2006-09-07 08:58:27 · 31 answers · asked by krissy d 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Believe it or not, God made sex... and He made it to be GREAT, but only inside the boundaries of marriage. When you go against that and choose to have sex outside of marriage, there are many consequences that come with that, I am not talking about only physical consequences (like getting pregnant, AIDS, or any other STDs) but also spiritual. Sex is a spiritual act of love where to bodies become one, and if it is done outside of marriage, it will most likely leave you hurt and broken in the end...
2006-09-07 09:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by DanielleJane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 03:49:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is never an age group to when you're ready. Older people may say things like when you're married but even then some kids are forced to marry are they ready?! I do agree with the whole if you're responsible I'm 19 and having my first baby a little fella sure i would love to go out party do what KIDS my age are doing but i'm not i'm at home every weekend watching tv, movies setting up the nursury. On the week days i go to work 8 to 5 then start with my online schooling if you think school is hard now and wonder "Oh my god if i had to have a job i would just die" when you have a baby everything is just twice as hard. I just thank god so much for letting me have a boyfriend who stuck by my side and stays with me.
2006-09-07 09:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by britt3m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is one of those questions where there is no wrong or right answer. Because some people might tell you to wait till you're married and then some will say whenever you're ready. But the best advice that I could give you is, don't get pressured in to sex. If you feel rushed then don't do it. Make sure that you ALWAYS use protection. And please don't fall for the line "If you love me then you'll have sex with me." No, If they love you, then they can wait til you are ready. Just make sure you read up on sex and stds because today there are so many diseases floating around.
2006-09-07 09:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by maleka2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good age to start having sex is the age at which you and your partner are ready to commit to each other forever. You both have graduated, set your goals (which you share with each other and support each other), and you have made a mature decision that you are ready to commit yourselves to parenthood, should it happen.
In short, not at 12,13 or even 16, or 17. You need to be an adult, to be mature, and have your priorities straight.
You don't need to be a teen mother, alone, because the guy split and or denies paternity. You need to have sleep overs with your friends, go to Homecoming, Prom, support your school's teams, maybe even be a cheerleader. You don't need to be struggling to make ends meet and scheduling your OB appointment between your classes.
Live your life. Enjoy all the things that high school brings. Savor your freedom. Don't let some guy talk you into sex. If he tries - DUMP him.
2006-09-07 09:11:46 · answer #5 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are sure you fully understand the issues that go with such a responsability: not only the pregnancy risks, but also the terminal illnesses you risk unless you use protection.
You must know what to use, when to use it, and to ALWAYS use it. You must also be mature enough to seek help if you need some.
Feeling ashamed of something natural can be terribly harmful. If you feel you have to hide something, it just means you should wait longer.
Make sure it does not happen because you had too much to drink.
Understand that getting married may be even more stupid sometimes than having sex.
2006-09-07 09:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by OneLilithHidesAnother 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep in mind that even though your body can be done developing in your early teens, your mind isn't finished until 17 at the earliest. It's sort of like trying to explain Aristotle to a seven year old--the mind is simply not equipped until this point to properly predict the consequences of actions. Also, the teenage "invincibility" factor comes into play--until one is mentally mature, very real risks like STDs, pregnancy, or simply cheapening a relationship will not occur to a teenager as plausible. Your best bet is to wait at least until you're fully mentally prepared to make a decision--somewhere between 17-19. But it never hurts to remember, virginity is an amazing gift that you can only give to one person--chose wisely.
2006-09-07 10:10:40 · answer #7 · answered by windsoftheheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're married.
And if you're not married, and you insist on doing it, you need to be with someone you love. And he needs to love you. This about these questions: Will he stick around if I get pregnant? Can I trust him? Can I talk openly with him about sex? Am I over the age of 18? Is he over the age of 18?
If you're not both over 18, NOT a good idea. Especially is he is and you're not.
Secondly, if your answer to those questions was no, then don't do it.
And thirdly, just the fact that you're ASKING what a good age is probably means that you are NOT ready to start having sex.
You'll regret it if it's just some cheap thrill. Make it with someone you're married to, who will love you forever, and whom you love.
2006-09-07 09:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When you are at the age, that you are emotionally and financially ready to take on any repercusions and deal with everything (if anything) that comes your way...
If you are not mature enough to handle it, (ie- no birth control, condoms, etc) than you probably shouldn't be having sex...
2006-09-07 09:17:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're at least 18 and able to understand the ups and downs of sex.. Marriage is no reason to wait for anything.. just b/c you're married does not make the situation better it just makes it look good to society.. If you are gonna do it use protection. Surprise pregnancies are no fun
2006-09-07 09:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by menyon2 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋