How do I make rejection not hurt so much?

Question

I already have low self esteem, don't ask me why, long story. But how do i get over being rejected for a job? or jobs? And how do I learn to be happy and be able to multi-task so that I can accomplish the goals my parents set for me?

and I know this is alot to ask, but if you could help this would be greatly appreciated!

Answer 1

Rejection hurts. And if you have low self esteem, it will hurt more. You need to work on your self esteem. Work on yourself and everything else will follow. You might want to start with saying positive self affirmations each day. Try finding some reading that will help with your self esteem. Good Luck!!!

Answer 2

I understand what you mean. When I was looking for a job when the economy was in a big downturn after 9/11...it was very depressing. BUT, I kept going and applying and trying my best. I know its difficult. After about 2 years of searching, I did get an offer.

In fact, I am looking for new job again..and rejection is never easy to bear. I try to keep myself busy and make sure to search job listings everyday. That way, I know I am still actively trying. I try to prepare for interviews and keep hope alive. It is sometimes easy to take it personally if a company does reject you after making you wait about 3 weeks after the interview..(which has happened to me). The best advice is to keep trying..and believing..after all they are missing out on a great candidate...which you have to believe you are.

Learning to be happy is sometimes separate from accomplishing the goals your parents set for you. As you get older and mature, you realize sometimes that your happiness does not coincide with your parents' expectations. Just go with what you feel..and what gives you happiness. Multi-tasking is like any other skill..it takes practice...with more work experience, you will be able to do it.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Jobs are just a business. You didn't get the job because someone more qualified got it. It's not your fault so don't take it personally. If you quit a job, they don't start crying because you quit, they just replace you. So just apply for another job, you weren't meant to work for them.

Put all of your tasks in a day calender, once it's in a time slot you can't forget about it, complete the task and cross it off, on to the next task.

Happy comes from the inside. Just smile and eventually people will be smiling with you and you'll both be happy. Ever hang out with someone having a bad day and that brings you down too? Same goes with happiness!! Cheer up, and good luck!!

Answer 4

Getting rejected for a job is a very common thing. Just try not to take it too personal. Try to think positive, like it is their lost that they don't wanna hire you.. or you got rejected because there are better jobs out there for you... Just don't give up, keep trying. Remember, being confidence can be really helpful during the interview.

You will never be happy if you try to accomplish the goals set for you by others. They think is best for you... but sometime they are wrong. Only you know what is best for you. You will be happy once you know what is your own goals. You will be happy once you accomplish your own goals.

"It is not rejection itself that people fear, it is the possible consequences of rejection. Preparing to accept those consequences and viewing rejection as a learning experience that will bring you closer to success, will not only help you to conquer the fear of rejection, but help you to appreciate rejection itself. " - Bo Bennett

Answer 5

When you go to a job interview, be as relaxed as possible. Have a good idea of what you're going to say. Have faith that you're going to get the job no matter what throughout the interview. But, also have at least one back-up plan (possibly another interview) so that you don't feel too bad if you're rejected. I have low self esteem myself, but I don't worry about getting rejected during job interviews, so I hope this method works for you too.

As for multitasking, that's a skill you have to develop, and some people have more trouble with it than others. If you struggle with it more than you think you should, try applying for jobs that don't require much multitasking.

Answer 6

If you'd remember that God made you in the first place (and He doesn't make mistakes...!), you'd be getting your self-esteem from the right Source...
Pray and ask God to show you something you're good at and build on it...
As for happiness...? Try helping others out: see a need, fill a need...
As for your parents, just do your best and communicate... Let them know how you feel and what's going on in your life... They were kids once too, and will probably be able to give you a different perspective on things...

Answer 7

well first of all make a principal of life, " allways expect the unexpected and hope for the best".
never put too much dreams with any thing or any one.
By profession i am sales manager, and my experience teach me that after every 9-no , comes 1-YES.
so when you got regected .. be happy you are more near to success and achievement.
and also learn to say "NO".

Answer 8

Read Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers. The book discusses fears and how to get pass them.

btw, you are not alone with the job process and judging yourself through others' eyes. You just have to keep plugging away.

Answer 9

see to tell you the truth rejection or failure is One step CLoser to Success each failur taught you something.....and try to learn from it...and never commit the same mistake again... don't worry about jobs they are plenty out there but remember only the deserving candidaes gets themmm not the losers... i have my personal experience try thinking if you don't get a job that "SOMETHING more good and better is waiting for you dear"""" do tell me when you got ur job i would love to hear from you......

Answer 10

As long as you know that it is not personal and that everyone goes through it, it will get easier the more times it happens.