I have seen so many questions on here from woman who are hurt by their husbands looking at porn and don't know what to do about it and think the only answer is to ignore it. But I know how that can eat you up inside and take away your self respect, making you feel not good enough or beautiful enough and you don't have to take it! Your husband should love you and respect you enough to quit this bad habit and cherish you. If he can't he is not a man but a boy who has no self control. But it is hard because this has become something that is so socially acceptable that men don't realize they are doing anything wrong. But what about the woman who subject themselves to this? Do they have no self respect? I have seen a couple of specials where some of these girls talk about doing these shows or photo shoots and then regret it. A lot of these girls also say that they were abused when they were younger. Why not do something respectable with their lives instead of demeaning themselves?
2006-09-07 09:25:29 · 6 answers · asked by hideemosquito 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Sorry if the question is a little jumpy but thank you for taking it seriously. I disagree that porn is a healthy release, I think that it teaches men (women) that sex is just sex when really it should be an intimate act between to people who love eachother. I also think that it is terribly sad the way that sex in general is viewed by society...it seems like the younger generation (and I'm only 22) has turned it into something that is just a game. I just wish that girls could see how much they are degrading themselves and step up find other ways to empower themselves. I see how men look at women in everyday life and it disgusts me. Some of them just have no respect and it's sad because woman are incredibly smart and creative and capacle for so much more than just showing off their bodies. And my husband and I have a great sex life and he is very satisfied and I am very comfortable with my body and he likes it too. Thank you very much!
2006-09-07 09:26:16 · update #1
You Go Girl!! I totally understand and have been there myself, and yes it sucks.. but with the society these days they probably dont think it is that bad.. I told him to stop I was gone! He has been good ever since.. and yes I do still check and probably always will until I totally trust him again and I made that real clear to him.
I have also seen those specials.. They are heartbreaking and sad!! I wish there was more help out there for people. This world is real sick and with all the technology its getting worse and more seen by the world and "accepted" like you said!
2006-09-07 09:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay well now woman shouldn't get all upset over their man looking at porn or looking at other woman for that matter, Sex is a very natural thing, and it is very natural for us to find others attractive not only our spouses and get aroused by them. It is the way of the world and believe it or not the way god made most of us. We are supposed to be attractive to the opposite sex in order to reproduce and carry on.
I think the men who get obsessed with porn do so because it feels good, and they like feeling good, face it people orgasms are the bomb.
Sex is just sex, that is the way it was meant to be, humans evolved and decided that this should only be when you love somebody. why i don't know. if it's your thing go for it, and through time again people are loosening up and deciding to enjoy sex again and not be ashamed of doing with more than just one other. And in the future as all things in life makes a circle it will be frowned upon again until the next sexual revolution after that and so on and so on.
And as far as the porn stars, yes some were abused, some are hooked on drugs and some just love having sex. Others do or did it for the money. They all have their own reason, and most are not ashamed of what they do nor should they be. After all if their wasn't a demand for it by people men and woman alike, then their would be no use for them.
2006-09-07 16:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know a lot of people out there think looking at porn is a personal choice, and women should put up with men who do this. Well, it's also our choice as women if we find it degrading, and we don't want to be with a man who does this. If my man insisted on looking at pornography even after I made my views very clear, I would leave him. It's very important in a relationship that people agree on the values that are important to them. However I think a lot of women today aren't even sure what their values are, so they let themselves be dragged down by the objectification of sex. It's really unfortunate.
2006-09-07 16:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you. I am only 26 and I think porn is a disgusting, degrading, unhealthy habit that replaces a beautiful, healthy relationship with fantasies that don't even exist. It is extremely addicting and it erodes the man's mind and makes him choose the computer or a video over a real live woman who loves him. Regardless of what anyone else says, it's harmful!!! My husband and I get along GREAT without it!!!
2006-09-07 16:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If its obsessive, it is a problem. I am divorced from a man who watched it all day. I was the breadwinner. He started to insult my body (he was fat) and then suspected me of boinking my co-workers because I think he started to believe the themes of the porn. (Pizza guy, etc) Be careful. He later became abusive. Leave before it gets that far.
2006-09-07 16:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Most can. The ones who are willing to take their clothes off for approval are the ones who can't.
2006-09-07 16:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by rhymingron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋