If your wife cheated....which is worse? Her giving oral sex or having normal intercourse?

Question

If your wife cheated....which is worse? Her giving oral sex or having normal intercourse? I know both are extremely bad but which would be easier to handle if you were thinking of forgiving.

Answer 1

Makes no difference what she did. The point is that she did it

Answer 2

Certainly both are bad, but normal intercourse is worse. Many women have told me this is a more intimate act. It's also easier to catch an STD that way (which is likely to worry the husband).

Answer 3

I have had plenty of sexual partners and all of them included oral sex with intercourse. Sex is so incomplete without having both during sex. If she screwed him , she gave a bj and also received oral stimulation herself. A cheater is a willing sex toy open for everything she's not getting at home.

Answer 4

Don't let her go Clinton on you and say, "Honey, it was only oral sex." She egregiously violated your trust. If you want to forgive one, then forgive both. But, if you don't want to forgive one, then don't forgive either. Neither is worse. Don't attempt to create a difference between the two acts where one does not exist. Treat both as the same.

Answer 5

If you are hung up on the act, you are missing the point all together. Whether she had her mouth on his junk, or had him in her, is irrelevant. The problem is the emotional betrayal, and breaking the promises and vows she made to you. I don't care if couples are monogamous or if they have an open marriage where they are allowed to have sec with others under certain conditions, buy breaking what ever they have promised, or agreed to with their partner is the problem, not how they did it. Some couples are perfectly fine with their spouse having sex with others, but they require them to tell the other ahead of time, or some other stipulation, so obviously it isn't the act they choose, it's the fact they choose to betray the other.

Answer 6

Oral, because her mouth was on his privates! I know oral isn't considered such an intimate thing to some people, but I'm old school. And yes, they're both pretty bad and I don't know if I could forgive.

Answer 7

Both are equally bad, with maybe the oral being just a bit worse. But in either case, she would be on the curb.

Answer 8

Hilarious. Here is a good joke for you. A Woman was out golfing one day when she hit the ball into the woods. She went into the woods to look for it and found a frog in a trap. The frog said to her, "If you release me from this trap, I will grant you three wishes." The woman freed the frog, and the frog said, "Thank you,but I failed to mention that there was a condition to your wishes. Whatever you wish for, your husband will get times ten!" The woman said, "That's okay." For her first wish, she wanted to be the most beautiful woman in the world. The frog warned her, "You do realize that this wish will also make Your husband the most handsome man in the world, an Adonis whom women will flock to. " The woman replied, "That's okay, because I will be the most beautiful Woman and he will have eyes only for me." So, -she's the most beautiful woman in the world! For her second wish, she wanted to be the richest woman in the world. The frog said, "That will make your husband the richest man in the world and he will be ten times richer than you." The woman said, "That's okay, because what's mine is his and what's his is mine." So, -she's the richest woman in the world! The frog then inquired about her third wish, and she answered, "I'd like a mild heart attack." Hope you liked it.

Answer 9

Niether would be easy to handle. The fact is that she cheated not how she did or what she did...SHE DID IT! The trust is more than likely gone in the relationship. It would just have to be up to you if you wanted to stay with her or not.

Answer 10

Depends if she didn't give oral to you then oral. If she does then I would then say Intercourse.