2006-09-07 08:48:50 · 20 answers · asked by mackey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Fine. Just don't act upon it.
2006-09-07 09:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married and have a crush on someone else? Most likely, it is nothing, people have little crushes on other people all the time. That is completely normal, and allowable, so long as it is kept private and under control.
It is only a problem if it starts to become all consuming, or if you find yourself constantly thinking of the other person or getting close to cheating. If so, i think you need to sit down and ask yourself a few questions - like:
-Why you have the crush? Are you running from a problem in your marriage, and this other person seems like a good out? If so, would this new person really make you happy or fix anything?
-Does this person offer something you percieve your spouse to be missing? If that is true, then why did you marry your spouse to begin with? How do you feel about the vows you took?
-How much value do you place on your marriage? How much do you care about your spouse? Are you serious about this crush enough to consider leaving? How would you feel if the situation were reversed?
-Who else will be hurt if you become serious about this other crush? Do you have kids or other dependents who rely on you and your spouse for a stable home? How would you deal with that situation if you were to leave?
If you are serious about this other person, then most importantly: Is leaving really worth it? Will this be a positive move for you in the long run? How will you behave towards your ex wife if you do leave?
Hopefully, this can help you solve what you are trying to work out. Good luck.
2006-09-07 09:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand. U see, it is like this, The correct reason to get married is because that is the person that has stolen your heart and you would do anything for them unconditionlly. That is why you take your vowes man. For the record I do not think that you have truly found you soulmate if you have a crush on someone else or even had thoughts of something else. Crushes are not good for a married person. Find that spark in your wife that once made you happy and want to marry her and forget about that crush. Keep your eyes on that crush and you will find yourself in a divorce and I wouldn't doubt it if the crush disappeared to.
2006-09-07 09:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by delapazluz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this sometimes happens, but do u think that the crush will develop into something more? Does the other person feel the same way about you? Why do u have a crush, just happened? Do u want anything more out of it? These are some of the questions u might want to think about and it may make you realise what you want.
2006-09-07 08:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not cool. You made a commitment to the person that you are married to and now you have a crush on somebody else? You need to do the responsible thing and forget the other person and BE MARRIED to the person that you are committed to.
2006-09-07 08:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by cyncase007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter how harmless this seems you still are opening up oportunities for temptation and distrust...ect....this isn't good because of our sinful nature and if you don't have control over this, this can get the best of you and you may cause yourself a lot of problems...avoid the person and dont put yourself in any situations where something could happen!! good luck
2006-09-07 08:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by *walkinthelight* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the real question here is would you do something about this secret crush or just try and forget that it even exists. most married wemon are in the same boat but wouldnt be willing to damage their marriage for a crush! would you????
2006-09-07 08:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by EMMA O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's just a crush, and its probably because uve lost interactins with ur wife, the way u use to be u miss it so u found a way out. dnt cheat on ur wife, try and get things bak to the way they were and the crush will go away. itll last its time and then go. however marriage is a serious commitment.... think about it
2006-09-07 08:54:44 · answer #8 · answered by intellectual_mind 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Crushes are no big deal until one decides to take action on them. Just because you're married doesn't shut you down.
If the crush becomes something more, then it's something to worry about. If it's just eye-candy, enjoy it.
2006-09-07 08:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by Cerryl 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course you will have crushes on other people and you will find others attractive, there is nothing wrong with that. It's human. The problem is when people "ACT" on it.
2006-09-07 08:58:58 · answer #10 · answered by LB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married, but I have a secret crush on Vin Diesel. He is so hot!
2006-09-07 09:07:03 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋