I am 8 months pregnant and sexually spoil the man and I've been catching him looking at porn constantly on the internet... He lies about it.. Like he didn't know he was clicking on it. Yeah I know Im pregnant but it's not like I m a bloated cow or anything.. I dont get it. He wont stop and he keeps lying...
2006-09-07 09:24:16 · 30 answers · asked by Tiffany A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he is embarassed about it, otherwise he would own up to it.
pornography can be an addiction just like alcahol. It is hard, especially for men who are hardwired and so visually stimulated, to fully quit that addiction. Especially since its available 24/7, for free.
trust me when i tell you, its not you... its him. you could be the hottest woman on the planet and he would still do it. just take time with him to tell him (calmly) how you really feel about it, and see if you can find a solution. good luck
2006-09-07 09:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by xrionx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looking at porn can be a natural and healthy part of a man's sexual fantasy life. when he's having sex with you, he's often fantasizing about doing it with his favorite movie star. however, this additional arousal generally translates into more passion directed your way, so it can be mutually beneficial. for him to lie about it, however, shows that he is uncomfortable with it. This is frequently caused by early religious or family experiences, or by your attitude. if you are adamantly against porn (demeaning to women, etc) and he loves you and wants to please you, then he will feel guilty because he knows you don't like it. Perhaps in the porn he is watching, they are doing things that he would like to try, but he thinks (or knows) you wouldn't. What you might have here is a real opportunity to sit down and discuss both of your sexual preferences, and see if you can find some compromise that will result in more sexual enjoyment for you both. Perhaps you have a secret fantasy or two that you would like for him to fulfill. As to your pregnancy, some guys see that as their "lover" turning into "mother," and that can be a problem for them. Once again, communication is the key. He needs to know you are still your sexy, desirable, easily aroused self, and it won't hurt the baby, and is completely natural, just like porn. What a great opportunity for several months (until delivery) of very special and creative (to accomodate your new shapes) sex, something you both can only have when you are p.g. As in all marital situations, communication is the key. Tell him in a loving way that you still want him and need him and are turned on by him. If, however, it turns out that he prefers fantasy porn to real sex with you, then make an appointment with a counsellor - that would definitely not be normal.
2006-09-07 10:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by hasherbob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok before you beleive anything anyone else says, listen to me! You need to seriously sit down and talk with him about how you do not like that he is looking at porn on the interent or where ever else. Ask him why? and then tell him and even threatin him, that if he ever wants to see this child he will stop. Porn is not healthy in a relationship and if you have to go to counceling, you should be his one and only nothign else.
2006-09-07 09:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by justwaitingtoleave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn can be as addictive as alcohol or tobacco, he can give up porn he will just have to go through a few days of withdrawal. Good Luck!!
2006-09-07 09:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
porn is an addiction. once you start it is extremely hard to stop even if you have a women who you are constantly having sex with. i've been there and i had to make myself stop because it was getting out of control. what you have to do is sit down with him and let him know how it makes you feel when he watches it. but just remember that it won't be easy for him to stop. its just like being addicted to a drug. be patient if he is really trying to stop
2006-09-07 09:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's more than likely hooked, otherwise he wouldn't lie about it. As long as you guys have a home office he can lock himself away in and watch after the baby's born, I don't think there is a whole lot in your power you can do about it. Sorry, I know I didn't really offer any help here.
2006-09-07 09:28:08 · answer #6 · answered by GirlUdontKnow 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
´cause you learn a lot things from porn, such as positions, how to make feel good the other person,
you learn even if you don´t want to
2006-09-07 09:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by da 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then stop asking, him and he wont be lieing, hes a grown man if he wants to masterbate to porn then let him , its a natural tension relief,, hell try getting into it with him, give him head while he watches it
2006-09-07 09:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't tell any one this ....ok....but alot of men find pregnant women disgusting they canot separate the birthcannal from the potanga in our heads. you may want to try manual sex each time he is on the net .kind of like dogs and the newspaper on the nose thing bot much much deeper
2006-09-07 09:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
explore it with him. stop seeing it as something evil. watch it with him maybe. ask him what it is doing and what he is thinking while watching it. Maybe you would like it too, maybe not, maybe just some. Anyway, communicate about it. If someone was sexually spoiling me, I would have no use for it at all.
2006-09-07 09:27:40 · answer #10 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋