I wanna have a baby but. .?

Question

but the problem is that my hubby is due to go overseas in January. My dilema is I want his baby, what if something happens to him over there and I will never be able to bear his child. The other side is I want him to experience the pregnancy and birth with me. I was just wondering what everyone thought or if anyone was in the same situation. No rude comments please♥

Answer 1

im sorry to hear that, i know its sad .but.i think u should, cuz u would have a part of him too!!! wish u luck!!!

Answer 2

I was in that exact situation. Luckily my husband was only gone 5 months (that time). So he got home in enough time to be with me through the hardest part of the pregnancy, and the birth. I don't think I could have done it without him. I would do it now, if I thought he'd be back in time for the birth. I'm assuming it's his first too. I've never seen THAT look on my husband's face before then, or since. That look of him seeing his child be born. I wouldn't want him to miss it.

Answer 3

Has he deployed before? Have you ever suffered from depression before? My husband has been away from me for 6 months, serving our country. It took many deployments and alot of years before I could cope with him being gone and me not getting depressed. If you have never gone through a deployment before, then I'd strongly suggest you not get pregnant right now. Its hard to miss him and deal with hormonal changes at the same time. If you have done this before, then how did you do emotionally? You know what you are capable of. Could you be happy or would you be sad because he's missing so much? My husband wasn't there for an entire pregnancy, birth, and first year until our third child. It was hard, but we did ok. But postpartum depression kicked my butt several times. It was very hard, I won't lie to you. What does he think about all this? Do you think you'ld be ok to single parent this until he gets home? Because if you have a hard pregnancy, delivery, depression,or sick baby, then that would distract him from his job. If he's too distracted he would be more likely to get hurt. You know your mental health. You know how you deal with stress and lonliness. Only you and your husband can really decide. Just decide together, ok?

Answer 4

Hey, I am a navy wife. This is a hard one. It is really hard work to be alone and you have a lot to consider. I would really sit down and talk about it, remember the life you want did not ask to be here. Put that baby first and if it means waiting until he returns then wait.
I wish more women would actually think about what they are doing before they conceive.
Good luck, remember keep the child's considerations at #1.

Answer 5

If you want to have a baby then go for it. He will be here for the early months and he will be ablt to come home once your baby is born. I was in the situaton but the only difference ismy husband was there for the whole pregnancy but left when she was 2months. He has been back and forward for 4 years now. So he has missed alot but there is always email,web cam. There is ways and just look at it as a blessing. God forbid something happens but if so you will have your baby to carry on your husbands name.

Answer 6

Right now I'm pregnant and my hubby is in boot camp. After he gets done his job training I am looking forward to the 2 weeks he has off. I hope that he will be around when the baby is born/ me going into labor. The point is your not alone if you do become pregnant, there are other mommys that have their men in some part of the service.

Answer 7

I would wait until he gets back for 2 reasons...on one hand your right, you should want him around to experience it with you. Secondly if he does die over there then his baby will be brought up without a father and although he died in a noble way its still really hard to raise a child by yourself. My brothers wife was in the same situation and i gave her the same advice...and my brother did also..he made it home ok..she just had to be patient and hope and pray that he made it home ok...but my brother was really glad to experience the birth and process with her rather then having a baby already born when he got back.

Answer 8

My cousin has been in Iraq for the last 2 years. He was home for a month in January and he and his wife conceived during that time. I think that is a very scary situation, but I don't blame them for wanting to have a baby.

If you have family close to you who can help support you, then don't be afraid of being alone. No one can replace a husband but a sister or mother can be a huge help emotionally. Just be sure to tell your family right away that you are going to need their support. They can't read your mind and might feel like you'd be upset if they tried to step in and help.

Answer 9

There are pluses and negatives to both sides. I think you should talk about it with your husband and see what your "life plans" are and which would be better for you as a family. Good luck to you! By the way, if you do try to have a baby now and will be pregnant while he is away, make sure you are near family and friends to be supportive in his absense!

Answer 10

That's a tricky question. You need to sit down and think about his feelings too. Talk to him. Would he rather have a child now and miss the pregnancy and birth or possibly have to adopt in the future?

I've never been in your situation since my DH works installing Autoglass but I feel for you.

This is really something we can't help you with, you need to sit down and talk to your husband.

Good luck and good luck to your husband also.

Answer 11

If you are prepared to go through it alone & raise a child alone and know that it will never know it's Father, then go for it. You can't have it both ways babe. If he's away, then he can't go through it with you and he may never come back! You can think you will be prepared to raise a kid alone, but you won't realize how hard it is til it's to late! I would wait..but that's just me. He does not need to worry about you being pg while he is away either!