the problem is our families hate eachother coz of the way we were in the relationship, hes 28 and im 20 he tells me he still loves me but i dont know what to do about it can anyone chuck some adivce my way, i love him he loves me surley we shud be together right.....
2006-09-07 10:18:51 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're both over 18 so you can tell your families to go Pi-ss up a rope!
The Age difference is No biggy either! I'm 6 years older then my wife.
The Only thing you might be risking is if either one of you is receiving financial assistance for college or other things. Only then do your parents have something to hold over your head.
The bottom line is you are Both Legal adults and your families don't have Thing One to say about your relationship! The question is; Do you have the Stones to tell them that to their faces???
Chances are if you two hooked up permenently, your families would get over it in time!
2006-09-07 10:35:09 · answer #1 · answered by thart090 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This one is hard I'm sure.
Your family is important, that's all you have in the end. You are an adult now and should be able to make adult decisions. I don't quite understand why they hate each other. How were you in the relationship that would make them dislike each other so intently?
When my boyfriend and I fight, I try not to let my family know what it's about. Mostly because at that time I'm feeling emotional about the situation and may not be able to give them level headed information. Only information biased by the way I'm feeling at that time. If I were to give my family this information they will form probably a not so pretty picture of my boyfriend. My point is, possibly this is what happened??? If that's the case, maybe this is something you should work on if you get back together to avoid the family fueds.
2006-09-07 10:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by Heather S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's enough info. But if you to really love each than find out what the problem in the relationship is or was and work on that. You don't have to listen to your families because they aren't the ones in the relationship. I think it will get better if they see you two are in love and treating each other right, but it will take time. And if they see you are truly happy than it should change. Just concentrate on making it better for you two first.
2006-09-07 10:25:53 · answer #3 · answered by billy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are trials in every relationship. The questions I would be asking myself is "why does my family dislike my 28 year old boyfriend" and "why did we break up in the first place?"
Make a list of answers to both of these questions, then make a list of why you think you should be together. If the good (why we should be together) out weighs the bad (why we broke up and why my family doesn't like him), you should get back together and try to make things work.
Good luck!
2006-09-07 10:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by Haus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do think that you guys should be together. I mean if you both still love each other, then go for. It shouldn't really matter what your families think it's not their life. But do listen to their advice because sometimes they are right. I guess I'm saying to follow your heart, but don't loose yourself along the way.
2006-09-07 10:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by hippie_at_heart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is an adult, if he really wants to be with you he would be with you. He is using his family as an excuse. He is feeding you a line of B/S. 28 and he needs his family's approval to be with you? doesn't this sound a bit screwy to you? if it doesn't, then you are the one who needs help. Find someone that will love and respect you for you not for his family. He doesn't love you, sorry. If he did nothing would stand in his way. Real love does that to you.. He a fake.
2006-09-07 10:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a decision you two need to make. If you decide to get back together don't expect to be bringing him home to Mom and Dad and expect plenty of guilt and grief from your family about it. If you two love each other and feel you can deal with the stress of this then I would go for it . Just be prepared.
2006-09-07 10:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is important to be honest with yourself at this time and decide if you are truly in love or lust. As a young girl--I did the same thing at age 19, it is easy to be in love with love. Everyone seems to be telling you that if you love each other that is all you need. well, think about the future. Do you want to be with him enough to leave your fam behind? And ask yourself do you think your fam is right, or do they have a point? You have to decide but in my personal experience and in hind sight I had to decide for myself (not my family) but it would've saved a lot of heart ache if I'd listened to them in the first place.
2006-09-07 10:38:45 · answer #8 · answered by Chooch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ask yourself why your families hate eachother.....How were you in the relationship? Sounds like you're old enough to make your own decisions-you're both adults. Do what you want as long as he's not beating you or no one's getting hurt-Then who's business is it who you see?
2006-09-07 10:30:47 · answer #9 · answered by court 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have learned you need to do what is happy for you. if they hate each other that's their problem. dont let that stand in the way of your happiness. besides, you are an adult and are capable of making your own decisions. i am 26 and have always listened to what my family had to say, but i realized that wasnt making me happy, i was making them happy. so now, i do what is in the best interest for myself....i live a lot happier now. so if you both love each other....i say GO FOR IT!
2006-09-07 10:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by Jacinda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋