WIfe was slim, tan and toned for the honeymoon. A few years later she's chunky and doing nothing about it. No, I did NOT become a slob - same weight, same build. Don't recommend that we both work out. I do not want to. Unfortunately, she hangs out with heavy people who EAT and EAT and EAT. Help me!
2006-09-07 08:16:14 · 34 answers · asked by ? 4 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
Absolutely no SEX!!! None not until she can keep her piehole shut. I do not understand women who "chunk up" after the wedding ceremony. It screams "I got what I want(you) so now I am going to eat what I want!!" It also says she could care less about you, if she did she would want to be as gorgeous as possible for you.
Let me ask you, did she have longer hair for the wedding and then chop it all off after?Typical ...
2006-09-07 08:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by neelyohara2004 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-08-16 04:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want her to lose weight, so that she will be more healthy and feel more confident or is it really for you, so you won't have to feel ashamed, so you will find her sexy still? Did you marry her because you loved her or because she was 'slim, tan and toned'?
Just encourage her to be healthy, exercise with her, go jogging or clycing together and maybe cook her a healthy romantic meal once in a while. But be supportive, any kind of bashing will just make her eat more and she will probably end up seeing you as the enemy, rather than being helpful. The last think you want is for her to lose weight and then dump you for a better model, so treat her like a princess! Good luck : )
2006-09-07 09:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, all these people's answer SUCK! No offense, but hey c'mon don't be mean, remember, what goes around comes around. Ok what you can do is tell her you want go on another honeymoon with her, and remind her on how beautiful she once looked (not being mean). Just sit down and tell her you love her no matter what, and that you don't care she has gained weight. Tell her that she needs to stay healthy because you don't want to lose her at an early age. Pleed with her. Working out isn't that bad, start off playing a sport, like maybe tennis. Then start to walk around blocks, and then start jogging. Eat healthier, tell her NO MORE JUNK FOOD!! That goes for you too!!! If you want to help her, set a good example. Or if that doesn't work, you yourself start to work out, and she will see the difference in you, and she will want to do the same, because she's going to see a man in good shape, and she's going to see herself as a blob. You have to sacrifice too man!! Just try it, and i promise you it will work, but start like NOW!!!
2006-09-07 08:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by Arnie T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on! I bet you are the same way...Probably a big fat couch potato... your blatant denial is all the proof I need! Why don't YOU start cooking healthy meals, bring her flowers, and take her out on long walks?
I think the reason she is heavy is because you make her feel bad and she takes comfort in food. She should be your goddess, no matter how big she is. If you make her FEEL beautiful by telling her everyday that she's beatiful and sexy then she won't need her heavy friends or the food she eats to comfort her. You'll be the only comfort she needs, and she you.
HAPPY WIFE, HAPPY LIFE....Get a clue!
2006-09-07 08:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by MatM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is not comment about it. You should try getting her out of the house. Go for walks with her or ask her to do other activities that will get her up and moving and burning calories. Another thing is get all the junk food out of the house. If it takes YOU having to go to the grocery store and buying healthy food then so be it. But you shouldn't complain about it. You are married now, in sickness and health... in fat and skinny...haha.
As for her friends. Just try spending more time with her and once she loses the weight maybe that will give her encouragement not to eat all those fatty foods when she is with her friends.
2006-09-07 08:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by LB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to set the example and push this for a "health" standpoint. Suggest walks around the block after dinner. Show her the latest obesity information (there's a ton of it on the net now) and how that affects your health down the road. Tell her about how much harder your heart has to work when you're carrying around more weight. Tell her about the stress on her joints. If it means that much to you, you might have to start working out with her...it's understandable, so many women stop taking care of themselves once they're married and with us men being such visual people, this is a tough pill to swallow.
2006-09-07 08:23:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife you love her and care about her. She can eat all she wants but tell her you want to live with her for long time and if she doesn't control her weight she is going to have alot of health problems in the future , some that cannot be cured. I know its easy for me to tell you this but its hard to talk about it but still try. Tell her about the women on TLC channel who weighted 650 lbs and could not even sit in her home. I am sure if she cares for your feelings she will try to do something. Ask her to go to her doctor and get diet pills that will not make her hungry. Good luck
2006-09-07 09:02:20 · answer #8 · answered by gurleen21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you can not "make" anyone lose weight but you can help them to. Try speaking with her and letting her know that her weight is a concern with you...she really might not know that it is a "problem", just be careful how you word it as with anything wrong with someone when worded incorrectly this could really hurt/damage your relationship as well as her self image/esteem. Suggest some of the things she/you could do...not just exercise but what are your eating patterns like...making dinner earlier etc..and just remember what you say will last the duration of your marriage
2006-09-07 08:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by lisa a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend actually gained a lot of weight after she got married. i noticed that she started eating food that's really bad for her. to top it all, she stopped working out. it's going to be their two year anniversary soon and she gained about 30 pounds since they got married. lately, her husband politely said that she's gained weight and that she should start exercising to be healthier. she did get pissed off at first but realized her husband was right....
anywhooooo...just try to tell your wife politely that she doesn't look healthy. tell her that you want to spend the rest of your life with her and want to make sure that you both live long. maybe that will help.
btw, my friend has been working out with me and i'm seeing that she's slowly losing the weight.
2006-09-07 08:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋