No friends in high school, can someone help?

Question

I am currently a sophomore in High School and I am sad to say that I really don't have any friends. Ever since about 7th grade I always wanted to have friends but I probably have gotten about a few (some who've moved and some that don't talk to me anymore) I have like one friend who I hang out with after school sometimes.. but I am extremely sad. I see everyone else with their friends and talking to each other about stuff but I'm always left out. I want a girlfriend and hey I am actually good looking, and I wonder why girls aren't nicer to me (I am good looking). I try to have a good personality, I just seem left out. Can someone help me on making friends and possibly a girlfriend. I've been in need of friends for a long time and I need it to happen soon. Anyone who can answer I would greatly appreciate it.

Answer 1

Dude, nobody wants to be your friend if you have a gray smily face. The yellow smily face dude gets all the friends.

My suggestion: try cash, because it seems like your personality isn't cutting the mustard.

Answer 2

Man, I'm 24 and everything is great, but I was a carbon copy of ya in high school. Seemed that the unpopular kids were the coolest and everone else was just in clicks.

Few things I've learned:

Dont change who you are for others, people are immature in highschool and when you grow up you realize that those dorks were actually the cool kids and the cool kids, well some, are now the screw ups.

Also, everthing is so about clicks, when you get older that dosen't matter, some of the coolest people I know now ( and popular now) were over looked in high school

Don't try and be cool, hang out with who ever you get along with whether it be a nerd or what, dosent' matter. Talk to girls... that hard maybe at your age, but some real good things to know....

Girls are people too, they don't want the guy that hitting on them, all guys do, they want someone who they match with. all in all dont try to impress, you can with achievments, but don't act like your there pet.

Be a good friend to them, that's what they want,

Befriend a dorky girl, ugly...whatever.

You doing so will bring you in the circle of other girls and show them that your more mature then the rest of the boys.

Getting past friendship is a skill you will develope. But again the path is a passive aggresive one. Be patient and good things will come.

You can play sports that may help
Don't expect anyone to approach you, you make your own fate and create your own circumstances.

You have to realize that this is a time in life that most guys/girls have depression. Keep your head up, make the most of your time now so that when your older you can look back and be proud or rather content with your jr/ high and highschool days.

Girls probably do think your cute, they hide it well.
I had hunches but after high school I was surprised of how many girls actually were thinking " ya he's hot"



SOME PEOPLE HAVE NATURALLY ANTISEDUCTIVE PERSOALITY. WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO IS PICK OUT AND ISOLATE ANTISEDUCIVE TRAITS, PHASE THEM OUT AND WORK ON YOUR POSITIVE TRAITS, THERE ARE MANY BOOKS ON THIS ... READ ONE, MIGHT BE EYE OPENING.

Self confidence is very attractive, find a hobby and really try to get you head out of the gutter, your a cool guy, you know it and in time they will too.

Answer 3

First, your looks, whether good or bad, have nothing to do with friendships. It's all about your character.

I have lived my whole life with very few friends, and I don't mind, but when I do make a connection with someone, it's for life.

Are you involved in activities at your school, do you do art/play music/sports, other hobby like things that are group activities?

Commonalities are what drive us together. If you are sitting next to a group having a conversation and someone says something funny or interesting and you have an opinion, chime in, give an opinion, something to contribute. Say hi more often to people you somewhat know, make an effort. Don't just fall into a hole of depression and waiting for a spotlight to just suddenly shine on you. You can't be seen or heard if you're just waiting for perfect moments.

Really, you don't want a lot of friends, you want a few close ones, and not just acquaintances, which is what most of what you see is. Classmates who communicate a lot doesn't mean a friendship.

And girls? Well, I'll let a guy answer that for you, I like the quiet and shy ones already!

Answer 4

Perhaps this will help you - good luck!

SOFTEN. This word can help your make friends. An acronym (each letter stands for something) created by psychologist Arthur C. Wassmer, Ph.D, author of Making Contact, SOFTEN will remind you to:

Smile. "Smiling says I enjoy being with you," says Dr. Wassmer. "It's a voluntary act. Anyone can do it."

Open Posture. Let your body say your want to be friends. Uncross your arms and legs. The more open your posture, the more welcoming.

Forward Lean. If your lean toward people, they get the message that you're interested in them and they'll like your for it.

Touch. Touch is one of the most powerful nonverbal ways of communicating. Try shaking hands with two hands. Or, pat your friend on the back.

Eye Contact. Another potent way to express interest, attention and respect.

Nod. People love it when you nod when they're talking. It doesn't mean you agree, just that you're attentive.

If you're shy, practicing these behaviors will eventually change how your feel, says Dr. Wassmer. And if your find it hard to make friends, he suggests that you try thinking of other people not as demanding, but as needy. "People want just what your want," says Dr. Wassmer; "a little love, a little attention, a little gentleness. Think of yourself as a powerful giver of gifts."

(From Emotional Health, by Myron Brenton and the Editors of Prevention Magazine, Pub.—Rodale Press, Emmaus, Pennsylvania, 1985, p 76)

Answer 5

thats a tough year, this is what worked wonders over herrre, ggetting involved!!!! is one of th emost imrtant things you could do. sports a band, a social club (places have those), Im sure your school offers additional clubs that suit you.
Relax, talk to the peole next to you in ur classrooms, or ask for help from someone, maybe theyll loosen up once you start talkin.
as for meeting girls, just be nice to them , talk, but dont seem like u just want them, be their friend first, and see what happens from there.
It'll probably help that ur good looking, but if you want to be happy, find a girl who likes you the way you are sounds stupid I KNOW, but trust me on this k? good luck to u this year and have fun in school, these are some of the best days in life, live em up
bye!

Answer 6

Hey trust me on this, you not as good looking as you think you are, and I'll tell you why. If there is one thing girls in h/s do is notice the good looking guys and they have the balls to approach them or at least have their friends do it for them. Of course their may be hope for you yet, you could have potential i don't know can't see ya so take a good look in the mirror and check out your hair color and style, your clothing, the way your wearing your clothing, are they style. Next how's your hygiene, teeth brushed, assuming you have them, body odor, nails/hair cleaned. Any skin problems. Once you are sure all these are taken care of you wont have anymore problems.

Answer 7

Actually when i didn't have friends in my years of high school (I just got out) I didn't care and all of a sudden my soul mate popped up outta nowhere, and i didn't know i was actually popular. But it was all because i didn't worry about it. If you think about it all the time you'll find yourself trying too hard 'til the point where it's outta reach. It really does happen when you don't expect it. It really does.

Answer 8

listen don't wait for people to talk to you ,you talk to people .man you say your so good looking but sometimes looks don't get the girl your attitude does . you are a good person so maybe you could be a little nicer,cooler, and smarter .best of luck. been there done that so i know where you're coming from.

Answer 9

I know what you are talking about, I am too! I go to Plainwell High School in Kalamazoo, MI. It really sucks, it was the same way my first few days, but you need to try to just start talking to people, you would be suprized how many people have the same intresets as you...good luck!

Answer 10

hey, im a sophmore too! like you, in 7th grade and 8th grade, i really didn't have alot of friends and i didn't talk alot to other kids. but at the end of 9th grade, i changed and now i even talk to random people. you cant just have a good personality, but u need to really accept other kids and make jokes and stuff. ur personality should be fun and easy to get along!! As for getting a girlfried, first treat girls as if their ur friends and just talk to them! later, u'll see what it leads to.

Answer 11

You should get involved in clubs & organizations. High school is a b*tch. I didn't have many friends in high school either. You need to join a club or sport that interests you so that you can meet people that have something in common with you.

Just remember: Life after high school gets much much better.