i have been in love with her for 3 years, i always think of her when im watching romantic shows and will always put myself as the guy and she as the girl . i masturbate to her everynight . i love her so much i only reply to her msg and no one else, i only chat with her on msn but not one else .
our friendsip is quite a healthy one, we go out often, play with each other and stuffs like that . im afriad she might find out some day.
i wanna stop loving her and be a real frieand to her, but how can i ?
2006-09-07 10:21:14 · 18 answers · asked by paranoid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Its only natural to have feelings for someone. Three years is a long time to have feelings for someone and can imagine that it can be difficult being around her, especially as you cant be romantic with her.. well, for now.
I dont think that you should tell her straight away how you feel as she might not see you in the same way and may jeopardise your relationship which im sure you do not want. Wait a little while longer and see how she acts towards you. If she dates males then she is clearly straight and will not be interested in the same sex.
Do not be afraid to tell her you're gay, if she's your friend she will support you. If you're getting upset over your feelings for her maybe you should not spend as much time with her for now. Try and do things with other people so you can get your mind off her, its not healthy to only have her as a friend.
If you mingle with other people this will give you more of an opportunity to meet someone else.
You sound like you care about her so just enjoy each others friendship and make the most of the fun you have together.
Everything will work out for the best!
2006-09-07 10:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by hmi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a tough question, but if I may try. I had a simliar situation and it turned out that it went physical and was a "fling" for a short period, and we both kinda "woke up" to what we were doing and stopped it. And then from there on, could not really get along and be friends. We drifted apart in a kind of "eww" way.
And then I swung back over to guys without any difficulty at all. But lost a friend. So what I am trying to say, is if you can, try to avoid all that and find interest in another guy and start dating (unless really females is your thing, this won't work). I hope this helps a bit....
2006-09-07 10:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by sexy34 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't, at least not a very close one. Once she finds the right person for her, you will be jealous no matter what because you love her. She will then move on to spending more time with her lover than you, whcih will hurt you more. Once she finds the one, your friendship won't be as close as before because she spends time with her main squeeze.
You can be friends with her, but it won't be very open or close, especially if you don't tell her your real feelings for her. I think out of respect to her and yourself, you should tell her, especially if you really value the friendship as something full of trust and honesty. You should then accept the outcome. If she is lesbian or bi, she may desire you and you can live happily ever after. But if she's straight, you have to accept the fact that you can never be as close with her as you would like.
2006-09-07 10:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, you'd probably want to confess your feelings. Not for the purpose of forcing them on her, but so she's aware. It's rather unfair to hide something like that from someone you claim to care about.
You can't stop loving her ... unfortunately. It can be hard. If it's any consolation, I've been in this situation.
Try to date people and broaden your experiences. If she's your 'first love', chances are you just haven't seen the possibilities yet.
Best of luck.
2006-09-07 10:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Adrian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is how i felt and nevertheless experience approximately my bf. We have been sooo close. i might attempt to get her to return out to me. I deep down felt like she enjoyed me too. She reported she purely kinfolk member female and it became right into a factor. So we by no skill did something approximately it. She left for college and that i think of approximately her primary. final twelve months she got here as much as pass to and that i instructed her I had the main important weigh down on her and she or he got here out and reported she had a weigh down on me too. the priority now became into she is in college some distance away and has a woman chum already. don't be SHY. do no longer loose WHO must be the affection OF YOUR life!!
2016-10-14 10:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid that you will never be just a friend to her. You love as a lover would love his/her girlfriend. If you tell her you can loose her forever and if you don't it will kill you inside. Start a conversation about this and see how she feels about being a homosexual. You might never know, she might want you too.
I hope this helps you a bit.
2006-09-07 10:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her how she feels about you. My wife went through that with her best friend in high school, and they ended up being lovers for five years.
2006-09-07 10:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by Sean J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just can't help it if you are a lesbian and if she find out about how you feel may cause her to loose your friendship if you not careful how you let her know your feeling.Be careful
2006-09-07 10:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by Happy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant help who you love talk to her about her preferences maybe shes bi or a lesbian? good luck i hope the best for you
2006-09-07 10:24:30 · answer #9 · answered by irunwithscissors25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your hetro and you tell her she's going to freak out and not want to be around you.
2006-09-07 10:23:51 · answer #10 · answered by TheMightyOne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋