My intercourse with my husband is very painful. It hurts a lot for me. My husband said that it happens for everyone & after some time it stops but I cannot take that pain I am married since last 3 months & not a single time I have had happy time with him. I feel bad for him; I cannot see his sad face (though he has never said a word till now). Every time I think I should tolerate the pain but I can’t. In the last moment I start crying out of pain & he stops. He wants to take me to a doctor but I am not comfortable with that. Pls help. Tell me if this is common with all & also some tips to over come this.
2006-09-07 09:48:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Go to the doctor. You need to get over being uncomfortable talking with a professional about your difficulties. It is not normal to have that much pain so you need to have it checked. Good luck to you.
2006-09-07 09:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not normal and you need to see a Dr. See a woman Dr. Do you suffer from Chrons or Ulcerative Colitis? Both are Imflamitory Bowel Diseases. You could have a fistula which is an adnormal opening between 2 areas which could be the source of the pain or it can be Endometreosis, or some sort of Pelvic disease or even cancer. Please see your Ob/Gyn as soon as possible. Good Luck! ( It could also be psychological and from tense muscles-a learned response from the first time it really hurt).It could also be a too thick hymen all of which are treatable.
2006-09-07 09:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by PROUDJEW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT COMMON. And you need to talk to a doctor. It is an embarrassing topic, but what is more important. Your relationship with your husband or talking to a doctor that hears this stuff everyday. After begin talking, you will find that it is not as embarrassing as it seems right now.
Please, do it for yourself and your husband. Something medically could be wrong. Dont wait any longer.
2006-09-07 09:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tracey H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is common when you first begin to have sex. Also on you first times together you may be doing it frequently and this can cause pain. Still, after 3 months, you should not have this. Please let your husband take you to see a doctor (gynecologist). This is not right and she/he can help you. Do this for yourself and for your husband.
2006-09-07 09:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by diturtlelady2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Painful intercourse is not that uncommon. Some people have complications with it. You should see a doctor about it and see what is the cause. Vaginal and anal intercourse shouldn't continue to be painfull. Try using more lubercation.
2006-09-07 09:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by Allan M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pain in intercourse is not abnormal but after 3 months it should be decreasing. pain increases when you are nervous which causes tenseness. Pain should decrease with use of ample amt's of lubrication and with plenty of foreplay. If pain remains so painful that it brings you to tears then a doctor visit is imminent.
2006-09-07 09:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by Chooch 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to spend more time on your before he tries to enter your vagina. It's called foreplay, and when you are stimulated enough and relaxed, it will not hurt, it will feel wonderful.
Ask him to gently try his (clean) finger first, and then try two, etc.
You both have to take your time and go slow, eventually it will all come together (no pun intended).
You should also see a gynecologist regularly.
2006-09-07 09:54:13 · answer #7 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it´s not common, you MUST SEE A DOCTOR, your husband is right.
2006-09-07 09:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by Isadora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no its not common he is right you should see a doctor
2006-09-07 09:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might have vaginismus, but it is treatable. See www.vaginismus.com for more information.
2006-09-07 17:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by * tj * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋