me n my husband have been seperated since nov05.v havent seen each other nor had any talk.i tried many times but failed.hez stubborn.he didnt even cam to c our kid who born in june06.n now he has filed a case aginst me for child custody n have accused me of bad things..his frendz says he still has a soft corner for me.but i dont think he has.wat should i do?
2006-09-07 08:22:37 · 22 answers · asked by Dazzling damsel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Put the bat down, this horse has been dead for quite sometime now.
2006-09-07 08:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should try and talk to him face 2 face and find out where he stands. i would also ask whats up with the petition for custody and y does he feel that he can be a better parent. if he doesn't want tostay a family u will have to move on, but make sure u file a petition for child support and make sure u tell the judge that ur husband has not been around 4 the child. if there is anyway 2 settle this without it getting nasty that would be ur best bet. good luck.
2006-09-07 08:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by ndemby05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never too soon to get the itch. Your husband sounds like a good guy, and you are simply in a slump. If every spouse ran away when they felt like you do, no one would be married more than a couple years. Absolutely DO GO to the therapist. And it might not be the right therapist at first!! You HAVE to try.......if you love this man, and he loves you enough to forgive, the problem you are having is a minor one that can definitely be fixed. But you BOTH have to try. Chemistry is something that has to be worked on and maintained.......just like all aspects of marriage. You can't expect things to stay like they were in day one without working at it CONSTANTLY. You have no excuse.......go to therapy until you get some answers. You owe it to him and to yourself. Trust me.......divorce is hell. It can be a good thing when you have a horrible relationship with an idiot, but that's not the case here. Good luck, dont' give up yet.
2016-03-27 01:44:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need to have a serious conversation as to where you are in the relationship and whether or not you will be moving on separately or together. Life is too short to sit and wait around for other people to make your decisions. I don't know what he's thinking, but unless he can prove that you are an unfit mother (drug addict, etc.) he cannot gain full custody. Good luck!!
2006-09-07 08:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by rauldp38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats kind of a hard and stinky question. One wish all us women have is to know what is going on in there (mens) heads. Men alwys take it to another level and feel like they have the power. The court sysem will know whats going on this happens all the time. So if you know the things that he is accusing you of are lies then let him lie his *** off it is not wor th the stress. DId he sign the birth certificate? if not that shows the court that he was not there to see the birth of his child. **** what his freinds say because they will mess you all up and remember they are his friends not yours you think they are but they are not. If he is stubborn he will come to his sense let him do what he wants and sit back and enjoy all the craziness he is putting himself through.
2006-09-07 08:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to talk now? After all this time? I wouldn't get yourself wrapped up in him, you have a chance for a better life now and if your marriage was worth saving you would have both made the decision to go to counscelling a long time ago.
Get legal counscell and full custody.
2006-09-07 08:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and you're still considering to be with him? He wasn't there for you nor your son, he's a loser. You obviously have done it without him, now do it without the feelings too. You will just end up hurt, like now, pondering the thought. He better still have a soft corner for you, your his son's mother! But that's it, go on.
2006-09-07 08:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by yes, it's me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and forget about him If you have been a good mother you have nothing to fear from the custody suit.
2006-09-07 08:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's filed for custody-- try one more time and talk things out-- but it has been a long time-- it's your call. I personally would--file for full custody myself.
2006-09-07 08:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by Q. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always ask the court to make him and yourself go to marriage counseling and see if it helps, but if not then you should know you have tried everything you could and move on with your life.
2006-09-07 08:27:50 · answer #10 · answered by ncvasarahlee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the marriage if that's what you want to call it. Worry about the kid. Get a lawyer.
2006-09-07 08:27:29 · answer #11 · answered by just browsin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋