Could this be early signs of cheating? And would this be considered mentally cheating on me?
2006-09-07 09:17:40 · 19 answers · asked by Geltrude 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way, we make love almost every day of the week, infact i want it more then him
2006-09-07 09:23:11 · update #1
I also like to spice things up and i will let him pull my hair, i wear nighties for him, i do it all.
2006-09-07 09:30:58 · update #2
you can install a porn filter software like NetDog on the computer,that help you to block all porn sites quitely in the background when he's surfing on the internet. http://www.netdogsoft.com
2006-09-07 15:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about I answer this question with another question? Would he be okay with a real person coming in, undressing for you, and you masturbating to that person? You two would not do anything, you would only masturbate? I bet his answer would be no. These are real people that are doing porn. There is no "safety" with looking at porn. There is no,"Well, I would never meet them," or,"I couldn't ever do anything with that person anyways." A friend of mine from high school is a porn star now. They ARE real, you CAN meet them, and you COULD do something with them. Besides, what happens when he gets tired of porn? What if he goes to some other type of porn; something more hardcore? What happens when he gets tired of that? What next?
Looking at porn is basically the same thing as masturbating to someone's webcam. If he is not satisfied with you, then he should tell you. He should give you the chance to better your love life. If you are good enough, then why does he need it? Ask him. If you aren't doing something good enough, then he's not being honest with you about it. He should come out and tell you that he wants you to do something differently.
And when you get married you make the promise, commitment, and contract that you will be faithful to ONE person for the rest of your life. Love, honor, and cherish. He is NOT loving, honoring, or cherishing you when he's looking at other people, getting aroused, and jacking off. He's not including you, and you're not the object of his arousal. Being faithful to someone is more than just not physically doing something with someone else. Would you be okay with him talking to someone over emails, or over the phone about having sex? How about if he was having phone sex with someone? Some could argue that he's not physically doing anything. He's simply getting aroused and touching himself. I think people need to do a reality check and asks themselves, where do we draw the line? Because looking at webcams and having phone sex is not physically doing anything either. It's a screen, it's a piece of plastic.... But I bet a lot of ppl would consider webcaming and phone sexing to be cheating.
2006-09-07 09:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by verony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Porn is as addictive (if not more so) than cocaine. He may have absolutely no intentions of cheating on you, but he may be a porn addict.
Let him know that you love him and that you are concerned. There is nothing that you can do until he is ready to get help, then I would recommend getting professional help. I did and have been in recovery for about 5 months.
2006-09-07 09:32:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
throw the computer out the window!! really it depends on if he shows you that he is still into you or doesn't act interested anymore? It could be early signs of cheating, but so could just smiling at another woman. You could decide to look at it with him if you think you might like it. It might help you sex life?
2006-09-07 09:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by chatgirl1212 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is anything you wouldn't do with your partner right beside you (if its not right you wouldn't do it with them looking) and/or anything that it wouldn't be ok with you if your partner was doing it (don't expect anyone to put up with anything that you wouldn't put up with yourself). Thats the best definition I ever saw and it works, decide for yourself. If its ok with you then its ok and I don't think that it is an indicator of cheating really. It could be an indicator or porn or sexual addiction, which apparently are growing by leaps and bounds these days.
2006-09-07 09:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea it is a form and a addiction.he needs help and im sure you feel like your having to sex since he is watching porn and thats why your wanting it everynight,believe me in time its going to get worse and your going to get burned out from having sex so much cause you feel you have too that as soon as you slack off he will be cheating if he isnt already!!Put your foot down and do not allow him to do this anymore!
2006-09-07 09:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by blondie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mentally for a start. Physically after a while if you don't want to participate in the fantasies he found out about online. tell him about your worries.
2006-09-07 09:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by Rich Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do the same thing... but dosen't neccesary mean that he is cheating, try spicing things up with a teddy or something to make him watch you.....
2006-09-07 09:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your husband why he looks at porn.. and what kind of porn the he look at ? ...
no.. it's not mentally cheating.. and no. .it's not the early signs of cheating.. I know men that watch porn and are faithful. and other men that don't watch porn and are not faithful.. it all depends on the men
2006-09-07 09:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lyne B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take it however you want , but I had this happen to me. The way it was he was allready cheating, and it goes to show you he has no respect for you.
2006-09-07 09:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by barbara r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋