I'm more than 10 yrs older than my wife... she's in her early 20s. We love each other. We've been married for over three yrs and she said I'm her best friend. She's fine, I mean she has her beauty, but she doesn't have any friend. She only wants to be with me and I can't go out with my friends anymore. We fight if I come home late, or if I drink... come on I want to live a little, what's wrong with me? She doesn't drink smoke or go to the club (which is good other wise too many guys will be all over her) but is that stopping her from having friends? She said, if she goes out and get to know people, I will be mad because people her age are most likely just want to get hook up and she doesn't want to be around them. She only likes to read and no she's not a nerd, but what's wrong with her. I mean she's pretty, funny, she loves to cook, she takes good care of my daughter and the house. Sex is great, she's demanding, who knows... people said what more do I want, but can't I have a life?
2006-09-07 10:04:56 · 12 answers · asked by S_M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is trust issue on her part. Have u given her any reason not to trust u? If not, I would say she's just very insecure and doesn't realize the importance of having space for the couple to do their own things. U have to communicate this with her without sounding threatening. Encourage her to get her own activities and hobbies. She can still have friends but she has a choice to pick and choose her friends wisely. Take her with u once in a while so she doesn't feel as though u are abandoning her when u go out by yourself. U can't just expect her to accept this readily. U have to make her understand it from your pt of view so start communicating.
2006-09-07 10:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you try and socialize as a family, with other families.
this would open up some possibilities where she would find acceptable friends who are similar to her.
I suggest that you stop coming home late, and drinking. I suggest that you find things to do that are social that she could be comfortable doing with you.
I think a little counseling is in order. It's not right that she has no friends, and that she's seems so insecure. I think you need to work with your wife, and try to figure out how to get around this.
Maybe you could work towards a guys night out, that she could live with, but right now, I thnk if you continue to push the "can't I have a life" angle she's going to feel like you're not happy with her. She'll be angry with you. You need to slow down on the external life, and try to figure out why she's such a recluse.
Good luck
2006-09-07 10:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is displaying symptoms of some greater fear. Consider your self lucky but it seems that she really doesn't trust you in social situations where there are other females, i.e. the bar, and the opportunity for interaction. Without allowing anger to arrive, attempt to have a conversation with her about what the real problem is. Maybe she is a real homebody that wants the social arena of her home and family. Are any of the neighbors her friend, does she interact in neighborhood, any relative nearby. Talk to her, unless of course, you're really fooling around with someone.
2006-09-07 10:15:50 · answer #3 · answered by jack w 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 06:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is being honest with herself here..... she knows the problems that can come up in the outside world.... she is being an adult and keeping herself from temptation.... so dont be so hard on her..... she does need friends tho, maybe a get together once a month with mutal friends, couples ya both know.... she has moved on from the single life and knows what she wants out of a marriage..... why cant you see this ? I know you feel you need a life, but YOU chose to marry and have a family, right ? so dont cry wolf now and try to back out of a decision YOU made...... sorry, but that is just the way it is....... God bless
2006-09-07 10:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Apparently, she's made YOU her whole life. I think a bit of therapy is in order! If she's this clingy now, it will only get worse! I think she needs to be told that you have friends you want to be with sometimes and she needs to do the same or find out in therapy what her obviously deep-seated emotional problems really are!
2006-09-07 10:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by melfc2006 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could win her round with a deal!
she goes out once a week you go out once a week & BOTH go out once a week
if its gonna work i'm afraid yule have to ride it
i was the same in my younger days but now im not so insecure
or if she's that bad sit down & TALK too many people walk away as its easier!! takes 2
2006-09-07 10:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She hasn't changed since you married her, has she?
You do have a life it is with your wife and daughter. You should not be going out to bars and partying, grow up. You are a married man, If you continue down the trial you are taking, you will lose your wife, daughter and home. Oh, but you will have your bar buddies! Live a little! JERK!
2006-09-07 10:15:42 · answer #8 · answered by soar 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are being selfish. How could she go out if she's taking care of you and your daughter? You need to start doing family things and not that of a single person....YOU'RE MARRIED, Yo!
2006-09-07 10:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by Tonya L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you two have a different definition of marriage.
2006-09-07 10:09:32 · answer #10 · answered by proud mom of 2 girls 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋