My wife and I have been together for 5 years and are in our mid 20's.
Were we going to wait another 3 years, but decided a month ago to start in a few months because we are both getting the baby bug.
My wife has been baby crazy for about a year, she has cried a few times when she came home after spending the day with her friends' babies. She said she felt sad because she wasn't a mother and it "hurt her heart."
Now that we plan to try for a baby she doesn't even want to look at baby stuff or talk about babies, she said she doesn't want to get her hopes up and make things worse for her.
Is this a normal thing for a woman?
2006-09-07 10:06:03 · 15 answers · asked by HappyHippo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
of course that's normal mr. "wannnbeadad"!
2006-09-07 10:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by ShaneA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Very normal.
Only, hold off on the baby shopping until you guys are pregnant. She doesn't want to get her hopes up because she's not pregnant yet and she doesn't know how long it's going to take to get pregnant.
Now, if it takes a while for you guys to get pregnant and you accumulate all this babystuff in the meantime.... it's just going to depress her and make her start thinking there's something wrong with her because she hasn't gotten pregnant as quickly as she had hoped.
And as a rule that I personally follow, I never buy baby stuff any earlier than 6 months. It's a big sigh of relief when the pregnancy makes it past the 3rd month but sometimes stuff happens in the 4th or 5th month. Granted things can happen at anytime during the pregnancy but for me, I know that the baby will have a decent chance of survival if anything happened past 6 months gestation.
Good Luck and Happy Baby Making!!! ;-)
2006-09-07 10:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by my_lil_buttercups 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is normal behavior for a woman in her 20's. Women want to have babies because it is a terrific feeling to create a life with someone they love and then carry their baby in their bellies for 9 months. Then to give birth to a baby that is part of her and take care of the baby is an unexplainable feeling. Women want babies, that's just the way it is. It's a woman thing and most guys will never understand. Women tend to get really anxious when it comes to being pregnant.
2006-09-07 10:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it is normal. Women are very sensitive about babies and having their own. The disappointment, if you didnt or couldnt get pregnant would be a lot to bear for your wife, so she is playing it safe and not getting her hopes up. When she gets pregnant I promise she will be over joyed and all she will want to do is look at baby stuff, buy baby stuff, even talk about baby stuff. Good Luck and I hope it all works out for you.
2006-09-07 10:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by mommylee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep it's normal, I'm 26 and there right now. All I can do it think of having a baby, but as soon as my hubby said okay let's do it, I freaked out and was so scared to get my hopes up. Us women, who can understand, I don't think we even do♥ Good luck in the baby making department to both of us♥
2006-09-07 10:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by ♥USMCwife♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely normal. I think our hormones go into overdrive at 25. Now that I have a daughter I keep wanting another baby. I keep fighting myself to stay on birth control since my daughter is only 10 months old.
2006-09-07 10:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by Kel K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At some point your hormones do start kicking in and saying 'I want something cute and adorable to take care of and grow and nurture and to be a part of both me and my husband so that we can be a true family and truly one' blahblahblah. It's a very strong urge that I'm trying to overcome right now, especially since I've already got one. *lol* Try to be supportive. She's not crazy, she's just dealing with something most everybody goes through.
2006-09-07 10:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to want a baby, but maybe she's being a little overdramatic, especially since you haven't even started "trying" yet.
2006-09-07 10:12:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is definitely a normal woman thing. Sometimes it works out good and sometimes bad. So think carefully before commiting to it.
2006-09-07 10:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by kaosvarkas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya its really normal....just be there for her and whatever yall decide to do GOOD LUCK!! In time she will get over it and move on or you guys will have a baby!
2006-09-07 10:11:15 · answer #10 · answered by CMA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! She is protecting her heart. Be loving and sympathetic during this time. Sound like she is sensitive already about it. Just wait until she really is pregnant, this will be nothing!
2006-09-07 10:11:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋