She said 'then i am not enough for you?' and 'dont i satisfy you enough then?' I know that sex with a partner is much better but how can i prove to her that it is healthy and beneficial, even when we are making love?
Also she prefers to make love only after her shower that can be when im falling asleep and then she gets upset that I havent got the strength-im a day person and I told her that.
2006-09-07 08:27:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
Why don't you reassure her that she does satisfy you but you may have a higher sex drive then her and don't always want to disturb her. You can also tell her it may help prevent the development of prostate cancer and also reduces stress. Sounds like she's got some hangups over her body being 'dirty'. Reassure her she is beautiful as is and doesn't need to shower first. If she wears perfume, tell her the scent turns you on. If she's dead set against that, persuade her to shower earlier and/or shower with you ;).
2006-09-07 08:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by Andy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls naturally are more "in the mood" at night, I don't know why but our hormones are more geared up for the night-time-nooky... also most men are more "in the mood" early in the morning (remember the term "morning wood"??).... anyway, my point is maybe you can compromise... sex at night on nights YOU don't hafta wake up early and sex in the early mornings before you go to work on the days that you DO hafta work.
About the masturbating thing.... eh, she's gotta get over it... maybe buy her a vibrator or some other such toys that get her/you/both of you off so that masterbation doesn't seem like you two should need a "so you're masturbating because I'm not enough for you" conversation. The more nonchalant and fun masturbating is for a girl, the less likely she'll take YOU doing it too seriously.
2006-09-07 15:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by lilhottiebug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women get upset when their men masturbate and look at porn. I would think my husband was weird if he did not. It is a natural male thing in my opinion. The same for when he notices a pretty woman when we are out. I see him checking out there hineys when he thinks I am not looking. It does not bother me but it upsets most women.
Maybe suggest that she take her shower a little earlier in the evening. My husband worked third and I worked days. It made our schedule hectic but we had to compromise somehow.
2006-09-07 15:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by cytopia1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women view sex completely differently (as you've noticed). Perhaps it would help if you had an open and honest discussion with her and asked her about what she wants as well as explaining yourself. If she's still uncomfortable, you can suggest comprises, such as sex in the shower, that way, she knows everyone is clean and you're still awake!
2006-09-07 15:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by christina_m_taft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds insecure. Only making love after a shower, come on now.. making love can happen when you are clean or dirty. Get a new girl i would suggest.
2006-09-07 15:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by PROLADY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to shut up, get a life, and then leave her and move on. Such a question deserves such a response.
Chow!!
2006-09-07 15:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by No one 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how old you are, but it sounds like she may be a bit immature...either move on or give her time.
2006-09-07 17:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by piethedog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she feels like you attacked her femininity.
You killed her ego. she is supposed to satisfy you. next time ask her to do it for you.
2006-09-07 15:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by ♣ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like who you really need to talk to is her, not us.
2006-09-07 15:33:15 · answer #9 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is controlling...
2006-09-07 15:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by sarah t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋