I was married 4 months to my wife who treated me very cold. There was no romance or affection in our relationship. She acts like she hated to be around me. The only time I hear from her is when she needs something. This has me thinking something is going on. So I can across her journal, and yes I read it. She was straight dogging me out. Saying things like she wishes she could have sex with her ex again and just alot of bad things about me. i do eveything I can to make her happy. (she doesn't work) I'm thinking this marriage is to new for her to already feel the way she does. I may have been wrong for reading it, but I had to know something. She would have never told me the truth and she was draining me dry. What would you do in a situation like this. I mean she was saying some very hateful things about me and when I confronted her about it she said even more hurtful things.
2006-09-07 10:10:54 · 18 answers · asked by f119pw100turbofan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your marriage is ill. Fixing it will take major effort, IF it is fixable. You've got to decide IF you want to try. Perhaps your wife regrets marrying you. Your only hope is if both of you commit to being married. While you were wrong to read her journal, you can't unread it. I'd be very unhappy to see that my new bride was thinking about an ex, and badmouthing me, even in her journal. You two need to talk. Tell her why you read it, and ask IF she regrets your marriage, and if she wants to make it work. There isn't much point to trying, unless you both want to stay married. Good luck.
2006-09-07 11:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly you already know what you need to do she just wanted a security blanket and thats all you have been to her Im sure she gave you many clues that she wasnt into you and you chose to ignore them therefor making it even more easier for her to use you and when you go looking for something you usually find it Im sure it hurts that she would say such mean things in her journal about you but thats what it is her journal and if you didnt want to know then maybe you should have left it alone I think it would be best to let her and her ex have oneanother because most likely it will come back to her its KARMA so her ex is going to dog her out and evidently she loves it because she evidently doesnt have the mental capacity to understand that her EX is her Ex for a reason move on you deserve better.
2006-09-07 18:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. 4 months is too short.
Go to counseling.
You need to have some calm conversations about why she is so unhapppy. What did she want from marriage that she doesn't think she's getting?
Why doesn't she work?
If she doesn't want to work, she should at the very least have some sort of productive activity outside the home that makes her feel useful and important.
You should never have read her journal. You should tell her that.
If you want to work this out with her, you gotta figure out what it is that's made her into such a miserable jerk.
Though it sounds to me that she is one of those hollow people who can find no joy in themselves, and need to suck it out of the people around them. She needs counseling. You have to stop "everything you can to make her happy" cause seriously she's handling this like a child, and you are pretty much rewarding her foul behavior.
Good luck
2006-09-07 17:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest thing I read here is that she was not totally over her ex when she married you. And now she has issues because of it. She realizes she made a mistake and probably doesnt really love you, but now she wants him back and cant because of you. Have a heart to heart talk with her civilally and see where things stand. See if you can save the marriage or if its time to just move on and get out of this mess. Good luck
2006-09-07 17:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to give advice without knowing what went on during your courtship, and why you two got married to begin with. What's in this relationship for you? I can't imagine even considering to marry someone who is that hateful towards me. I simply don't believe that she "suddenly changed" right after you put a wedding ring on your finger, there must have been something going on before marriage - so you have to look within yourself and figure out if you married her for any good reason.
2006-09-07 18:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is time you move on. I was married to someone who after a few years just hated the whole concept of marriage. We split and that was the best thing for both of us.
2006-09-07 17:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Sen. John Blutarsky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her skank butt to the curb, quickly before she try to get alimony from you, better yet send her to the store and while she gone throw all her clothes in the yard and lock the doors leave a note that says go live with your ex cause you don't live here no more.
2006-09-07 17:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it but it sounds like divorce is inevitable. Remember the good times and find someone new who can make you very happy.
2006-09-07 17:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever enticed you to marry this girl...she must have shown her true color's long before the four months of marriage...drop her...move on with your life
2006-09-07 17:16:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you were nothing but a marriage of conveince. You need to get out now, grab a bag and run...
2006-09-07 18:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋