was it a mistake to get pregnant within a month after having a miscarriage?

Question

I got pregnant the first month after a miscarriage. Now I can't enjoy being pregnant because I'm scared it's going to happen agian. Any thoughts?

Answer 1

Best wishes and hope everything goes well this time.
Relax and try and be positive if you can, congratulations.

Answer 2

First, I'm sorry for your loss, but happy for your pregnancy.

I've had 2 miscarriages this past year, and I know exactly how you are feeling. After my first miscarriage, I couldn't get pregnant fast enough, I just wanted it again. Then 7 weeks into it, I found out that I was going to miscarry again. This time around I've not been so anxous to be pregnant again, for the very reason, you are scared right now. I've been afraid that something will go wrong, and then I always tell myself because it's me and I'm a walking advert for Murphy's Law it will.

I think once you have a miscarriage, you know that something can go wrong, and the innocence is gone from this experience the next time you are pregnant, and you just can't get that back. With that said, however, you have to be brave and just be willing to take the risks involved and be happy each day, and try to focus on the positive.

It's been six motnhs since my second miscarriage, and I am just now to the point where I'm the thought of trying again is something that I want. I know there are risks, and given my less than stellar record, I know something can go wrong. But, I'll get up each day and hope for the best, and know that what happens will happen, and that if something bad does go wrong, I've been down this road before, and I know how to cope and deal with it, even though I may not want to.

Do you feel it was a mistake to get pregnant so soon? You're opinion and the opinion of your spouse/partner is really the only one that counts. I wish you all the best and hope you have a happy and healty pregnancy and that you will have many cute, fat and darling babies. Good luck with everything, and I'll say a prayer for you. :)

Answer 3

You're ok. They do recommend to wait a cycle or 2 or longer depending on how far you were when you miscarried, BUT they do stress that if you do become pregnant sooner, not to worry and to try to relax and take it easy. The biggest reason they ask you to wait is because your periods could be irregular right after a m/c and it's harder to determine the due date. I m/c in April and am 10 weeks today. And as a matter of fact, I threw a tantrum today so I could go in and hear the heartbeat...I demand to know how things are going if I feel nervous and no amount of embarassment for annoying the doc affice is could beat the amount of stress I felt being pregnant again after a m/c. Tell them you want your HCG levels twice a week until they are able to find a heartbeat on the doppler and once they can find a beat on the doppler, go in any time you are nervous...

Answer 4

well if it makes you feel any better i had a baby last month and it was only two months before i suffered a miscarriage and he is healthy ! after a pregnancy is the easiest time to become pregnant even if the baby was lost the first time that doesn't mean it will happen this time i believe miscarriage is our body way of rejecting a unhealthy baby there no reason to think this one wont be just fine!but go see a doc ok

Answer 5

Miscarriages happen in 20% of all pregnancies. That is 1 out of every 5! It happens all the time, which means that unless there was a physical problem inside you that caused it, it is statistically unlikely to happen again.

Although doctors recommend against getting pregnant right after a miscarriage, my wife did it and we have a beautiful baby boy. You can see him in my avatar.

Answer 6

Any thoughts should have been had before you got pregnant again.

You would have been better off to heal a while longer, but you didn't take advantage of the time. So now you should try not to worry which will only make things worse.

Be diligent with your pre-natal care, visits to the Dr, etc. Take it easy and know that most women do go on to have beautiful and healthy babies after a miscarriage.

I hope that is the case for you, good luck and do take care!

Answer 7

A miscarriage is a way of your body getting rid of a pregnancy gone wrong. There is no reason your next conception should have problems just because you just had a miscarriage. It is not like you just gave birth after nine months of carrying a baby which is extremely hard on your uterus. The fetus was barely big enough when you miscarried to have any affect on your uterus. Besides each miscarriage makes your uterus stronger for the next conception. Relax let nature take its course. Que' sera sera, what will be will be. You cannot control nature.

Answer 8

Its normally recommended that you wait between 3 months to a year after a miscarriage. It gives your body time to get over the miscarriage and gives you time emotionally to recover. having said that just because you miscarried last time doesnt mean you will this time, try not to worry the stress wont do you or the baby any good!!!

Answer 9

The doctors advise you not to. But I can speak on this subject cause it happen to me to. Now I'm the proud parent of a 3month old baby boy. It is normal for you to feel scared about this one I was and I was so worry that I stayed at my doctors office. I stayed in bed I did everything right so it won't happen again. All I can say is leave it all in Gods hands you and the baby will be OK. Oh yeah god bless you.

Answer 10

hi there, so sorry to hear about your miscarriage ..... and a big congratulations on being pregnant again , just enjoy being pregnant and try not to worry these things happen for a reason god had other plans for the baby you lost , i don't think its too soon to be pregnant again these things happen for a reason and that reason is . your meant to have this baby , relax , chill out and enjoy good luck hun xx

Answer 11

Pray, eat well, take your vitamins. Do you know why you miscarried the first time? If this baby (please no) miscarries too, then I'd suggest birth control until you can have tests done to find out the problem. That would be so much heartache to recover from! As of now, stop thinking about it. Be happy, get excited, DO NOT stress. Stress won't help anything, so stop thinking of "what ifs". Just be careful with yourself and stay positive.