even if it was not you who got the abortion, i mean maybe it was your mom, daughter, girlfriend, sister, wife etc. Thank you for sharing with me.
2006-09-07 10:04:57 · 9 answers · asked by Suzie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
According to a study done by the Elliott Institute (http://www.afterabortion.org ), 93% of women regret aborting their babies, and men are affected by it as well.
If you or someone you know needs free post-abortion counseling, I highly recommend http://www.healinghearts.org They have excellent online post-abortion studies for anyone affected by abortion (women or men).
For more information on all aspects of abortion, see http://Abort73.com
2006-09-07 12:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unhappy would be putting it lightly. Emotionally torn up. Yes, indeed. Like all parents I wanted what was best for my child, unfortunately when a woman is not in a position to provide that, and adoption is not always available, she gets little choice.
I still KNOW I did the right thing for both of us, because I would not have been the mom I needed to be for that one, and very likely would not have been able to be the great mom for the 3 I later had. Keep in mind that if I'd had the first one, odds are I would not have met the man that I had 2 others with. One life choice always effects the future choices you get.
I've actually done it twice, that was the first time. The second time was harder because I already had 2 beautiful daughters, but I knew my boyfriend was freaked and would not have stayed around to help or father this baby. I had just gotten back on my feet financially after my daughters' father had disappeared along with the child support. We got by because my folks babysat for me while I worked but if they knew I'd gotten pregnant again, they'd have quickly stopped watching my girls. We would have ended up on welfare. If I'd had the this one, I would have plunged all my kids onto welfare.
I couldn't go with adoption (because I did seriously consider it) because my parents would have still backed off their help AND my boss would have stopped promoting me because of the pregnancy, still jeopardizing the welfare of my existing daughters. Plus, I couldn't figure out how I could satisfactorily explain to a 3 and 4 year old why I would give away their sibling. I was scared that would make them insecure. Little kids think very simply; I was afraid they'd think I might give them away too.
I am also at peace with that choice. 2 years later I had another oops, and I now have a son. (yes, choice doesn't always mean abort). I had a very bad delivery with him, I guess my uterus is just not right. I was cut in 5 directions to get him out and the doctor said any more babies would kill me. So, if I had gone through with the pregnancy 2 years earlier, I wouldn't have my precious son.
And yes to all wondering why on earth I'm not better with birth control, I was using birth control with all 3 "oops" babies. Oh..and I had my tubes tied after the last so I don't have to rely on "never fully protected" birth control.
2006-09-09 09:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl I knew in high school got pregnant multiple times and each time would go and have an abortion. That made me so angry, she was using abortion as her form of birth control. To keep creating life and then ending the life she created was selfish and irresponsible of her. In college my friend got pregnant, and the guy who got her pregnant had another girl pregnant at the same time. He told my friend that she was on her own and that he was going to support the other girl and her baby, but not my friend's. She went home, confessed all to her Mom and asked her Mom to go with her when she got her abortion. That made me sad, and my friend was sad too.
2006-09-07 18:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes - very much so. The path to healing is to forgive yourself. Look back and learn from the situation. Ask your self if you could do it again, would you? If not, then move forward and understand why you would change it. If yes, you need to do some soul searching and find the real problem. Are you sad that a life was taken or that you (or someone you know) got caught?
It can take a long time to forgive yourself for your mistakes, but you can't move on until you do.
2006-09-07 20:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my friends in high school got pregnant about half way through our senior year and she had an abortion. She said her parents made her. I made me VERY SAD AND MAD at the same time. I couldn't believe she would end this poor babies life and blame it on her parents. I still think about the baby and am saddened.
2006-09-07 17:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by mommylee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it really, really depends on the persons situation. i'd be pissed off if it was a stupid whore who goes around with millions of guys who got pregnant and had an abortion. it was her own fault. but what if a 12 year old girl got raped? hmm? it's sad but, it probably should happen then.
2006-09-07 18:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
a girl i know had one. it didnt make me mad or sad or none of that. she thought she was too young to give birth to a kid n didnt wanna go through bein pregnant n all that. i dont think she really wanted to get one, but just thought that was the best choice. everyone got their own opinions on abortion
2006-09-07 17:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
umm yes it makes me pissed of when people do that it is soo mean but in the end u feel good knowing that person who did that to a poor helpless child is going to HELL
2006-09-07 17:17:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hey, it's a girl's choice. No one can judge her, not even God, because it didn't stop her.
2006-09-07 22:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by El Aaron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋