I have several questions in this regard. Why do women have to constantly diet, only to get fat again, then diet some more. Why do they make sure they look hot as hell for their wedding, and then become flabolas after the wedding? Why do they wonder why their men are no longer attracted to them when they gain 40 ponds? Why are the men seen as being Shallow, when they are no longer attracted to their KFC bucket hugging wife?
2006-09-07 11:17:56 · 18 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are right and I was listening to a therapist tell women that when they don't know why their man is attracted anymore, its because looks have a lot to do with why their mate was attracted to them in the first place and when you gain weight you become a different looking person than the person your mate met, so naturally they become less attracted to you. It is healthy to work out and maintain a weight that is average for your height and age. So when your mate don't look at you, you need to look at yourself.
2006-09-07 11:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by ~Ronyea Q♪ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually think this is a good question, not shallow, and I am a woman. OK, I also wonder why the men do the same thing? It all ties into how some turn into flabolas because of using food for a coping mechanism. I am in the military...I am 40 years old...weigh LESS than when I married my ex husband...and wear a size 4...well that didn't save my marriage... exercise and diet is a life choice...not a ready for wedding day choice...so hmmm even though I got up to 200 lbs when I delivered my son...my husband stood by me and loved me...and you know what that weight stayed off because of my mindset...
So if you can see what has happened and counter it with feelings of love...well...love her until she sees that you see her for what she can be...well...good luck guy...and if you are in shape...well, somehow...somehow...be her best friend, lover, and have something deeper than a sexual relationship.
2006-09-07 19:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by Marilyn C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its interesting. A lot of couples in my family mirror this very same thing...I have seemed to notice all these cases having one thing in common...the men aren't looking much better themselves! Here is my question...why are men who are sick of their KFC bucket hugging wife's not going out and getting another woman? I think it is because they cant. I think the complaining husbands should take a good look in the mirror too...9 times out of 10 he isn't the guy she married either.
2006-09-07 18:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are u generalizing so much? In my case, I have to eat a LOT because I'm a runner...I've never dieted and no, I am not fat. Quite the contrary actually. Besides, food is the best thing there is...period!
2006-09-07 18:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can simplify the answer to this question all of the questions you asked its the same way men do after they are married and guess what im sure you didnt know this but here goes there are some MEN who are OVERWEIGHT and EAT ALOT and gain even more WEIGHT.and the only person i think is SHALLOW is you for even asking this question!!!
2006-09-07 18:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before the wedding..Sex is good.
After the wedding..You guys couldn't find it with two hands, a flashlight and the National Guard helping you.
We eat to statisfy our hunger's because ALL men are too small to make us be full filled
2006-09-07 18:22:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women do it out of stereotype when they're depressed. Some women really do feel like eating when they're having emotions, but some do it just, because other people expect them to, in my opinion. I don't eat a lot. I can, but I don't necessarily. I only eat a lot when I'm really hungry or frustrated.
2006-09-07 18:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, I don't know. Why do men get bald, a beer belly, and grow hair out of their noses? Why do they stink up the bathroom all the time? All rhetorical. Really have an Oedipus Complex don't you, buddy!
2006-09-07 18:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some get comfortable with they way they look. Also they think since they are married then they don't need to look so good because they are not going out to attract someone, they got you now.
2006-09-07 18:22:34 · answer #9 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Due to the stress of husband's perfection, of course! We are perpetually intimidated by your motivational ball scratching, laundry on the floor, door slamming, toilet seat lifting, pee on the porcelain, constant farting and belching, dishes in sink leaving perfect seIves. Newsflash, boys, these things do not turn us on either.
2006-09-07 18:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by pixiechick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋