okay, i am the kind of person who tries to get along with everyone. i love to make people laugh and enjoy themselves. i am usually the life of the party. if someone is left out, i always go out of my way to try to include them. anyway, i have a little issue. sometimes if i am arguing with a friend and we stop talking, i refuse to be the first to call them and apologize because i feel like its a blow to my pride. i know that cant always be good, but i don't know how to change it. please help!
2006-09-07 08:21:55 · 12 answers · asked by Confused about life 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well...I used to feel the same way about ending grudges. I always felt they should come to me. But It depends on how the argument was started and what words were transpired in the argument. If you feel it wasn't your fault let it go and the person should come to their senses and come to you and with an apology. However, if it was your fault you should then put your pride to the side and be the bigger person and end the nonsense.
2006-09-07 08:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by babymomma 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Too Much Pride
2016-10-30 11:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with pride is just what you have said: it is an artifice that gets between you and what you really want. It can prevent you from doing what you know is right. It can keep you from asking for help. It can block empathy and make you seem cold and uncaring. It can keep you from happiness because pride is a hard substitue for love and people have been known to sacrifice many things in the name of pride.
So, I would advise swallowing your pride. It's difficult at first, but gets easier with practice. Decide what you really want. Decide what is really important. Persue those things. You miss your friend. You still want your friend in your life. Tell your friend just that. It may not work out, but YOU will have left the door open to renewing the friendship. And it will give you more inner-peace in the end.
2006-09-07 08:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by EC-S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are talking about sounds more like just being stubborn. Pride is important but don't use it as an excuse to not speak to a friend first after an argument. If you were wrong then you need to take responsibility for it. If she was wrong then it still needs to be talked about instead of being made worse with silence. Does it really matter who brings it up first? Maintain your friendship and quit pouting or brooding alone.
2006-09-07 08:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by spiderspell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all. . . stop trying to please everyone. . . . you need to please yourself. Second. . . don't ever stop having pride. . .but don't let it stand in the way. . . . There is no right or wrong answer as to how much or when you need to maintain your pride. As you go through life. . .you will get a feel for when and when not to protect your pride. Just remember however. . . the great philosopher Confucious once said. . "Lady with too much pride. . . ends up home alone diddling".. Keep that in mind!
2006-09-07 08:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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if someone walked up to me and told me i was the coolest dude that walked the earth, i would suspect a trap if someone walked up to me and told me i was the scum of the earth, i would suspect a trap. pride for the sake of pride will lead to ruin for one simple reason. if you lose perspective of the fact that the whole world as a corporate body is out to take everything you have, you will be fed upon by the vultures that lie in wait. pride generally blinds the person who has it to the fact that there are others out there who appear like columbo of TV fame who is a simpleton, and not aware of his own existance. Then he suddenly re-appears and arrests them. it is similar with pride. a person can think they have the world by the tail and that everyone has no skill to take from you for you see all angles. pride could be a sin, though i do not know a single verse of scripture that i could directly tie to it being a sin. Proverbs, which is a book of wisdom alerts the reader that pride causes a fall, but beyond that, i do not know of any "sin" verse to call on. humility is not someone saying, "i'm no one, i'm nothing" humility is knowing who you are and being greatful for what you have, looks, intelligence, friends, good counselors or in my case, a good dog. you, strike me as someone who knows who you are and where you want to go and you have a purpose and plan to get you there. there is no evil or sin in that. quite the contrary. if you were like some i am aquainted with, who use others and mop the floor with the bodies of those who can not defend themselves, then i would be concerned for you. from your questions, i don't see any pride in you, only determination which is different. I do not know what has turned you to steel, but you are very strong, and yet in your weakness you retain much mercy. a rare person in life to be sure.
2016-03-26 23:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pride will only mess you up not billed you up.why an why you want to be so pride full for you will only loose forturn not gain.you tick someone off an they can be really really sorry.you dont no what that person have to offer.pride to me like your made at your self n nobody eles.to tell you the turth
2013-10-16 06:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pride comes before distruction!!! You can change it by the next time you get in a fight call first. It means you are the bigger person if you are able to do so. Pride can only hurt you.
2006-09-07 08:25:18 · answer #9 · answered by womanofthefire80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too much of everything is bad, and that includes pride. I know a few who got choked on it. try this. If "pride" starts acting, face a mirror, (really, a mirror) and with a mocking thought, ask "what do I get with this besides adding another string of pride on my chest?"
2006-09-07 08:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by Liwayway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋