I've cought my boyfriend five times downloading porn on the computer.( This is after We've finished having sex and I'm sleeping).
I've told him how much it bothers me and he promises that he wont do it anymore.... but i always catch him. He hides in in files that he thinks i wont find it and it's really starting to get to me. It makes me feel like I'm not good enough for him and i want it to stop. When i do catch him he tries to lie to me about it and i dont feel like he loves me or that i can trust him. What do I do?
2006-09-07 08:30:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he loves you enough to sleep with you, but either he is not sealing the deal and needs more so is then wacking off to the porn or he is looking for something that you can't give him, like mature older ladies or hairy women, some kind of fetish.
If he has lied repeatedly then he is not the man for you.
2006-09-07 08:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by Niche Jerk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly i dont think your bf thinks your not good enough, maybe he just enjoys it. why dont you try watching a little with him all depending on the porn of couse, i was freaked out by it for years untill i sat down with my hubby and watched some it can spice up the sex life and add some variety, something new and ye havent tried before. he is going to hide it if you keep making him feel that its a terrible thing to do but its natural for most men. it does not mean in any way that he does not love you, talk to him about it ask what it is about this that turns him on try live out a few fantasies, u will never know till you try.
2006-09-07 15:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by EMMA O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a sex addiction, or maybe a porn addiction. The thing that caught my eye was that he does it after you have sex and you're sleeping. Why isn't he sleeping next to you? I suggest you two seek out couples counseling. Good luck and I wish the best for you both and sincerely hope you can work this out!
2006-09-07 15:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by galacticsleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think that your husband should change just because it bothers you. Would you rather he was out somewhere doing something with other women. I have never had a problem with my husband looking at porn as long as he is still taking care of my needs ( which he does very very well). It seems to me that you expect your hubby to compromise and give up something just because you don't like it. What are you changing for him. Are you giving up shopping or other things that he doesn't like.
2006-09-07 15:36:08 · answer #4 · answered by Alaska 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is common but i would not say it's normal coz not many people i know go through this.
Your boyfriend respects you and cares alot but this happens to most men, they get addicted to porn.
It's like a drug that u wish to stop and i know it ain't good and ur gonna lose ur love ones but u can't help yourself.
Mostly i don't get it...to me porn is quite disturbing but many are into it hese days.
it's best if you talk to him and ask him if he wants to stop and if he says Yes! then go to a doctor..ect and help hima nd support him till he is alright.
If he says No!! GIRL...don't waste ur time, he wants his eyes to have more pleasure.
Porn is not good and we know it but it is quite entertaining for some people coz it's something to don't see everyday and it's just eating up ur money and ur time.
Okay i wish i helped u enough.... okay Bye..smile..he come around soon with a better face on***
2006-09-07 15:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by *~`h!8@Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem too... I ended up going to guy porn sites...w/ gay guys and leaving them all over the computer (i didnt reallly watch them, just made it clear) And then I just kept telling him how it made me feel that he was looking at it. He eventually got bored of it anyway i think. Maybe your man needs more excitement? talk to him, see what he likes about theporn, maybe u can recreate for him instead?
2006-09-07 15:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. It is only porn nothing more. Dudes just dig porn it has nothing to do with you. Why don't you try and watch some porn with him and it might stop the internet porn thing.
2006-09-07 15:34:30 · answer #7 · answered by pablo h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say you have a hang up girl. You need to give the dude some slack or he will jump ship on you. Looking at porn has nothing to do with your adequacy. It is just a fun thing to do.
2006-09-07 15:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by Princess1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can install a porn filter software like NetDog on the computer,that help you to block all porn sites quitely in the background when he's surfing on the internet. http://www.netdogsoft.com
2006-09-07 22:24:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have on your hands is a normal male.
He lies about it to avoid a dramatic scene with you.
If you need a guy that is not interested in porn -- find one over 100.
2006-09-07 15:36:01 · answer #10 · answered by Jay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋