2006-09-07 10:46:27 · 11 answers · asked by Madgrape 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Partly, it speaks of a very good side of your characteristics. Maybe, you are not always the stupid conformist. Maybe, you are not an 'YES Man.' Perhaps you do have a distinct personality and a few strong opinions of your own, and you are not ready to give up your values.
Anyway, it is also equally true that it is no good if you don't compromise ever. Don't be rock like inflexible. Too much of anything is bad. Compromise but don't try to give up your 'self' totally. People, in the end, love the different ones. Romantic quest is always for the remote.
Yes, dissolve in the group but don't let your color be dissolved in it.
2006-09-07 11:09:36 · answer #1 · answered by Arrow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First if you feel like an outsider in a group then that group is not really for you. Be your self and hang out with people who share interest with.
However if you choose to still hang out with the group that makes you feel like an outsider then here are some things you can try:
1.) Try to participate in the activities they are doing. (Provided they arent breaking any laws of course)
2.) When they are talking, join in the conversation.
3.) Bring up topics that you are interested in and they are as well. That away they will be talking to you and you wont be standing there/sitting there feeling like an outcast.
4.) If they are close friends, tell them that sometimes you feel like an outsider and that you would like to feel like they care about you enough to include you in more things they do.
5.) Bring up things you like to do and ask them if they want to go with you.
2006-09-07 17:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by ~*!Lisa!*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what your going through, I am going through the exact same thing, I feel like the third wheel on the bus back home because I dont know about the things they talk about, and when they start saying stuff that I know, I am too scared to say anything. I know what to do though, impress them with a good joke or start a good conversation, then you'll be the center of attention.
2006-09-07 18:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I start a conversation with someone in the group. And I also keep in mind that I am probably not the only one in the group who feels that way.
2006-09-07 17:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by tina m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Become part of the group. You need to have self confidence in yourself and go for it. Introduce yourself. Ask others questions. Make others feel at ease around you by listening to them.
2006-09-07 17:49:27 · answer #5 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to get into the conversations with out being annoying. Don't butt in and be like... "what?" "who?" Look and see if anybody else is being kinda left out and start talking to them
2006-09-07 17:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stay on the outside!
2006-09-07 17:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by trial d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start your own group...
2006-09-07 17:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by KnowhereMan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engage yourself. Learn about the people, what their interests are, share your experiences, etc.
2006-09-07 17:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by It is . . . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmm... ask questions, get involved.
2006-09-07 17:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋