If my husband and I get in an argument (my fault or his) he tends to get loud. We recently got in an argument at the mall and he found me cashing out and started in on me in front of the cashier and my daughter. I asked him to stop and when he finally did he just left us standing there to deal with the left over embarassment. He also gets loud at our sons baseball games, yelling at the coach and other players. I'm not one to make a scene and this really embarasses me. He won't stop because he doesn't care that it really bothers me. Any suggestions on how to get him to stop or at least see how much it bothers me?
2006-09-07 08:33:33 · 36 answers · asked by I'mDone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him at home.
2006-09-07 08:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband has anger management issues. Not only is this causing stress for you but it is probably worse on your daughter. Go to marriage counseling. If he won't go then the next time he does that in public just embarrass him right back. Either way don't put up with that stuff. If you let him he will keep walking all over you like that. You also need to set an example for your daughter so that she doesn't feel helpless in her future confrontations with other people.
2006-09-07 08:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by spiderspell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit indicating to him that you are embarrassed.
Smile sweetly to whomever you are dealing with, and continue on as if you don't hear him.
These outbursts are clearly designed to embarrass you.
If the desired reaction is that you become embarrassed, don't grant him the satisfaction of knowing that he achieved the goal.
It's a crappy little manipulation method that appeases his need to express his power. In public. It's a way to humiliate you. It's pretty disgusting.
Do the silent treatment.
Facial expression: content.
Let him look like an a**hole by himself.
If he continues for too long tell him calmly that you don't care to discuss it until he morphs back into an adult, and can have a calm discussion with you.
2006-09-07 08:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't say that I really know how to make him stop, but I do know that wouldn't continue to put up with it much longer. I could be wrong, but I consider that to be a form of emotional abuse. It is also just plain rude to bring up personal problems in public, it just makes everyone around you feel akward and leaves you feeling akward when seeing these people again. Have you tried suggesting some couples counciling?
2006-09-07 08:38:35 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. FairyLove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell in a calm voice that if he ever em brasses you again in public that he will be more em brassed when you are done with him than he could dream possible.
If he say you cant do it. Tell him the next time he does it you will grab him by the balls in public and crush them until he crys.
If he test you do it. You will be em brassed but he will be more than you and he wont walk straight for a while.
PS. I saw it done a little league game and that man never screamed or yelled at anyone again even if his wife wasn't there.
2006-09-07 08:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are filling for a divorce if he dont change his behavior. First that is not any way for him to act in front of your child or anyone else for that matter. If he cant respect you and your child then he is worthless. I suggest some anger-management classes for him as well.
If he cant act like an adult in public and wishes to behave like an animal he can stay home like one. Then when his friends come over and or your in public start talking about tampons if he is one of those guys who hates to hear about things like that he will shut up and walk away.
2006-09-07 08:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by deadly_rose_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, he knows that it bothers you. This guy's got some serious anger issues. You don't say how old you are or how long you've been together, but this is the kind of behavior that frequently escalates to all-out abuse. Tell him he needs to get help, if he refuses you may need to do something more drastic. Good luck.
2006-09-07 08:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by Andi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has an uncontrollable temper. Chances are you are not going to be able to see the "error of his ways." This is simply called lack of respect. He has no respect for you or his own daughter. Suggest that he take some classes in anger management. If he refuses, suggest that he begin marriage counseling with you. If he refuses, take some counseling of your own and let your counselor help you sort through your own feelings so that you may decide on your own what your next step is going to be. Do not continue to put up with his lack of respect. Be proactive in deciding your future with this man.
2006-09-07 08:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by nicoleeakin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away and tell him when he stops acting like a child,you'll treat him like an adult.You've really got to crush this before it gets any worse.Set up a video camera when you think he's gonna blow,play it back to him and he just might realise he needs help.You and your kids can't go through life living with a bully.Good luck
2006-09-07 08:41:20 · answer #9 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to the angel eve, Baby...go for his dick. And that too at a place where he helds his head high. And just storm outta there. This should shock him into realizing what he had been doing to you all these days. Isee this is a psychic problem and shock treatments are the best way to deal with them.
On second thought go to a psychiatrist and ask wht to do. Believe me they will have apt solutions for the situation. Go for the first one only if you dont care if it gets any worse.
2006-09-07 22:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that being with him really embarasses you in public. That you really care about him, but if he can't control himself that your going to do things without him. See what his reaction is to that.
2006-09-07 08:38:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋