when my husband is being nice i love him so much but when he's not i really hate him is it normal to have these extreme feeling for one person? oh and when he's not being nice he's awful and getting worse
2006-09-07 10:39:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there is a thin line between love and hate..you have to love someone to be able to hate them..that's cause it hurts so bad when someone you love does something bad to you
2006-09-07 10:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by Billie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal to have swings of emotions from loving them to death to wanting to beat them to death with a frying pan!
However I do wonder what you mean about him being awful and getting worse - it might be something you need to seriously look at and deal with.
Hating him because he's been very selfish on a particular ocassion, forgotten your birthday, broken your favourite possession or left dirty clothes on the floor for a millionth time is normal.
If you are talking about him being abusive - that's different - no matter if it's physical, sexual or verbal - you need to address the issue, get advice and help from friends and relatives if it's something like this. Sit him down when he is being nice and explain (nicely and calmly) how his behaviour is affecting you and ask if there is a solution the two of you can work on.
If none of this works you might want to consider getting out of a bad situation premanently - if it's really bad don't sit around hoping it will get better somehow - it won't, if he's not willing to work on a solution that suits both of you - get out and stay out.
Good luck.
2006-09-07 10:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by weatherwax1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one hate is a reliable be conscious yet iknow all of us use it yet convinced. there are circumstances the position i couldnt stand my husband then others the position i loved him a lot i wouldnt enable him out of my sight. i imagine each so often we take issues to some distance and in go back our husband deal with it the proper way the know to yell back and typically say hurtful issues. it is after I cant stand my husband. yet see you later as u get over it the i imagine u are wonderful. basically remeber u love him and married him for that. if u want tell him u love him continually. supply him a kiss or a hug before he gos to artwork or perhaps as he comes homestead besides the undeniable fact that it has to very last for 5 sec. throughout the time of those 5 sec alot is going on and that's for the more desirable proper. it makes u experience sturdy and who's acquainted with what that would want to lead on on too. properly dangle in there and sturdy success
2016-11-25 19:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by ruffino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there is such a thing as love/hate relationships because I'm in one myself! Sometimes when he's gone (his business takes him away from home 4 to 5 days a week) I can't wait for him to get home and when he's home for a few days I can't wait for him to leave again! Don't ask me why though! Guess I should be thankful he's not home 24/7! But I love him!
2006-09-07 11:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by tess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have extreme mood swings about people lets face it we are human. However if the other person is violent or threatening in nature you need to get out of the situation.
2006-09-07 10:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling we're both in the same boat. I just want to SCREAMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM!!!! Sometimes the wife can be so bitchy that I want to slam the door in her face. At times she can be the nicest person in the world and I'm lucky to have her. Right now I'm just so depressed I don't know when it will end. Thanks for letting me rant and get 2 points for it. would love to talk to you if you want.
2006-09-07 10:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but the feeling is not really "hate". It's more like "anger".
2006-09-07 10:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup you can....... not sure if what you are feeling is real HATE, maybe disappointment and frustration ?? and if he is getting meaner then there is an underlying problem there..... YOU need to find out just what is going on...... not sure how, but I think you need to dig in your heels and talk to this man....... God bless
2006-09-07 10:43:26 · answer #8 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he get's mean and awful, tell him to "pump your break's".
2006-09-07 10:43:36 · answer #9 · answered by Tonya L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can
2006-09-07 10:43:00 · answer #10 · answered by cslynn1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋