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋