My boyfriend goes away on business a lot. While he is away, he like going on sites devoted to hooking up for random sex. He talks to the people on these sites like he is setting up a time to meet. He solicits people for sex. He promises me he doesn't actually engage in sex with these people and that he doesn't meet up with these people.
2006-09-07 08:48:28 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Horny
2006-09-08 12:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's and old saying "where there is smoke, there is flames". My personal opinion is he probably has been out there cheating on you. The percentages are in favor of this fact.
However, there are a few people who get some sort of enjoyment out of talking dirty to others. The don't act upon any other need other than talking. It is possible he falls into this category.
You have a couple choices here as I see it. One, with the help of some friends you can set up a trap for him and see if he falls into it. While sneaky and underhanded you'll get the answer. If you do this you have to live with yourself and the answer.
Second, you can discuss this further with your guy and ask him to stop. If he needs help I'm sure there are counselors out there to help. If he doesn't want to stop, maybe he can't stop.
Either way it is clear you need something to change here. Either he has to change to make you comfortable, you have to change to accept, or you have to move on. Good luck
2006-09-07 09:23:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask you how you found out about this. I think that if he told you on his own, then there is - as ironic as this may sound - some level of openness and honest communication on his part, which may mean he could be telling you the truth about not engaging in sex. I would ask him why he's doing things like that. It really sounds like he has an addiction, and he needs some kind of help. If my boyfriend were doing that, I would give him a choice: go with me to get some help (and we would go together) or the relationship is over. That's a tough situation you're in...good luck....
2006-09-07 10:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by Andrew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you need to wake up, of course he's meeting up with people and having sex with them. Second ask yourself if that's ok with you or not. If not then its time to move on, if you're ok with it then make sure you both agree on the ground rules or your relationship will suffer (ignoring it now is not an option). It depends if you both (and I mean both) want to have an exclusive or an open relationship, they can both work but like any relationship they need rules and bounderies. This really is your choice, but don't delude yourself at all he is cheating on you so its time for you to draw the lines and establish the type of relationship you want, or don't want even.
2006-09-07 10:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by God 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is what I say to that. If you believed what he was telling you. You wouldn't be on the internet looking for someone to tell you that whatever your feelingS are. Are right. don't ask questions you already know the answer to. You better wise up STD'S AND HIV is REAL
2006-09-07 09:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by BABYWHITE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well unless you have concrete proof of a liaison outside of you re relationship why don't you cruise the lines just to see whats so interesting see how he likes it you know what they say if you cant beat em join em or maybe you can go on line together and look at the pretty boys like a couple clearly somethings laking maybe this will help
2006-09-07 09:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by angelina_mcardle 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't trust him there is no reason to stay. Tell him that it bothers you. If the relationship is worth it to him he will stop. Otherwise it's better to find this out now before someone gets(more) hurt.
2006-09-07 09:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There seems to be a trust issue here. You cannot stop him from dating other people. If you do not trust him, you have the choice of leaving the relationship. Think about your health - both mental and physical.
2006-09-07 08:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by Laughing Libra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I highly doubt there is any possible way that your bf doesn't engage in sex.... i mean lets be realistic here why would he go through all the trouble of looking for random hook ups? I think she should confront him about it and tell him that he really needs to stop it!
2006-09-07 08:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by Leelee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your a idiot to believe him??? Then again I dunno, he may not...I made the mistake of recently thinking my gf was cheating on me even though she talked to other guys and they talked to her in certain ways-yet it turned out nothing was really happening and now were broken up...so that was one of the biggest mistakes of my life that I'll forever regret...after a year and 7 months she ends it.....I still can't believe it,...
2006-09-07 08:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by deadreckning 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you really know what he's doing. I dated someone who was online looking the entire time she was with ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I didn't find out for months and she swore she wasn't doing it.
2006-09-07 09:21:46 · answer #11 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋