I wanted to major in Pysch 1st and my dad shot that down, now I'm majoring in Communications and he's putting that down too! This is something I want to do. I'm only in my 2nd year at a community college. I'm so tired of it. I just wanna cry and drop out of college and say F- it ... Please help! Nothing is ever good enough. Forgive me if I sound ridiculous, he just threw this at me now as I type.
2006-09-07 10:44:51 · 10 answers · asked by All I have to do is dream... 4 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
I wanted to thank EVERYONE for the wonderful,helpful insights you left! Everyone made a comment that made me feel better! I was feeling so down and with the care that you all showed in your answers, it got me out of my funk and back to the college-geared person I really am. Thank you all, so much from the bottom of my heart!
2006-09-07 14:58:29 · update #1
You can drop out and work at burger king for 6 bucks an hour. If you work hard the whole week you might get gas money.Stay in school but take some serious courses that will help you make some decent bucks-Daddy of a daughter with a masters degree making over 50k a year.
2006-09-07 10:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by super stud 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the past, I have had to deal with the same issue with my dad. It seems every time I had a big goal, like going to college or beauty school, he always made negative comments, such as " I think that will be too much for you to handle." etc... I can say, though, that whenever I wanted to go to Beauty School that I let that negativity from him influence me into getting mad and, after I got mad, I decided to show him that I could do it! In addition, I did indeed graduate from Beauty School, and currently, I'm a full time college student.
In my opinion, you're an adult. I think, maybe, you should look at it this way.... Your dad will not always be around, and you need to create a secure future for yourself and enjoy the type of career that you obtain. He will not be attending the college classes; you will. I have found that I do better academically if the subject of the class I am enrolled in is something I am interested in or like.
It is demanding enough being a college student, and you definitely don't need someone (especially a relative) in the back of your head planting seeds of doubt.
Hope this gave you some insight.
Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-07 18:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by Survivor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some night when you get a chance to sit and think make a list of all the careers you have the opporitunity to enter with a communications major. While you're at it, take it to some of your classes, and get some ideas from your fellow majors and the professors. I'm sure you could come up with a massive list, and I'm sure that would at least be a starting point to get the support of your father. Show him that the goal of a degree isn't the end of what you want to work for, and I'll bet he'll lighten up on you a bit.
2006-09-07 17:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by Aeterna Nox 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is your father choosing what you're studying and what career path you'll take? I have 2 daughters, 1 just got her degree in May the other's still working on hers but THEY'VE chosen their area of interest...not me OR their father. If your response is, because he's paying for it, well we paid, too. And if I were in the same situation I would take out deferred loans and study what I wanted, not what someone else wanted. I'll never understand why some people want to control others....
2006-09-07 18:01:01 · answer #4 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, you are in college now. I think it's time for you to start making the decisions concerning your life, not your dad. I know how it feels to have your dad go against everything you do because my dad is just like that. He never wants me to do anything. I guess you just have to dig up some confidence and have a talk with your dad. Tell him what you feel and what you want to do with your life. If he still dosen't listen, then just do what you need to do. Don't let that get you down, just think positive.
2006-09-07 17:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by Libby 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your daddy lived his life, now you live yours. If you wanna major in Basketweaving then he should respect that. Please don't make this into an issue. People who do what their parents suggested are not happy. Do what need to do to make you happy. The worst thing you can do is drop out, keep at communications and do the best you can at it. We're waiting to see you on TV!
2006-09-07 20:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by MadameJazzy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you letting your dad decide what you do? It is your life not his. You go into whatever major you want to. Don't let him discourage you. In the end it will be YOU that is making money doing something you love, not him.
2006-09-07 17:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by teeniey37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents havent always agreed with my decisions but you are an adult and you are the one who is going to have to work for a living for thext 40 + years. So YOU do what you want to do. Just say," I appreciate your concern dad, but this is what I want to do with my life." If he gives you grief, just suck it up and know oyure doing what good for you.
2006-09-07 17:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by darcys_wifey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me it's your choice. What has he suggested? Does it seem plausible to you?
Maybe he's intimidated by any type of higher education
2006-09-07 17:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by pdudenhefer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, it's your life, shouldnt be up to him. I hope you manage to stick out at what you want to do, not what someone else does!
2006-09-07 17:51:15 · answer #10 · answered by homiepr8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋