Does anyone hold moral values anymore?

Question

It seems the breakdown of society is upon us. The parents are lazier and the children run wild. Nobody seems to care about anyone's well being and sometimes not even their own. Sex is now, almost as casual as a handshake and even more common place. Has everyone just decided to forget about responsibility and let everything go to an all out disease ridden, hellish existence? Everyone wants to complain ,but nobody wants to do anything about it. Parents don't do their job anymore it seems. Is it that it just feels too overwhelming to handle so they let their kids do whatever they think is just short of killing them?

Lady? I'm not that old and I don't have kids! I know this because I see it first hand everyday. Parents are always making excuses and they opt not to actually have a hand in raising their children. I hear this one all the time "I only left them alone for a bit." or the classic "They'll be fine walking around; its a safe neighborhood." So are all those neighborhoods that show up on the news where stupid kids from stupid parents get kidnapped because they didn't feel the need to care. I'm sorry that I care about these terribly misguided people. I'm not saying live in a bubble ,but there's a place to draw the line!

I disagree with the whole "money" thing. You get what you work for and if you don't want to work for much then don't have kids. Its more simple than people like to make it. There are so many opportunities in the United States and there is little or no excuse as to why someone can't have at least a middle wage bracket income. Its called an education and it is available to those who wish to work for it.

Answer 1

Good question! Just today I saw 2 little kids on the sidewalk by themselves and I thought to myself - "where the heck are the parents?!?". I am so appalled by the way parents don't take care of their kids anymore. It makes me wonder why they have kids to begin with.

I haven't been blessed with a child of my own yet, but if I had a child right now, I'd teach the child to be more responsible and I would do my best to be a good parent. My child will have moral values and respect others. I see a lot of kids in my area get taken away from their homes by social workers.

Also today, I was out shopping and a kid who couldn't have been more than 4 years old, was imitating the way I walk ( I have a limp), and his mom didn't say anything to him. We need to teach our kids right from wrong from a very young age. If kids keep getting wild and out of control, this world will get more out of control.

Kids should be taught at home what it is to be respectful. They should be well educated. If parents get lazy, then their kids will grow up to be just like them and that isn't a good thing. No parents have any excuse for their lack of responsibility. Parents should be PARENTS!

I live in a safe place but I'd never let my 9 year old nephew out on the street alone. You are right to say that one never knows when some stranger will pop in the neighbourhood and kidnap your kid. I also agree with you that people who can't afford to have anymore kids shouldn't have them.

If working less is the answer to this issue, so be it. A child comes first, and we need to spend time with them. There are also jobs people can do from home but they are too lazy to find out about those jobs. People just want things to fall on their lap so they can have it easy. Kids need tough love sometimes as well.

If parents keep acting like they don't care about what the child is doing, before you know it that child will be lost forever.

Answer 2

Hi,

You're right on the whole line as far as I'm concerned. However, there are places and people in the world who still have values and still care.
It's sad to see that caring, looking after one's family, and so on don't seem to matter as much as making money, trying to go up the social ladder, impressing whomever, etc. The problem is that at the end of the day, we're all going to die and whatever we may have gained will then be completely insignificant.

It's really a problem about having instead of being or quantity versus quality. Kids have become possessions. You have kids and then you don't care about them because they're demanding and most people don't want to sacrifice what they call their cherished FREEDOM. But what is freedom other than anarchy?
If there are no rules or values, there is nothing at all other than a jungle with a bunch of animals wanting whaterver and doing anything to get it. If we cared less about so-called freedom and more about being responsible for our actions and following them through, there'd be well brought up kids who feel happy.
But it's so much easier to feed them a hamburger and give them some money to shut them up.

As to sex, well, it seems love means sex now. We live in a world where everything has to be physical, we deny just about everything else. Sex appeals to our lower instincts. It's the jungle and the animals again.
The only way to change this is simply not to be a part of it as much as possible.
If you can't handle kids, don't have them. If all you care about is sex, well, you'll never find love because it's beyond you. I dread to think what happens when people finally grow old with this conception of life.
But let's not think about this because we all have to be young, beautiful and rich. Nothing else seems to matter.

I like this quote from L Cohen.

Give me crack and anal sex,
Take the only tree that's left
and stuff it up the hole in your culture.

When culture is placed this low, it can only mean that something is wrong. It's nice to see that some people still care and are aware of this and also reject it.

Answer 3

Speak for yourself lady! Some of us do know where are kids are!

No kids was going to be my 2nd guess. Bad things happen to good people. Not all parents that have had a child kidnapped are stupid. Look up and read the story of Morgan Nick (local girl), I can promise you Mrs. Nick isn't stupid. I can also tell you she would lay down her life for that split second back. I don't know the Nick family but living here you can't help to not know of them.

And allot of good people have lost jobs for no fault of there own for allot of reasons. Then there they are with a family, they had a plan but life took a dump on them. Not everybody has a crystal ball to see the future. Arm chair parenting is easy, walk a mile in those shoes then lets talk. One last thought, just because something looks good on paper, doesn't always mean its going to work! Sometimes bad things happen to good people !

Answer 4

I see that all around me and it brings tears of joy to my eyes because my one and only child is a good man. He has a conscience. He has been at the same job his entire adult life, pays his taxes, gets promotions, pays his bills, etc. He has a beautiful wife and daughter. A dog, cat, car. He cares about people. Loves music. Maintains difficult friendships. Supports others while they improve themselves. Forgives flaws in his family. A really good person. There are some, so don't give up hope. Creating a child like that doesn't mean I was perfect. It means I never gave up and always took his side and always told him right from wrong and lived right as much as possible.

Answer 5

You should live your life the best you can and do what you think is right. I was raised Catholic. I am now Buddhist. Not everyone believes the same as you do. Everyone has the right to believe what they think is true. And sometimes it does not agree with what you think. I can not take the advice of a old man in a funny hat about birth control when he has no idea about sex or kids at all. Let him start an orphanage at Vatican City for all those babies that he forces poor women to have on pain of eternal damnation. They cannot even feed these babies and abandon them. But they are told they can not have birth control. Yes - let's take the word of a celibate old man on birth control.

Answer 6

I think that MANY people live in an egocentric world: ME ME ME.
I think that parents encourage this when they indulge their children with every imaginable material item. Maybe they do this out of guilt... both parents are working...poor kid...let's make him happy. I heard people talking about this,just today,at lunch. I see kids walking in the middle of the street, and I'm in my car,WAITING to get through. They look at me as though I am an inconvenience...I feel like getting out of the car and ...what? .....I don't want to hit them...I don't know. I DO know that I am sick and tired of this younger generation. I imagine that there are exceptions to the case. Where oh WHERE are they?
As to morals,a sense of duty....That's me,babe. I have a conscience and I listen to it.

Answer 7

before you blame parents you should try to understand why they're unavailable. i believe it's due to our economy. people are in debt up to their ears, work many hours either by choice or because it's mandatory, and in a lot of cases work 2-3 jobs just to make ends meet. minimum wage sucks, and the average family can not make it on one or even two min. wage incomes, thus why they're not around to be with their kids as much as they were in the 50's and 60's.

you said 'nobody wants to do anything about it'... what would you do? it IS a horrible existence, but with the hungry beast of capitalism in this country it won't get better until there's more of a balance in wealth distribution, health care, etc.

also, one could blame rap/hip-hop music, cable TV, paris hilton/celebrity worship and having to buy/own the latest fashions in school or you'll be ridiculed. it's SICK!

Answer 8

It's the kind of environment you are around. If you got nice wealthy parents your either a virgin till you die or **** like a bunny rabbit. If you are dirt poor and live in a shack then its the same thing. Its just the parents and the facts and what they are taught. But it doesn't mean they will listen.

Answer 9

Not many people hold moral values anymore! This a good question! But I know how to get good morals......but I would get a lot of thumbs down!

Answer 10

You shouldn't worry so much about things you cannot control. Live your life according to your principles and let the others live theirs. No one can tell people what to do with their lives just as no one can stop the consequences of their actions.