Was ur pregnancy planned or did it just happen??? Did everything fall in place afterwards. I trying to wait (on the Depo) but just needed to ask these questions just in case.
2006-09-07 09:05:49 · 28 answers · asked by **What??** 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you wait to have a baby until your 100 percent ready it may be too late. Gods timeing is the best timing. Everything does fall into place. I got preg with my first one before I planned. Now I look back and think, it could not have been better timing. I see now that I was young and healthy. Relationships mature you, this includes babies. Young moms tend to be laid back, older moms seem to think things though. Young moms can run and play eaisier, older moms can financially do more with their kids. There are pros and cons to either side.
The main thing is to realize the baby is a blessing in your life. Don't sweat the small stuff :)
2006-09-07 09:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by rebeccalynn_dj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through my third unplanned pregnancy. I am going to have to say that it would probably be a far more enjoyable time if you were to plan ahead for it.
As far as things falling in to place, it's one of those things that has its great rewards and great diffaculties no matter how planned or unplanned it is.
Just remember that an unplanned baby is not an accident, but rather a surprise. The difference being, that with an accident if you had the choice to go back and do it over again then you would, and with a surprise it's like getting something that you didn't even know you wanted until you got it (and you would never want to do it over differently).
2006-09-07 16:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know very few people who are totally ready. Babies are not like anything anyone can expect. You are never ready. Even if you bought everything and have the baby room ready and the babyshower and a good gynecologist or midwife and have read every book. You are not ready. You are definitely better prepared. But no amount of sleepers, rattles, bottles of baby food, altra-sounds, visits to the doctor can prepare you for the amount of love you have for such one small being and ahte amount of diapers and bibs you will go through, the number of times that precious baby wakes you up, the number of hiccups and giggles, the number of time he/she makes you laugh with joy. the amount of times you wish he would just sleep, just for a minute. The number of times you sat and adored that sweet baby even after keeping you up all night. How long it took you to scrub the poop out of your carpet or how long it took you to notice the puke down your back. How many car rides it took before the baby finally slept through the night. So the answer to your question the better prepared you are before the baby arrives the better time you will have after. I had one planned and one unplanned. The unplanned was first and I made sure I was prepared before I had him. I couldn't have prepared for him before I was pregnant. So it doesn't fall into place. You have to work hard on being the parent you want to be. It is something you have to choose everyday.
Have a nice day!
2006-09-07 16:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Finding out i was pregnant was a big surprise. I was only 17 years old and it was unplanned. Im 18 now and almost 32 weeks pregnant. Everything's been going good so far. I am still with the baby father, we been together for over 2 yrs and he's happy about becoming a father. We are having a daughter on Nov, 04.
2006-09-07 17:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by VaLeRieZ_MaMii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first time was so not planned. I had only been with the guy 3 mths. I was 21 and not ready to be a parent. But I had a good job with insurance and a great family. It all fell into place. Even tho I am not with that guy anymore, I have a great son. He was my lifesaver. .... I would recommend waiting until you have been married a couple of years before planning on having children.
2006-09-07 16:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by Why do you ask? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like most people my fiance and I were very excited, but there is always the money issue. We didn't plan ours, but it was a kind of spur of the moment thing. We decided that second to conceive. But now everything is falling into place it just takes time I am now 20 weeks and almost ready. It takes a little work.
2006-09-07 16:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wasn't ready when I got pregnant. I was only 17 and in the 12th grade. But everything just fell into place, I graduted from high school. And all my family and friends were so supportive. Now I'm 20 and my son will be 3 this yr. and I'm soo blessed to have him. I never regret having my son.
2006-09-07 16:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by maleka2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My was totaly unplanned, mainly because I was 14 years old! But let me tell ya its fun having a little one around, they are just a big bundle of joy! he is three now, and I would never give him up for anything! you can plan to get pregnant but you cant plan the pregnancy or the baby! And yes everything feel right into place though it jumps out sometimes.. hehe
2006-09-07 16:09:43 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was surprised all three times. I was not trying. I was really surprised the first time as we used a condom. However, I don't think that anyone is every 100% completely ready. Finances may not be "just right" or the house is too small or your job requires too much. But most of all the emotional attachment to that unseen bundle is so very overwhelming that it is truly amazing.
2006-09-07 16:19:05 · answer #9 · answered by Redneck-n-happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both were not planned and nothing flowed as the pregnancy progressed. You have to be A) with the right person B)financially stable C)emotionally stable D)physically prepared (clothes crib, diapers, etc) E)good friends and family- without them your screwed!
This stuff takes a lot of work and running around to do. Best of luck to you in the future.
2006-09-07 16:13:09 · answer #10 · answered by Renee25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋